How did the kid or her mom know that she was in the top 5%? Is this something the school communicates? |
Not PP, but I have a DS who's about to graduate from HM. They share that information with the families during the college application process. I have heard of some kids being discouraged from applying to "unlikely" colleges based on their stats . . . they have their own school-specific database that goes back a few years that informs them on odds of admission. But that being said, students are still "supported" if they choose an "unlikely" at any point in the process, and someone in the top 5% at HM probably would at least have "reach" chances at any school. |
That's what I was thinking. Just trying to imagine this conversation: hi, your child is in the top 5% of our grade, please don't apply to an Ivy. That said, I heard that they don't like too many reaches and (strongly?) discourage more than 3. |
| I don’t want to say, because it was something someone said to me at a kid’s birthday party, but it was a decent non-Ivy school where they ended up, not a big name but fine. At my kids’ TT, a teacher told me to check where the richest parents in my daughter’s class went to school, and if my heart was set on one of those schools, to transfer. My kid was in second grade, and one particular college was never my goal in the first place, so I just smiled and nodded, but it is really common knowledge in these places that the college admissions office horse trades you according to both their and the college’s bottom line. |
I’ve been through this twice. One kid at hyp other at ivy plus. College counselor job is to manage expectations. Message both times was apply if you want but odds are against you. |
They want to balance out the college lists, so they do guide the kids to choose a range of reaches, targets, and likelies. I have no idea what transpired with PP's friend's niece, and it's pointless to speculate through that many levels of hearsay anyway. |
Yes, we know your kid is/was at Brearley. Your posts are easy to spot. |
It’s remarkable how easy it is to spot her tone and writing. |
Makes sense. At TT the richest parents have $$$ to donate for buildings and stuff for colleges. So if your heart is set on that school it’s going to be hard. I think that’s true at Brearley or any TT. Whi talks to their second grade teacher about college. Wierd. |
And how many people seek her out to share the terrible secrets of private school college admissions . . . at kids' birthday parties just this afternoon, in her DD's second grade classroom . . . they really want her to spread the word! |
NP: Yeah. You're the big winner. Congratulations. If I am following this you have advertised your total inferiority complex. And let someone else live rent free in your head (while you are living rent free in theirs). Take down your Harvard degree and put up the special plaque you will earn for this big occasion. FFS. |
I chuckled at the second grade teacher story. I have kids at the school and know all those second grade teachers and just can't imagine any of them talking like this about the school (even if they thought it), or frankly even talking about college at all to a parent of a second grader. What would even prompt something like that? |
There's only one of us who's rattled enough by this exchange to stoop to personal insults and it's not me. |
Please stop. You are cluttering this discussion. No one cares. Your need to get the last word is childish. |
I know you are but what am I? |