Class of '26 Instagram College Decisions

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I said that because I know it firsthand to be not nearly as much of a boost as it is made out to be. It’s not worth grinding your kids up over. Plenty of fail sons with Ivy degrees — plenty of moms who had nothing to write home about careers now chasing babies (me). Even people who went to these schools don’t necessarily view them as a ticket to lifelong bragging rights. I had good grades in high school, that’s all it means. I really didn’t insult the girls, other than saying some were overly competitive about grades and where their parents went to school absurdly young, which is a reflection of both culture and their parents more than them. If it crossed over into cruelty, I regret it. I don’t regret insulting the parents or calling out the school for various things.

okay. good.

i agree with many of your points here in this last post.

best of luck. hopefully your daughter is happy where she is and i will not respond more on this point in the thread.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I believe myself to have mainly criticized these schools for not enforcing their own rules when it comes to bullying and for chasing unproven educational trends. I have also criticized parents for never pushing back even when they disagree - rather than questioning a new math curriculum, they hire tutors, rather than complain about the weak sauce humanities curriculum, they whisper about it behind closed doors. I may have mentioned being taken aback by just how UES the parent community was at the girls schools, how invested they were in supper clubs, etc, but I can’t remember ever saying all that much about the kids other than some of their connections may have put them on the top of a very large pile and if you aren’t connected in that way, you can’t count on that extra boost for your kid.

I have met and hung out with a dozen parents at the girls school my daughter attends. Not once did "supper clubs" come up in conversation.

and again, the kids at the girls schools for the vast majority do really well. you really are trying hard to convince people that they should stay away from these schools if they are just normal families.

sorry your Ivy League degree wasn't able to get you to the promise land of getting the College placement boost.

Maybe she means Doubles? It was a thing with tweens a few years ago.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I believe myself to have mainly criticized these schools for not enforcing their own rules when it comes to bullying and for chasing unproven educational trends. I have also criticized parents for never pushing back even when they disagree - rather than questioning a new math curriculum, they hire tutors, rather than complain about the weak sauce humanities curriculum, they whisper about it behind closed doors. I may have mentioned being taken aback by just how UES the parent community was at the girls schools, how invested they were in supper clubs, etc, but I can’t remember ever saying all that much about the kids other than some of their connections may have put them on the top of a very large pile and if you aren’t connected in that way, you can’t count on that extra boost for your kid.

I have met and hung out with a dozen parents at the girls school my daughter attends. Not once did "supper clubs" come up in conversation.

and again, the kids at the girls schools for the vast majority do really well. you really are trying hard to convince people that they should stay away from these schools if they are just normal families.

sorry your Ivy League degree wasn't able to get you to the promise land of getting the College placement boost.

Maybe she means Doubles? It was a thing with tweens a few years ago.

The only people I know of who went there were weird divorcees looking for rich men. A friend of a friend's mom went there and I saw pics - it was creepy and scary.

[Anonymous]

There’s Doubles, yes, but I was thinking of the Knickerbocker Club. It’s invite only so some of the girls whose families wormed their way in somehow were using their invitation to make the girls who wanted to go but weren’t whatever enough feel bad. There is also the River Club, but that seems less “exclusive” than the Knickerbocker.

Here’s a times article from 2010:

https://www.nytimes.com/2010/11/05/nyregion/05dancing.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I believe myself to have mainly criticized these schools for not enforcing their own rules when it comes to bullying and for chasing unproven educational trends. I have also criticized parents for never pushing back even when they disagree - rather than questioning a new math curriculum, they hire tutors, rather than complain about the weak sauce humanities curriculum, they whisper about it behind closed doors. I may have mentioned being taken aback by just how UES the parent community was at the girls schools, how invested they were in supper clubs, etc, but I can’t remember ever saying all that much about the kids other than some of their connections may have put them on the top of a very large pile and if you aren’t connected in that way, you can’t count on that extra boost for your kid.

I have met and hung out with a dozen parents at the girls school my daughter attends. Not once did "supper clubs" come up in conversation.

and again, the kids at the girls schools for the vast majority do really well. you really are trying hard to convince people that they should stay away from these schools if they are just normal families.

sorry your Ivy League degree wasn't able to get you to the promise land of getting the College placement boost.

Maybe she means Doubles? It was a thing with tweens a few years ago.

The only people I know of who went there were weird divorcees looking for rich men. A friend of a friend's mom went there and I saw pics - it was creepy and scary.

