No Kids at Wedding - Why So Much Anger?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that people who do not have young children are really underestimate the headache and complication of trying to find someone to watch your children when you're traveling out of town.

We went to a wedding when my daughter was 8 months old in cabada. The bride and groom gave us recommendations for out of town babysitting. The babysitter that the service sent us was 3 ants short of a picnic and left plastic bags in our daughter's crib. I have never hired a babysitter from a service again

Everyone who has kids had kids who were young once. You just can't do all the fun things for awhile when your kids are very young. But, eventually they get older. Nobody said parenting was easy.

[Anonymous]

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But yeah, I wanted it to be a grown-up affair (e.g., open bar, live band). I didn't understand the kid thing.

At Italian weddings they always have these things plus lots of kids.

Indian weddings too. Kids, grandparents, great grandparents...every person is invited and catered to.

Isn’t that amazing and so kind, that extremely wealthy Indians and people of all races who enjoy their money on the backs of others can afford to “cater to” hundreds of people? Wow, I am so impressed by this. It’s so very gracious, to enjoy your wealth and be so visibly opulent to impress people in the name of love and family.

+100

There is so much I could add to this...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

But yeah, I wanted it to be a grown-up affair (e.g., open bar, live band). I didn't understand the kid thing.

At Italian weddings they always have these things plus lots of kids.

Indian weddings too. Kids, grandparents, great grandparents...every person is invited and catered to.

Isn’t that amazing and so kind, that extremely wealthy Indians and people of all races who enjoy their money on the backs of others can afford to “cater to” hundreds of people? Wow, I am so impressed by this. It’s so very gracious, to enjoy your wealth and be so visibly opulent to impress people in the name of love and family.

You should leave America and go somewhere else. America is for the rich and you are not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

But yeah, I wanted it to be a grown-up affair (e.g., open bar, live band). I didn't understand the kid thing.

At Italian weddings they always have these things plus lots of kids.

Indian weddings too. Kids, grandparents, great grandparents...every person is invited and catered to.

Isn’t that amazing and so kind, that extremely wealthy Indians and people of all races who enjoy their money on the backs of others can afford to “cater to” hundreds of people? Wow, I am so impressed by this. It’s so very gracious, to enjoy your wealth and be so visibly opulent to impress people in the name of love and family.

+100

There is so much I could add to this...

:A little ditty, ‘bout Jack and Diane:
Two American kids growin’ up in the heartland.
Jack, he's gonna be a football star,
Diane’s debutante, back seat of Jacky's car.

Suckin' on chili dog outside the Tasty Freeze,
Diane sittin' on Jacky's lap,
he got his hands between her knees
Jacky says "Hey, Diane, lets run off behind a shady tree,"
Dribble off Bobby Brooks, let me do what I please, sayin'

Oh yeah, life goes on,
Long after the thrill of livin' is gone, sayin'
Oh yeah, life goes on,
Long after the thrill of livin' is gone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

But yeah, I wanted it to be a grown-up affair (e.g., open bar, live band). I didn't understand the kid thing.

At Italian weddings they always have these things plus lots of kids.

+1 Indian weddings too

Ha. My cousins huge Indian wedding did not allow my kids to attend. We don’t really talk much anymore anyways.

I have seen that at more Indian weddings in the last 2 years. Given the misbehaving kids I've seen previously at many Indian weddings (often with same people in attendance) I can understand why. They know what the family kids are like and realize they'd rather avoid cranky, unruly kids running around screaming whose parents fail to actually parent them. So they smartly choose to be "adults only"

No, it is usually a money/space thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

But yeah, I wanted it to be a grown-up affair (e.g., open bar, live band). I didn't understand the kid thing.

At Italian weddings they always have these things plus lots of kids.

+1 Indian weddings too

Ha. My cousins huge Indian wedding did not allow my kids to attend. We don’t really talk much anymore anyways.

Arre! So sorry. Must be a POS cousin. Every family (even Indian) have couple of a-holes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

But yeah, I wanted it to be a grown-up affair (e.g., open bar, live band). I didn't understand the kid thing.

At Italian weddings they always have these things plus lots of kids.

+1 Indian weddings too

Ha. My cousins huge Indian wedding did not allow my kids to attend. We don’t really talk much anymore anyways.

Arre! So sorry. Must be a POS cousin. Every family (even Indian) have couple of a-holes.

Not inviting your brats =/= aholes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

But yeah, I wanted it to be a grown-up affair (e.g., open bar, live band). I didn't understand the kid thing.

At Italian weddings they always have these things plus lots of kids.

+1 Indian weddings too

Ha. My cousins huge Indian wedding did not allow my kids to attend. We don’t really talk much anymore anyways.

Arre! So sorry. Must be a POS cousin. Every family (even Indian) have couple of a-holes.

Not inviting your brats =/= aholes

Actually, it is. But whatever. There is not only one flavor of wedding. Get me to an Italian or Middle Eastern wedding too and I will enjoy myself. Who wants a cash bar and cold chicken boring wedding that lasts only two hours?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

But yeah, I wanted it to be a grown-up affair (e.g., open bar, live band). I didn't understand the kid thing.

