UGH. Hotel with adjoining rooms.

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OP you and your DH are true profiles in courage.

Slow hand clap for you.

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I don’t get why you are in the hotel rooms at all unless you’re resting, sleeping or showering. Where did she get a cupcake? Is it after dinner? Just say “we’re going to bed, goodnight! See you at the restaurant for breakfast at 9” or whatever.

[Anonymous]

It’s incredible to me that a couple who are incapable of saying “we’re turning in now, goodnight!” and closing the door have instead pre- planned a dramatic temper tantrum walk-out.

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Anonymous wrote:I would have gone down to the front desk and changed rooms.

We tried and it wasn’t possible. After that, we talked and came up with our early checkout plan.

Not OP. Bringing this forward because it seems to have been missed in the scramble above.

A hotel is fully booked in the pandemic? Where is this?

The pandemic is over, everything is booked. You need to venture out (obvs get vaxxed first).

[Anonymous]

OP married into the perfect family for her.

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I would just lock the door.

I wouldn’t curtail my vacation just for this little detail, which I can solve in a better way. But perhaps this isn’t the only issue, OP, whichI can sympathize with.

[Anonymous]

It’s been a decade now but in-laws did this to us too. Except we had a “girls room” and a “boys room”. I was sharing a room with mil and my SILs and Dh shared with his dad and BILs. It was so awkward!! They had no other rooms either. We were paying too.

I didn’t learn my lesson either with booking my own rooms. We went on a trip with them a few years later and the hotel rooms were $400 a night. For a Hampton garden inn! He just called and booked that way vs Hotwire or whatnot. I actually cried at the front desk because Dh and I didn’t have $1200. We had though it would be like $125 a night. I was so bitter and pissed but Dh wouldn’t say anything. I have since refused trips that I don’t plan.

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Anonymous wrote:So what’s the lesson here: Be in charge of booking the rooms. Problem solved.

+1 My guess is that the ILs are paying. OP and her DH need to man up and pay for themselves or, better yet, pay for both rooms.

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Anonymous wrote:Does your husband always let his parents walk all over him like this? He seriously isn’t going to confront them about this?

We decided together to stay for two nights so as not to have wasted the time we spent driving, then surprise them the morning of by checking out early. He will then tell them we dislike the adjoining dynamic and we felt very disrespected by it, so we’re leaving early. Then, when future travel requests come up, we’ll simply say we’re not interested, but they are welcome to visit us.

We will still travel to visit them for holidays and such, but if they cross our boundaries in their home, we’ll move to hotel-only when visiting them.

How immature and passive aggressive. Grown people mature people would have expressed their dislike when they saw what was done. When they saw a joining rooms they would’ve said hey I thought we said no adjoining rooms?”, what happened??
Buttttt no, you all doing some baby acting mess by leaving early in YOUR VACATION. How dumb.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:Does your husband always let his parents walk all over him like this? He seriously isn’t going to confront them about this?

We decided together to stay for two nights so as not to have wasted the time we spent driving, then surprise them the morning of by checking out early. He will then tell them we dislike the adjoining dynamic and we felt very disrespected by it, so we’re leaving early. Then, when future travel requests come up, we’ll simply say we’re not interested, but they are welcome to visit us.

We will still travel to visit them for holidays and such, but if they cross our boundaries in their home, we’ll move to hotel-only when visiting them.

This is so passive aggressive, rude, and childish.

Just tell them you’ll be keeping the door closed.

+1. OP sounds like a miserable person. My guess? She was thrilled to find the adjoining rooms because it gave her the excuse she wanted to never travel with them again.

Totally agree. I think that not only is she a miserable person but she also is more than a tad passive aggressive, rude and childish herself. Perhaps next time she will take charge of the bookings and then she would be able to control the room set up. But she was lazy and she didn't. So she reaps what she sows.

[Anonymous]

OP don’t go. I’m sure DH and kids will have a blast without you!

[Anonymous]

I would have walked right back to reception and asked to move rooms.

Next time, book your own room. This is clearly a known issue.

Or look into a condo or air bnb type place so the in laws can get their hang out time but you can get a private bedroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s incredible to me that a couple who are incapable of saying “we’re turning in now, goodnight!” and closing the door have instead pre- planned a dramatic temper tantrum walk-out.

OMG yes.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m confused. If you paid your own way, why didn’t you book your own reservation and they book theirs? Then you would have had full control of the reservation and you could have even specified to the hotel that you did not want a room with adjoining doors.

They had their eye on a certain place and said they wanted to book early to ensure we got space, and Venmo exists, so there you have it. DH specified we did not want adjoining rooms, and they said that’s fine.

Oh well, never traveling with them again. Moving on.

I would bet money, and would have after reading your initial post, that the inlaws paid for the rooms. I notice you did not say here that you paid for your own rooms. Just own it.

Sorry, sweetie. We Venmoed our half of the deposit literally the day the booking was made, and will still Venmo our remaining half of the final bill even though we’re leaving early. You tried, though. Good for you!

Oh, honey. Venmo is not a hotel reservation. Being an adult and using your own credit card/points program is a reservation. This was the most preventable and fixable situation ever. You chose not to do either, and now you're whining about cupcakes. And you do know you don't have to open the connecting door, yes?

For the elderly whiners who like to lord money over others to get their way: Venmo is as good as cash. It's better than a check because it cannot be forged and the cash is deposited into the other person's bank account instantly. So OP prepaid a hotel reservation before ILs had to pay the hotel for it.

OP, you're fine. Just take your own vacations next time.

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn’t you handle it at the front desk? Inquire with them during checkin: Is our room adjoining to IL”s? Can we change and get another floor?

Because OP can’t problem solve

Just as you don't read. I think the op came back and said they tried to move rooms with the front desk.

Op I think your solution is solid. It's not childish to leave somewhere you don't want to be early. I can't sleep somewhere I'm not comfortabl. You are taking a mature step and establishing your boundaries.

I’d like to add and teach your kids how to be jerks to you someday. Gold star for parenting OP.