I have been, and it's such a strange place. The decor evokes Alice in Wonderland.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There’s Doubles, yes, but I was thinking of the Knickerbocker Club. It’s invite only so some of the girls whose families wormed their way in somehow were using their invitation to make the girls who wanted to go but weren’t whatever enough feel bad. There is also the River Club, but that seems less “exclusive” than the Knickerbocker.

Here’s a times article from 2010:

https://www.nytimes.com/2010/11/05/nyregion/05dancing.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share

This is what I meant . . . they were courting the tween set about ten years ago, and a lot of younger families joined. I suffered through more than my share of mommy luncheons there back in the day.

https://www.nytimes.com/2015/11/07/your-money/still-bastions-of-the-elite-private-city-clubs-fill-new-niches.html

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am not Brearley mom, I have DC at another city private, I have no connection to of the girl schools, and you who pick at and freak at that mother are a hell of a lot worse than she is.

i guess i have been sympathetic to her daughter's plight but the constant negative comments about the girls at the school just got to me.

i actually didn't mind her commentary on the school administration, that's fair game.

You are mean as hell. If your kid had been bullied you’d feel differently. You and too many others here have no empathy whatsoever for anyone - anyone - and you police her as if the HOS or a girl at that school is poring over this board and would be hurt. Please grow up.

We had a child bullied for a short period of time, twice at different schools. 5th grade. We had it addressed by speaking to the parents and the school. Could it have been handled better, yes in one case, no in another case. So we understand her issue - but that doesn't mean I would insult all the kids that go to the school.

She doesn't deserve empathy given how she talks about kids.

Your constant perseveration about her views ruined more conversation than she did.

[Anonymous]

I didn’t say anything about the kids, but you want that to be true to make yourself feel better about going after my character and personality and eventually, my own kid. It’s part of internet dialogue to be bullied by someone, so I have just accepted it and moved on rather than defend myself. I don’t really want or need empathy — only a fool would look for that from this space.

I wanted to give people fair warning because it took me a long time to understand what was going on, and I put up with too much for too long. I may have said something about things I noticed about the kids’ behavior on the whole (their competitiveness with each other, their obsession with material goods and who has what, the college fixation) which I linked to both the school and parent culture. It’s okay to judge a school and how it’s doing by their students on metrics other than their Ivy League stats. People recognize the uniform and when they see a bunch of kids behaving rudely and entitled, they are going to associate it with that school. I think being rude and entitled is a bad way to go through life and doesn’t lead to success. I like that kids when we first arrived, adored the older generation of upper schoolers now gone - there has been a shift, and it’s okay to note that. Part of what you are paying for is the cultivation of your kid, so I think it’s fair to note how kids behave. The world will.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am not Brearley mom, I have DC at another city private, I have no connection to of the girl schools, and you who pick at and freak at that mother are a hell of a lot worse than she is.

i guess i have been sympathetic to her daughter's plight but the constant negative comments about the girls at the school just got to me.

i actually didn't mind her commentary on the school administration, that's fair game.

You are mean as hell. If your kid had been bullied you’d feel differently. You and too many others here have no empathy whatsoever for anyone - anyone - and you police her as if the HOS or a girl at that school is poring over this board and would be hurt. Please grow up.

We had a child bullied for a short period of time, twice at different schools. 5th grade. We had it addressed by speaking to the parents and the school. Could it have been handled better, yes in one case, no in another case. So we understand her issue - but that doesn't mean I would insult all the kids that go to the school.

She doesn't deserve empathy given how she talks about kids.

Your constant perseveration about her views ruined more conversation than she did.

If you all stop invoking her, maybe she'll go away.

Anyway, congratulations to the Class of 2026, which this thread is presumably about. I will say that HM had a lovely, if hot, graduation ceremony on Thursday. It was joyous, and the many grads I spoke to that day were truly excited about heading off to college in the fall. They've moved on, and so should some of you parents.

