UGH. Hotel with adjoining rooms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ll start off by saying we paid our own way, because DCUM always tries to latch onto that.

We agreed to go on vacation with my ILs, and my husband specifically asked them NOT to get adjoining rooms, which is what they always push for and whine about. Well, two guesses as to what we found when we arrived today. They booked the rooms, and got adjoining rooms.

They insist on keeping the doors open and downright pout and whine when we close and lock the adjoining door, making much of knocking. They keep saying “keep the door open so it’s like a suite.” Now MIL is bringing food into our room and eating a cupcake while she walks around and is getting crumbs all over the floor.

My mild-mannered husband is downright pissed that they did this after he specifically said we didn’t want adjoining rooms. Joke’s on them, because we’re already plotting to leave a day early so we don’t have to spend an extra night.

How frustrating! Hope you guys get to do something relaxing after you leave early.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why didn’t you handle it at the front desk? Inquire with them during checkin: Is our room adjoining to IL”s? Can we change and get another floor?

Because OP can’t problem solve

Just as you don't read. I think the op came back and said they tried to move rooms with the front desk.

Op I think your solution is solid. It's not childish to leave somewhere you don't want to be early. I can't sleep somewhere I'm not comfortabl. You are taking a mature step and establishing your boundaries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP, how many times are you supposed to ask to change rooms, be told it isn't possible, and keep asking the same question? What's the right number?

Aren't you cute! But probably more than once, at the time of your check-in because you know people are always checking in and out. Ask in a clear and direct manner, making sure to state the current arrangement is not working for you and impeding the enjoyment of your stay, making it clear you are fairly flexible about the type of room you are changed to, just no longer what an adjoining room, and money isn't an issue ( unless it is).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Leaving a day early seems childish.

And what does booking an adjoins room when you have been directly asked not to sound like?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would have kept the door locked and put a table against it.

She knew you didn’t want it and got it anyway. I would never use that door.

But then what would OP tantrum about on here?

ADdicted to dama, can't problem-solve seems to be a hallmark of the generation that grew up on reality TV.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does your husband always let his parents walk all over him like this? He seriously isn’t going to confront them about this?

We decided together to stay for two nights so as not to have wasted the time we spent driving, then surprise them the morning of by checking out early. He will then tell them we dislike the adjoining dynamic and we felt very disrespected by it, so we’re leaving early. Then, when future travel requests come up, we’ll simply say we’re not interested, but they are welcome to visit us.

We will still travel to visit them for holidays and such, but if they cross our boundaries in their home, we’ll move to hotel-only when visiting them.

This is so passive aggressive, rude, and childish.

Just tell them you’ll be keeping the door closed.

+1. OP sounds like a miserable person. My guess? She was thrilled to find the adjoining rooms because it gave her the excuse she wanted to never travel with them again.

No, the ILs gave her the excuse by directly ignoring a stated request.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does your husband always let his parents walk all over him like this? He seriously isn’t going to confront them about this?

We decided together to stay for two nights so as not to have wasted the time we spent driving, then surprise them the morning of by checking out early. He will then tell them we dislike the adjoining dynamic and we felt very disrespected by it, so we’re leaving early. Then, when future travel requests come up, we’ll simply say we’re not interested, but they are welcome to visit us.

We will still travel to visit them for holidays and such, but if they cross our boundaries in their home, we’ll move to hotel-only when visiting them.

That sounds hurtful.

So does crossing boundaries by booking an adjoins room when you were told not to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you just go down to the lobby and ask to change rooms to a different floor? Instead of dramatically and passively aggressively checking out early? You are all drama queens.

Clan you read? They did ask and were told it was not possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Leaving a day early seems childish.

And what does booking an adjoins room when you have been directly asked not to sound like?

It sounds like ILs who love their son and DIL and are thrilled to be spending quality time with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does your husband always let his parents walk all over him like this? He seriously isn’t going to confront them about this?

We decided together to stay for two nights so as not to have wasted the time we spent driving, then surprise them the morning of by checking out early. He will then tell them we dislike the adjoining dynamic and we felt very disrespected by it, so we’re leaving early. Then, when future travel requests come up, we’ll simply say we’re not interested, but they are welcome to visit us.

We will still travel to visit them for holidays and such, but if they cross our boundaries in their home, we’ll move to hotel-only when visiting them.

This is so passive aggressive, rude, and childish.

Just tell them you’ll be keeping the door closed.

That doesn’t stop the noise issue or their whining/knocking, apparently. If I were ignored and disrespected, I wouldn’t travel with the people who ignored and disrespected me, either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP, how many times are you supposed to ask to change rooms, be told it isn't possible, and keep asking the same question? What's the right number?

Aren't you cute! But probably more than once, at the time of your check-in because you know people are always checking in and out. Ask in a clear and direct manner, making sure to state the current arrangement is not working for you and impeding the enjoyment of your stay, making it clear you are fairly flexible about the type of room you are changed to, just no longer what an adjoining room, and money isn't an issue ( unless it is).

NP. You bash the OP for saying “sweetie,” and then you reply with an “aren’t you cute”? That’s hypocritical beyond.

As a former restaurant hostess, let me tell you how annoying it is to have the same patron ask the same question repeatedly. If a private room is already booked for the date requested, guess what? It’s booked and you can’t have it on that date. If the wait is 25 minutes for a table, asking me again in 5 minutes isn’t going to change much. OP asked, the staff answered: switching rooms is not possible. A booked hotel is a booked hotel, no matter how much you “make it clear” that you want a different room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would have kept the door locked and put a table against it.

She knew you didn’t want it and got it anyway. I would never use that door.

But then what would OP tantrum about on here?

ADdicted to dama, can't problem-solve seems to be a hallmark of the generation that grew up on reality TV.

And what is the hallmark of a generation who doesn’t listen to or respect a clearly stated, direct request not to book adjoining rooms? Selfishness? My-way-or-the-highway? Disrespect? Smug? I guess being raised on the Howdy Doody show isn’t the answer to being a respectful and mature human being who listens to others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Leaving a day early seems childish.

And what does booking an adjoins room when you have been directly asked not to sound like?

It sounds like ILs who love their son and DIL and are thrilled to be spending quality time with them.

Nope. Booking an adjoining room AGAINST the wishes of your traveling companions to meet your own needs is passive aggressive and childish. If OP stays, she and her husband are giving tacit approval for this behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Leaving a day early seems childish.

And what does booking an adjoins room when you have been directly asked not to sound like?

It sounds like ILs who love their son and DIL and are thrilled to be spending quality time with them.

Well, too bad they shot themselves in the foot by disrespecting and ignoring a completely reasonable request. “Quality time” is time spent when everyone is listened to and respected. Deliberately booking an adjoining room when you have been asked not to is not creating “quality time.” Clearly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Leaving a day early seems childish.

And what does booking an adjoins room when you have been directly asked not to sound like?

It sounds like ILs who love their son and DIL and are thrilled to be spending quality time with them.

Nope. Booking an adjoining room AGAINST the wishes of your traveling companions to meet your own needs is passive aggressive and childish. If OP stays, she and her husband are giving tacit approval for this behavior.

+1