At Italian weddings they always have these things plus lots of kids.

+1 Indian weddings too

Ha. My cousins huge Indian wedding did not allow my kids to attend. We don’t really talk much anymore anyways.

Arre! So sorry. Must be a POS cousin. Every family (even Indian) have couple of a-holes.

Not inviting your brats =/= aholes

Actually, it is. But whatever. There is not only one flavor of wedding. Get me to an Italian or Middle Eastern wedding too and I will enjoy myself. Who wants a cash bar and cold chicken boring wedding that lasts only two hours?

Do you care at all about the marrying couple or is it just about what’s in it for you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that people who do not have young children are really underestimate the headache and complication of trying to find someone to watch your children when you're traveling out of town.

We went to a wedding when my daughter was 8 months old in cabada. The bride and groom gave us recommendations for out of town babysitting. The babysitter that the service sent us was 3 ants short of a picnic and left plastic bags in our daughter's crib. I have never hired a babysitter from a service again

Nope, they don’t have a clue, but it’s not on them. We either figure out a childcare arrangement that makes us comfortable, one of us goes alone, or we skip. That’s life with young kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that people who do not have young children are really underestimate the headache and complication of trying to find someone to watch your children when you're traveling out of town.

We went to a wedding when my daughter was 8 months old in cabada. The bride and groom gave us recommendations for out of town babysitting. The babysitter that the service sent us was 3 ants short of a picnic and left plastic bags in our daughter's crib. I have never hired a babysitter from a service again

Nope, they don’t have a clue, but it’s not on them. We either figure out a childcare arrangement that makes us comfortable, one of us goes alone, or we skip. That’s life with young kids.

Why wouldn't they have a clue? Are you going to forget in 10 years? Do you think everyone else somehow skipped this stage? It's a stage, and then it's over at some point. You too will be past it some day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

But yeah, I wanted it to be a grown-up affair (e.g., open bar, live band). I didn't understand the kid thing.

At Italian weddings they always have these things plus lots of kids.

+1 Indian weddings too

Ha. My cousins huge Indian wedding did not allow my kids to attend. We don’t really talk much anymore anyways.

Arre! So sorry. Must be a POS cousin. Every family (even Indian) have couple of a-holes.

Not inviting your brats =/= aholes

Actually, it is. But whatever. There is not only one flavor of wedding. Get me to an Italian or Middle Eastern wedding too and I will enjoy myself. Who wants a cash bar and cold chicken boring wedding that lasts only two hours?

“There is not only one flavor of wedding”
Exactly - child free weddings are just another flavor. Not rude. Just different than how you did it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that people who do not have young children are really underestimate the headache and complication of trying to find someone to watch your children when you're traveling out of town.

We went to a wedding when my daughter was 8 months old in cabada. The bride and groom gave us recommendations for out of town babysitting. The babysitter that the service sent us was 3 ants short of a picnic and left plastic bags in our daughter's crib. I have never hired a babysitter from a service again

Nope, they don’t have a clue, but it’s not on them. We either figure out a childcare arrangement that makes us comfortable, one of us goes alone, or we skip. That’s life with young kids.

Why wouldn't they have a clue? Are you going to forget in 10 years? Do you think everyone else somehow skipped this stage? It's a stage, and then it's over at some point. You too will be past it some day.

Dp I’m assuming pp means to insinuate that people having child free weddings are young and don’t have kids if their own. So they don’t “have a clue” what parents of young children do to prepare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

But yeah, I wanted it to be a grown-up affair (e.g., open bar, live band). I didn't understand the kid thing.

At Italian weddings they always have these things plus lots of kids.

+1 Indian weddings too

Ha. My cousins huge Indian wedding did not allow my kids to attend. We don’t really talk much anymore anyways.

Arre! So sorry. Must be a POS cousin. Every family (even Indian) have couple of a-holes.

Not inviting your brats =/= aholes

Actually, it is. But whatever. There is not only one flavor of wedding. Get me to an Italian or Middle Eastern wedding too and I will enjoy myself. Who wants a cash bar and cold chicken boring wedding that lasts only two hours?

Do you care at all about the marrying couple or is it just about what’s in it for you?

It's possible to wish a couple well without attending their wedding (for whatever reason)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

But yeah, I wanted it to be a grown-up affair (e.g., open bar, live band). I didn't understand the kid thing.

At Italian weddings they always have these things plus lots of kids.

+1 Indian weddings too

Ha. My cousins huge Indian wedding did not allow my kids to attend. We don’t really talk much anymore anyways.

Arre! So sorry. Must be a POS cousin. Every family (even Indian) have couple of a-holes.

Not inviting your brats =/= aholes

Actually, it is. But whatever. There is not only one flavor of wedding. Get me to an Italian or Middle Eastern wedding too and I will enjoy myself. Who wants a cash bar and cold chicken boring wedding that lasts only two hours?

Do you care at all about the marrying couple or is it just about what’s in it for you?

It's possible to wish a couple well without attending their wedding (for whatever reason)

You would think, but that PP makes it seem like if the food and drink aren't up to her standards the wedding would not be worth attending.