UGH. Hotel with adjoining rooms.

[Anonymous]

We had a pajama party at grandmas last night. Was it more comfortable than my own bed? No. Should I have declined? My kids made memories that live on forever. 100% worth it! Grown up OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had a pajama party at grandmas last night. Was it more comfortable than my own bed? No. Should I have declined? My kids made memories that live on forever. 100% worth it! Grown up OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s been a decade now but in-laws did this to us too. Except we had a “girls room” and a “boys room”. I was sharing a room with mil and my SILs and Dh shared with his dad and BILs. It was so awkward!! They had no other rooms either. We were paying too.

I didn’t learn my lesson either with booking my own rooms. We went on a trip with them a few years later and the hotel rooms were $400 a night. For a Hampton garden inn! He just called and booked that way vs Hotwire or whatnot. I actually cried at the front desk because Dh and I didn’t have $1200. We had though it would be like $125 a night. I was so bitter and pissed but Dh wouldn’t say anything. I have since refused trips that I don’t plan.

OMG, PP! I am horrified on your behalf even if this was all in the past. Your in-laws are boundary-annihilating moochers.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s been a decade now but in-laws did this to us too. Except we had a “girls room” and a “boys room”. I was sharing a room with mil and my SILs and Dh shared with his dad and BILs. It was so awkward!! They had no other rooms either. We were paying too.

I didn’t learn my lesson either with booking my own rooms. We went on a trip with them a few years later and the hotel rooms were $400 a night. For a Hampton garden inn! He just called and booked that way vs Hotwire or whatnot. I actually cried at the front desk because Dh and I didn’t have $1200. We had though it would be like $125 a night. I was so bitter and pissed but Dh wouldn’t say anything. I have since refused trips that I don’t plan.

OMG, PP! I am horrified on your behalf even if this was all in the past. Your in-laws are boundary-annihilating moochers.

I would have been livid. $400/night is a lot of .k ey for a hotel unless you were in NYC or LA.

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Anonymous wrote:All you youngins' out there take note: this is what happens when you marry a pansy.

Don't be like OP.
Don't marry a man child.

Wow, nice homophobic slur.

My husband clearly communicated with his parents. We have both clearly stated why we don’t like adjoining rooms.

They chose to ignore. We choose to leave early and never go on trips with them again.

So what happened, OP? Have you left yet?

Yes, we are on the way home. They were upset and said “we thought you’d like the adjoining rooms when you actually saw them.” Oh well. What’s done is done. Our vacation days are too precious to waste like this. We’re staying in a nice Annapolis hotel on our way home.

Good for you op. you both took the right steps. It would have been okay of she didn't knock on the door but opening her door and knocking in yours was too much. Enjoy your stay in Annapolis.

I also totally get it because hotels have been booked lately.
Everyone is traveling again .

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Anonymous wrote:So what’s the lesson here: Be in charge of booking the rooms. Problem solved.

+1 My guess is that the ILs are paying. OP and her DH need to man up and pay for themselves or, better yet, pay for both rooms.

I believe OP has stated 3 times now that they paid for their room themselves. How bizarre to keep coming back and desperately trying to insist otherwise because you want to get in a "gotcha" on the thread.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m confused. If you paid your own way, why didn’t you book your own reservation and they book theirs? Then you would have had full control of the reservation and you could have even specified to the hotel that you did not want a room with adjoining doors.

They had their eye on a certain place and said they wanted to book early to ensure we got space, and Venmo exists, so there you have it. DH specified we did not want adjoining rooms, and they said that’s fine.

Oh well, never traveling with them again. Moving on.

I would bet money, and would have after reading your initial post, that the inlaws paid for the rooms. I notice you did not say here that you paid for your own rooms. Just own it.

Sorry, sweetie. We Venmoed our half of the deposit literally the day the booking was made, and will still Venmo our remaining half of the final bill even though we’re leaving early. You tried, though. Good for you!

Well, you sound delightful. Maybe your MIL is doing it just to piss you off.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All you youngins' out there take note: this is what happens when you marry a pansy.

Don't be like OP.
Don't marry a man child.

Wow, nice homophobic slur.

My husband clearly communicated with his parents. We have both clearly stated why we don’t like adjoining rooms.

