Class of '26 Instagram College Decisions

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bullies are usually the most damaged ones in a group of children and have poor life outcomes no matter where they go to college. Picking on other kids is usually a cry for help, and if it’s ignored, the kid ends up socially isolated. I felt and feel bad for the kid who bullied my daughter. So did my daughter and her friends, but they don’t go near her because it always backfires. Wishing pain on any kid, even the kid of a truly terrible mother like me, is not very nice, yes, but it’s also pretty childish and stupid. You don’t agree with me okay, but engage with the substance of the argument or don’t — which is that a lot of Ivy League offer from these places go to kids who are prodigies or connected or have some sort of insane talent (state champion athlete), so it’s hard to know how much of a boost the school’s name gives to an application. If your kid isn’t a prodigy or well-connected (which a fair amount of kids are one or the other, if not both at these places), it’s not a comparison that makes tons of sense for someone who is not, and using it as a metric for the quality of education at a place vs how kids do on ERBs from year to year or how the kids do at those schools once they are admitted is kind of a waste of time.

"Wishing pain on any kid, even the kid of a truly terrible mother like me, is not very nice, yes, but it’s also pretty childish and stupid." do you forget the insults and comments you have made about kids in this thread and across the forum. please.

and i am not calling you a terrible mother - just a terrible person for putting down an entire school of kids.

and we have tried to engage with you on the substance of the argument - but your refusing to acknowledge that 90% of B kids end up at really great schools. You seem to just keep referring back to the incorrect point that these girls are all well connected, legacies etc and didn't deserve their placements.

I really doubt if your daughter wasn't forced to leave due to bullying if you would be making these same comments. I doubt it. My guess is you would be out there bragging to the entire world that your daughter goes to a great prep school and is attending an Ivy league school.

at the end of the day, i have no connection to Brearley. It was not right for our daughter. But doesn't mean what you say is nice or fair or correct.

[Anonymous]

I am not Brearley mom, I have DC at another city private, I have no connection to of the girl schools, and you who pick at and freak at that mother are a hell of a lot worse than she is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not Brearley mom, I have DC at another city private, I have no connection to of the girl schools, and you who pick at and freak at that mother are a hell of a lot worse than she is.

i guess i have been sympathetic to her daughter's plight but the constant negative comments about the girls at the school just got to me.

i actually didn't mind her commentary on the school administration, that's fair game.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are a ton of great schools on that list, I totally agree, but the parents and kids tend to fixate on the Ivy League as the bright shiny trophy they are there to win. I always ask why do you want to go to Yale? Is there a program, just to get them thinking about something other than the bumper sticker.

LOL, my kid - at Yale - had a neighbor asked that. "Now were you interested in Yale because of Rory Gillmore .. or an actual academic reason HAHAHAHA" and my kid said, "Because they gave me more money than any other school, by a lot. Plus actual academic reasons".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not Brearley mom, I have DC at another city private, I have no connection to of the girl schools, and you who pick at and freak at that mother are a hell of a lot worse than she is.

i guess i have been sympathetic to her daughter's plight but the constant negative comments about the girls at the school just got to me.

i actually didn't mind her commentary on the school administration, that's fair game.

You are mean as hell. If your kid had been bullied you’d feel differently. You and too many others here have no empathy whatsoever for anyone - anyone - and you police her as if the HOS or a girl at that school is poring over this board and would be hurt. Please grow up.

[Anonymous]

Thanks, but I don’t need the defense, I am okay. They all go to great colleges, so why make percentages of it in the first place or compare Horace Mann to Trinity. I am not criticizing the girls, I am criticizing a parent community that makes a fetish of college admissions rather than the quality of the education. I’m sure some of the girls who are incredible brainiacs or talented athletes a would prefer their admission be credited to their individual abilities and work ethic rather than credited to their high school. Some of them may feel it didn’t support them at all, I am sure it runs the gamut.

[Anonymous]

Also, I am not from the northeast and had never heard of these prep schools before I was in my thirties. I do not nor have I ever liked the culture of bragging at these schools or these colleges. So you got in, now what — what you do with your opportunity is what I am impressed with. If I was that invested in these places, I would have put up with my kid being bullied and stayed. Plenty do.