[Anonymous]

I am glad to hear it. Every kid deserves a good place, their talents cultivated, their potential maximized and their lives valued (the person, who would indeed, move on —

[Anonymous]

I respond only because they deleted what I have to say and then dismiss it as “crazy.” It was a mistake on my part to give the school the benefit of the doubt, and I just wanted to give fair warning to anyone in that situation. I have also had to piece parts of my daughter’s education back together due to some curriculum shifts over the past ten years. I spent a lot of time and money (which not everyone has) figuring out that the gaps were in the curriculum, not in her brain so I just wanted to share the info. sometimes you need to take what the school say with a grain of salt, especially if the kid has a new teacher or has recent changes in approach.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am not Brearley mom, I have DC at another city private, I have no connection to of the girl schools, and you who pick at and freak at that mother are a hell of a lot worse than she is.

i guess i have been sympathetic to her daughter's plight but the constant negative comments about the girls at the school just got to me.

i actually didn't mind her commentary on the school administration, that's fair game.

You are mean as hell. If your kid had been bullied you’d feel differently. You and too many others here have no empathy whatsoever for anyone - anyone - and you police her as if the HOS or a girl at that school is poring over this board and would be hurt. Please grow up.

We had a child bullied for a short period of time, twice at different schools. 5th grade. We had it addressed by speaking to the parents and the school. Could it have been handled better, yes in one case, no in another case. So we understand her issue - but that doesn't mean I would insult all the kids that go to the school.

She doesn't deserve empathy given how she talks about kids.

Your constant perseveration about her views ruined more conversation than she did.

If you all stop invoking her, maybe she'll go away.

Anyway, congratulations to the Class of 2026, which this thread is presumably about. I will say that HM had a lovely, if hot, graduation ceremony on Thursday. It was joyous, and the many grads I spoke to that day were truly excited about heading off to college in the fall. They've moved on, and so should some of you parents.

I didn’t. Stop. Policing. This. Board.

Glad your grad day was good. Move on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am not Brearley mom, I have DC at another city private, I have no connection to of the girl schools, and you who pick at and freak at that mother are a hell of a lot worse than she is.

i guess i have been sympathetic to her daughter's plight but the constant negative comments about the girls at the school just got to me.

i actually didn't mind her commentary on the school administration, that's fair game.

You are mean as hell. If your kid had been bullied you’d feel differently. You and too many others here have no empathy whatsoever for anyone - anyone - and you police her as if the HOS or a girl at that school is poring over this board and would be hurt. Please grow up.

We had a child bullied for a short period of time, twice at different schools. 5th grade. We had it addressed by speaking to the parents and the school. Could it have been handled better, yes in one case, no in another case. So we understand her issue - but that doesn't mean I would insult all the kids that go to the school.

She doesn't deserve empathy given how she talks about kids.

Your constant perseveration about her views ruined more conversation than she did.

If you all stop invoking her, maybe she'll go away.

Anyway, congratulations to the Class of 2026, which this thread is presumably about. I will say that HM had a lovely, if hot, graduation ceremony on Thursday. It was joyous, and the many grads I spoke to that day were truly excited about heading off to college in the fall. They've moved on, and so should some of you parents.

I didn’t. Stop. Policing. This. Board.

Glad your grad day was good. Move on.

And yet, here she is

The kids are alright. Yours will be, too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am not Brearley mom, I have DC at another city private, I have no connection to of the girl schools, and you who pick at and freak at that mother are a hell of a lot worse than she is.

i guess i have been sympathetic to her daughter's plight but the constant negative comments about the girls at the school just got to me.

i actually didn't mind her commentary on the school administration, that's fair game.

You are mean as hell. If your kid had been bullied you’d feel differently. You and too many others here have no empathy whatsoever for anyone - anyone - and you police her as if the HOS or a girl at that school is poring over this board and would be hurt. Please grow up.

We had a child bullied for a short period of time, twice at different schools. 5th grade. We had it addressed by speaking to the parents and the school. Could it have been handled better, yes in one case, no in another case. So we understand her issue - but that doesn't mean I would insult all the kids that go to the school.

She doesn't deserve empathy given how she talks about kids.

Your constant perseveration about her views ruined more conversation than she did.

If you all stop invoking her, maybe she'll go away.

Anyway, congratulations to the Class of 2026, which this thread is presumably about. I will say that HM had a lovely, if hot, graduation ceremony on Thursday. It was joyous, and the many grads I spoke to that day were truly excited about heading off to college in the fall. They've moved on, and so should some of you parents.

I didn’t. Stop. Policing. This. Board.

Glad your grad day was good. Move on.

And yet, here she is

The kids are alright. Yours will be, too.

But yours may not be in the long view; your passive aggression makes it so unlikely that you’re an even okay mom.

[Anonymous]

lmagine all the people……