Neighbors daughter peed on my couch :(

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t say anything. I don’t see the point.

Honestly has your couch never been peed on or puked on before? Just clean it and air out the room.

Next time the girl is over (if you have her again- your choice of course) remind her to use the restroom regularly.

Just the type of stuff that happens with small kids IMO

That is such a weird question. I have had my couch for ten years and have three kids - no, my couch has never been peed or puked on.... now, my kids’ beds and my bed when bedsharing? Sure, but only ever with waterproof mattress pads I’m so the actual mattress didn’t get anything on it like OP’s couch has.

I would 100% say something to the other parents and I would not have her over inside the house without pull-ups going forward.

[Anonymous]

Not unusual at all! I have a now 8 year old girl who is perfect iin every way except she's had accidents from time to time -- even recently -- when she holds it and forgets to go. Last time was on a family bike trip. She was sooo embarrassed just in front of us family! I was pretty mad, but there was no point in humiliating her. Sometimes kids just ignore the signs that they have to go really badly -- or they resent it. She had accidents more often up until 6, but NEVER at night? strange, isn't it?

I second the PP above who said use Nature's miracle. It will remove the smell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My Next door neighbors have a 6 year old daughter and she and my 6 year old son have been playing quite a bit outside during quarantine. We formed a pod with this family and two other family’s to oversee elearning next school year. Since we formed the pod we have allowed our kids to play together more, including inside. Over the weekend I noticed the girl definitely had an accident since her shorts were wet over her bottom. The next day we noticed our living room couch was really wet, all the way through the cushions to the bottom of the couch. Since then it has started reeling of urine. I have a carpet cleaning thing similar to something you can rent at the grocery store, and I used it to clean the couch but it still smells. I bought a few special cleaners meant to remove pet urine and I will use those and hopefully the smell will go away. I am debating if I should say anything to my neighbors. They have mentioned that she tends to have accidents. I don’t want to embarrass her or make it weird with them, but I’m also weary now that this girl is going to be in my house when we start the pod during g the school year. Any thoughts on whether I should say anything? Also tips on how to get rid of the smell would be appreciated!

Use Simple Solution or Nature's Miracle, from pet stores, to fully get rid of the odor.

No need to say something to the family.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand all the responses of say nothing. The child urinated on your furniture, and has wet pants.

I would gently inform the parents (without the child within earshot) about what happened. She has had a few accidents at my house, I just want you to know. Then you let them know after each incident. If my child were peeing on your sofa, I would want to know so I could try to figure out why.

Kids that age can also hold it in too long and forget to use the potty. I would create a potty and snack break for them. Go use the bathroom and then come to the kitchen for a snack. Then they can go back to playing. Also let the child know she can use your restroom any time she needs it. She may think she's not allowed to. Who knows, she is 6. But you'd better address it before school starts.

[Anonymous]

The neighbor may have instructed their daughter not to use your restroom and instead come home to use the bathroom because this is Covid-19 and they are trying to be a little distant.

[Anonymous]

AS usual DCUM gets it wrong.

This is not personal. This is not about shaming your parenting or you child.

Is OP just supposed to pay for extra cleanings every week? Just deal with pee accidents all over he house until she gets frustrated? Is she just supposed to guess how many reminders/ breaks this girl needs?

The parents are aware of this issue, and casually mentioned it to OP. OP should talk to mom about what strategies she uses to help her daughter have more success.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First of all, OP, you are not weary, you are leery. You will be weary if it happens again!

And I would mention it. Or keep her on wood chairs or outside.

I think she means "wary."

weary/wary = lose/loose to a lot of people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First of all, OP, you are not weary, you are leery. You will be weary if it happens again!

And I would mention it. Or keep her on wood chairs or outside.

Wary works too (better, actually).

+1

Not a fan of leery

[Anonymous]

Get two gallons of natures miracle and soak the whole area.

[Anonymous]

Hahahahaha!

I hope she pees on all your furniture.

Serves you right for having a pod when the kids can’t even go in person to school.

Urine house.

You are so screwed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t say anything. I don’t see the point.

Honestly has your couch never been peed on or puked on before? Just clean it and air out the room.

Next time the girl is over (if you have her again- your choice of course) remind her to use the restroom regularly.

Just the type of stuff that happens with small kids IMO

That is such a weird question. I have had my couch for ten years and have three kids - no, my couch has never been peed or puked on.... now, my kids’ beds and my bed when bedsharing? Sure, but only ever with waterproof mattress pads I’m so the actual mattress didn’t get anything on it like OP’s couch has.

I would 100% say something to the other parents and I would not have her over inside the house without pull-ups going forward.

You are the second person who has suggested shaming a six year old by insisting on pull-ups because of an accident. Appalling.

[Anonymous]

I think that kid’s parents have balls of steel for thinking it’s ok to send their accident prone kid over to pee on their neighbor’s furniture and to make a stupid pod where this will be an issue all year. And didn’t they notice her wet pants...they didn’t think to tell you she peed on your couch? Or even worse, they didn’t notice?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t say anything. I don’t see the point.

Honestly has your couch never been peed on or puked on before? Just clean it and air out the room.

Next time the girl is over (if you have her again- your choice of course) remind her to use the restroom regularly.

Just the type of stuff that happens with small kids IMO

WTF??? No, my couch has never been peed on before! It hasn’t been puked on either! This is not normal!!!

- mom of 3 kids

[Anonymous]

A six year old is way too big to be having accidents like this...

OP needs to say something to the parents. What’s your plan going to be when it’s winter and the kids want to play indoors? You have a 6 year old that’s not potty trained... Apparently saying anything is shaming the girl. So, is OP supposed to get used to her living room smelling like a latrine? That’s too high a price for participating in a pod. Personally, I’d back out, or at least never host at my house.

[Anonymous]

Nanny here.

I had one charge who was still doing this at 9. Due to constant dehydration (her answer to the issue, which only made it worse), the clothing spots turned browns after the second or third time, no matter what I used or how much I scrubbed.

OP, I would suggest talking to her mom about ways that they try to help her. Be aware that her mom may really have no answers. We tried having the child try every hour, limited fluids, pushed fluids, everyone tried to go, etc. Ped and urologist both had no answers other than to make sure she drank enough to no longer be dehydrated and to decrease the smell.

We did pinpoint that it was more likely to happen if she was outside, very involved in what she was doing and/or was very emotional. When it happened outside, it was usually en route to coming in to go, but she just didn’t make it in time. For the other two, she sometimes didn’t even notice it happened.

She outgrew it as she hit puberty. And as PP said, she’s one of the rare kids that never wet the bed after giving up day and night diapers at the same time.