[Anonymous]

I believe myself to have mainly criticized these schools for not enforcing their own rules when it comes to bullying and for chasing unproven educational trends. I have also criticized parents for never pushing back even when they disagree - rather than questioning a new math curriculum, they hire tutors, rather than complain about the weak sauce humanities curriculum, they whisper about it behind closed doors. I may have mentioned being taken aback by just how UES the parent community was at the girls schools, how invested they were in supper clubs, etc, but I can’t remember ever saying all that much about the kids other than some of their connections may have put them on the top of a very large pile and if you aren’t connected in that way, you can’t count on that extra boost for your kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not Brearley mom, I have DC at another city private, I have no connection to of the girl schools, and you who pick at and freak at that mother are a hell of a lot worse than she is.

i guess i have been sympathetic to her daughter's plight but the constant negative comments about the girls at the school just got to me.

i actually didn't mind her commentary on the school administration, that's fair game.

You are mean as hell. If your kid had been bullied you’d feel differently. You and too many others here have no empathy whatsoever for anyone - anyone - and you police her as if the HOS or a girl at that school is poring over this board and would be hurt. Please grow up.

We had a child bullied for a short period of time, twice at different schools. 5th grade. We had it addressed by speaking to the parents and the school. Could it have been handled better, yes in one case, no in another case. So we understand her issue - but that doesn't mean I would insult all the kids that go to the school.

She doesn't deserve empathy given how she talks about kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks, but I don’t need the defense, I am okay. They all go to great colleges, so why make percentages of it in the first place or compare Horace Mann to Trinity. I am not criticizing the girls, I am criticizing a parent community that makes a fetish of college admissions rather than the quality of the education. I’m sure some of the girls who are incredible brainiacs or talented athletes a would prefer their admission be credited to their individual abilities and work ethic rather than credited to their high school. Some of them may feel it didn’t support them at all, I am sure it runs the gamut.

stop with the revisionist talk. you degraded the girls.

and regarding the college admissions fetish, correct me if i am wrong but you have told us numerous times you are an Ivy League graduate. Feel like you might have the fetish as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I believe myself to have mainly criticized these schools for not enforcing their own rules when it comes to bullying and for chasing unproven educational trends. I have also criticized parents for never pushing back even when they disagree - rather than questioning a new math curriculum, they hire tutors, rather than complain about the weak sauce humanities curriculum, they whisper about it behind closed doors. I may have mentioned being taken aback by just how UES the parent community was at the girls schools, how invested they were in supper clubs, etc, but I can’t remember ever saying all that much about the kids other than some of their connections may have put them on the top of a very large pile and if you aren’t connected in that way, you can’t count on that extra boost for your kid.

I have met and hung out with a dozen parents at the girls school my daughter attends. Not once did "supper clubs" come up in conversation.

and again, the kids at the girls schools for the vast majority do really well. you really are trying hard to convince people that they should stay away from these schools if they are just normal families.

sorry your Ivy League degree wasn't able to get you to the promise land of getting the College placement boost.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, I am not from the northeast and had never heard of these prep schools before I was in my thirties. I do not nor have I ever liked the culture of bragging at these schools or these colleges. So you got in, now what — what you do with your opportunity is what I am impressed with. If I was that invested in these places, I would have put up with my kid being bullied and stayed. Plenty do.

your daughter is at a great school. why not focus on that instead.

[Anonymous]

I said that because I know it firsthand to be not nearly as much of a boost as it is made out to be. It’s not worth grinding your kids up over. Plenty of fail sons with Ivy degrees — plenty of moms who had nothing to write home about careers now chasing babies (me). Even people who went to these schools don’t necessarily view them as a ticket to lifelong bragging rights. I had good grades in high school, that’s all it means. I really didn’t insult the girls, other than saying some were overly competitive about grades and where their parents went to school absurdly young, which is a reflection of both culture and their parents more than them. If it crossed over into cruelty, I regret it. I don’t regret insulting the parents or calling out the school for various things.

[Anonymous]

I went to an Ivy League school to read great books, not for a career boost. The knickerbocker dance invite was a big thing in my daughter’s class, glad to hear it’s not in every other class. For whatever reason, I am finding responding mildly entertaining.

[Anonymous]

I'm still trying to figure out why one would send their child to a single sex school. Not good preparation for the real world. SMDH.