They chose to ignore. We choose to leave early and never go on trips with them again.

So what happened, OP? Have you left yet?

Yes, we are on the way home. They were upset and said “we thought you’d like the adjoining rooms when you actually saw them.” Oh well. What’s done is done. Our vacation days are too precious to waste like this. We’re staying in a nice Annapolis hotel on our way home.

Good for you op. you both took the right steps. It would have been okay of she didn't knock on the door but opening her door and knocking in yours was too much. Enjoy your stay in Annapolis.

I also totally get it because hotels have been booked lately.
Everyone is traveling again .

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So what’s the lesson here: Be in charge of booking the rooms. Problem solved.

+1 My guess is that the ILs are paying. OP and her DH need to man up and pay for themselves or, better yet, pay for both rooms.

I believe OP has stated 3 times now that they paid for their room themselves. How bizarre to keep coming back and desperately trying to insist otherwise because you want to get in a "gotcha" on the thread.

Especially because OP paid for the room and is a ridiculous drama Queen who doesn’t know how to use a door and left her own vacation early.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s been a decade now but in-laws did this to us too. Except we had a “girls room” and a “boys room”. I was sharing a room with mil and my SILs and Dh shared with his dad and BILs. It was so awkward!! They had no other rooms either. We were paying too.

I didn’t learn my lesson either with booking my own rooms. We went on a trip with them a few years later and the hotel rooms were $400 a night. For a Hampton garden inn! He just called and booked that way vs Hotwire or whatnot. I actually cried at the front desk because Dh and I didn’t have $1200. We had though it would be like $125 a night. I was so bitter and pissed but Dh wouldn’t say anything. I have since refused trips that I don’t plan.

That is horrible but you and your dh played right in to it. After the first event, you knew you two needed to manage accommodations for yourself. You aren't a grown up until you learn to handle conflict with other adults. We all have to learn how to do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m confused. If you paid your own way, why didn’t you book your own reservation and they book theirs? Then you would have had full control of the reservation and you could have even specified to the hotel that you did not want a room with adjoining doors.

They had their eye on a certain place and said they wanted to book early to ensure we got space, and Venmo exists, so there you have it. DH specified we did not want adjoining rooms, and they said that’s fine.

Oh well, never traveling with them again. Moving on.

Either that or book separately and call the hotel and explain the situation and say under no terms do you want adjoining rooms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So what’s the lesson here: Be in charge of booking the rooms. Problem solved.

+1 My guess is that the ILs are paying. OP and her DH need to man up and pay for themselves or, better yet, pay for both rooms.

I believe OP has stated 3 times now that they paid for their room themselves. How bizarre to keep coming back and desperately trying to insist otherwise because you want to get in a "gotcha" on the thread.

How "bizarre" that you keep trolling the thread. OP, you should have made the arrangements yourself if you felt so strongly about not having adjoining rooms. I think you're being a weird drama queen and you're proving it with all your retaliation here against people who are telling you the same thing. Get a life, dear.

[Anonymous]

My MIL has been dead for a long time. I'd love to see her eating cupcakes in our hotel "suite" while on vacation. She was a gem!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s been a decade now but in-laws did this to us too. Except we had a “girls room” and a “boys room”. I was sharing a room with mil and my SILs and Dh shared with his dad and BILs. It was so awkward!! They had no other rooms either. We were paying too.

I didn’t learn my lesson either with booking my own rooms. We went on a trip with them a few years later and the hotel rooms were $400 a night. For a Hampton garden inn! He just called and booked that way vs Hotwire or whatnot. I actually cried at the front desk because Dh and I didn’t have $1200. We had though it would be like $125 a night. I was so bitter and pissed but Dh wouldn’t say anything. I have since refused trips that I don’t plan.

That is horrible but you and your dh played right in to it. After the first event, you knew you two needed to manage accommodations for yourself. You aren't a grown up until you learn to handle conflict with other adults. We all have to learn how to do it.

Well, the vacationing with ILs has now ceased, so sounds like this will never be a problem again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL has been dead for a long time. I'd love to see her eating cupcakes in our hotel "suite" while on vacation. She was a gem!

Good for you. Mine is an alcoholic who is verbally abusive. NP.