UGH. Hotel with adjoining rooms.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Does your husband always let his parents walk all over him like this? He seriously isn’t going to confront them about this?

We decided together to stay for two nights so as not to have wasted the time we spent driving, then surprise them the morning of by checking out early. He will then tell them we dislike the adjoining dynamic and we felt very disrespected by it, so we’re leaving early. Then, when future travel requests come up, we’ll simply say we’re not interested, but they are welcome to visit us.

We will still travel to visit them for holidays and such, but if they cross our boundaries in their home, we’ll move to hotel-only when visiting them.

This is so passive aggressive, rude, and childish.

Just tell them you’ll be keeping the door closed.

+1. OP sounds like a miserable person. My guess? She was thrilled to find the adjoining rooms because it gave her the excuse she wanted to never travel with them again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lesson learned. What I do is call the hotel a day or two before and have them note in my record _not_ to put us in adjoining rooms. They've always honored it.

In my case the issue is my parents are hard of hearing and watch TV at reallhy loud levels and our kids can't sleep if we were next door.

so you foist them on some other unsuspecting person who isn't even related to them? Nice. Just tell your parents to wear their hearing aids, turn on the captions, or turn the TV off because it's loud AF and it's pissing everyone off.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m confused. If you paid your own way, why didn’t you book your own reservation and they book theirs? Then you would have had full control of the reservation and you could have even specified to the hotel that you did not want a room with adjoining doors.

They had their eye on a certain place and said they wanted to book early to ensure we got space, and Venmo exists, so there you have it. DH specified we did not want adjoining rooms, and they said that’s fine.

Oh well, never traveling with them again. Moving on.

I would bet money, and would have after reading your initial post, that the inlaws paid for the rooms. I notice you did not say here that you paid for your own rooms. Just own it.

Sorry, sweetie. We Venmoed our half of the deposit literally the day the booking was made, and will still Venmo our remaining half of the final bill even though we’re leaving early. You tried, though. Good for you!

Oh, honey. Venmo is not a hotel reservation. Being an adult and using your own credit card/points program is a reservation. This was the most preventable and fixable situation ever. You chose not to do either, and now you're whining about cupcakes. And you do know you don't have to open the connecting door, yes?

[Anonymous]

Why didn’t you handle it at the front desk? Inquire with them during checkin: Is our room adjoining to IL”s? Can we change and get another floor?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why didn’t you handle it at the front desk? Inquire with them during checkin: Is our room adjoining to IL”s? Can we change and get another floor?

Because OP can’t problem solve

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Does your husband always let his parents walk all over him like this? He seriously isn’t going to confront them about this?

We decided together to stay for two nights so as not to have wasted the time we spent driving, then surprise them the morning of by checking out early. He will then tell them we dislike the adjoining dynamic and we felt very disrespected by it, so we’re leaving early. Then, when future travel requests come up, we’ll simply say we’re not interested, but they are welcome to visit us.

We will still travel to visit them for holidays and such, but if they cross our boundaries in their home, we’ll move to hotel-only when visiting them.

That sounds hurtful.

[Anonymous]

I’m traveling with my MiL in a few months and worried she’ll want adjoining rooms too.

[Anonymous]

Why don’t you just go down to the lobby and ask to change rooms to a different floor? Instead of dramatically and passively aggressively checking out early? You are all drama queens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why didn’t you handle it at the front desk? Inquire with them during checkin: Is our room adjoining to IL”s? Can we change and get another floor?

They can still do this. Just ask to change rooms. This isn’t rocket science. In the amount of time she has spent posting to complain about this, she could have changed rooms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ll start off by saying we paid our own way, because DCUM always tries to latch onto that.

We agreed to go on vacation with my ILs, and my husband specifically asked them NOT to get adjoining rooms, which is what they always push for and whine about. Well, two guesses as to what we found when we arrived today. They booked the rooms, and got adjoining rooms.

They insist on keeping the doors open and downright pout and whine when we close and lock the adjoining door, making much of knocking. They keep saying “keep the door open so it’s like a suite.” Now MIL is bringing food into our room and eating a cupcake while she walks around and is getting crumbs all over the floor.

My mild-mannered husband is downright pissed that they did this after he specifically said we didn’t want adjoining rooms. Joke’s on them, because we’re already plotting to leave a day early so we don’t have to spend an extra night.

You sound like QUITt a peach! Your DH and in laws are so lucky!

[Anonymous]

Yikes, OP. Calling people sweetie and raging is not a nice look. Deep breaths.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Does your husband always let his parents walk all over him like this? He seriously isn’t going to confront them about this?

We decided together to stay for two nights so as not to have wasted the time we spent driving, then surprise them the morning of by checking out early. He will then tell them we dislike the adjoining dynamic and we felt very disrespected by it, so we’re leaving early. Then, when future travel requests come up, we’ll simply say we’re not interested, but they are welcome to visit us.

We will still travel to visit them for holidays and such, but if they cross our boundaries in their home, we’ll move to hotel-only when visiting them.

That sounds hurtful.

It’s also passive aggressive and immature. Why not sit down and explain why you don’t want adjoining rooms? Or is it just because of cupcake crumbs? Because if that’s what it is, stop traveling and visiting them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would have gone down to the front desk and changed rooms.

We tried and it wasn’t possible. After that, we talked and came up with our early checkout plan.

Not OP. Bringing this forward because it seems to have been missed in the scramble above.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would have gone down to the front desk and changed rooms.

We tried and it wasn’t possible. After that, we talked and came up with our early checkout plan.

Not OP. Bringing this forward because it seems to have been missed in the scramble above.

How many times did they try?

[Anonymous]

PP, how many times are you supposed to ask to change rooms, be told it isn't possible, and keep asking the same question? What's the right number?