Nanny resentful

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Anonymous wrote:Team nanny here. Having the nanny help with the moving was the icing on the cake for me. Having her do that, whether you paid her or not, shows that you didn't respect her. Never in a million years would I ask a child care provider to do that.

Sadly this is the millennial attitude all around. “Not my job” whenever they are asked to do the slightest thing different or extra and the first question is always “will you pay me extra?” You will not meet anyone who did well at a job who did not occasionally do something beyond that job, and in this case it sounds like it was not that much to do.

millennial here, I will do extra and work my butt off if there is a reason to. At a job that I care about, I'll happily put in long hours and will never say no to extra work. What promotion is a nanny working towards? For a college grad, it isn't a real job at least not in the sense that there is any future in it.

Ha! Life has a way of bringing pompous people like you down. There is a reason to do a good job anywhere, you took the jshouldob, no? You are working at that job, not towards some future job. A reference letter for a young student, even from a mom that she babysat for, is worth a lot when you fresh out of school and have no other experience! Do you think that jobs that offer huge salaries and promotions appear for lazy out fo school young people? I can see that you do think that.
The job you should care for is any job that pays the bills and puts food on your table and a roof over your head! You sound like a clueless trust fund baby or a kept woman!

apparently this nanny managed to move on without the mom reference

Yeah, to a summer job with her family!
Adulting, right?

[Anonymous]

I pay the ranch hand $25 an hour. Stop acting as if you're generous.

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Anonymous wrote:The nannies have hijacked your thread, OP. Best to move on.

Your posts are getting very repetitive.

Same as yours then.

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Nanny sounds like an entitled brat.

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Anonymous wrote:I pay the ranch hand $25 an hour. Stop acting as if you're generous.

What does that have to do with the nanny’s pay?

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Anonymous wrote:I pay the ranch hand $25 an hour. Stop acting as if you're generous.

What does that have to do with the nanny’s pay?

Right? I am totally in op's corner here...but my SIL pays her ranch hands more than $ 25. Being a nanny is a backbreaking job, but not really when we are talking about a 10-year-old!
Being a ranch hand is a whole other type of working hell!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Team nanny here. Having the nanny help with the moving was the icing on the cake for me. Having her do that, whether you paid her or not, shows that you didn't respect her. Never in a million years would I ask a child care provider to do that.

Sadly this is the millennial attitude all around. “Not my job” whenever they are asked to do the slightest thing different or extra and the first question is always “will you pay me extra?” You will not meet anyone who did well at a job who did not occasionally do something beyond that job, and in this case it sounds like it was not that much to do.

millennial here, I will do extra and work my butt off if there is a reason to. At a job that I care about, I'll happily put in long hours and will never say no to extra work. What promotion is a nanny working towards? For a college grad, it isn't a real job at least not in the sense that there is any future in it.

Ha! Life has a way of bringing pompous people like you down. There is a reason to do a good job anywhere, you took the jshouldob, no? You are working at that job, not towards some future job. A reference letter for a young student, even from a mom that she babysat for, is worth a lot when you fresh out of school and have no other experience! Do you think that jobs that offer huge salaries and promotions appear for lazy out fo school young people? I can see that you do think that.
The job you should care for is any job that pays the bills and puts food on your table and a roof over your head! You sound like a clueless trust fund baby or a kept woman!

apparently this nanny managed to move on without the mom reference

Quite.

(NP, not a nanny)

Anonymous wrote:OP---your nanny sounds like an entitled brat. Watching a 10 year is a cushy nannying job. You were totally within your rights to essentially make it a "nanny/household assistant" position and if that was what was advertised, then she needed to be doing the minor errands/chores and not complaining.

Your problem was in letting her get away with too much for too long. You've now learned that you need to nip behaviors early---sounds like she just continually pushed.

Then OP should have no problem attracting and retaining quality employees. Let's see how that goes.

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Anonymous wrote:You consider paying her for the gas to drive your kid around, and paying her extra to do extra work related to a move “accommodations”?

She taught your kid he useful skill of making his own lunch and you didn’t thank her but think she should be grateful you didn’t complain?

You can't assume that from the post.

Kids are so pampered today
At 10 a child should know how to make a sandwich, make his own bed clean up after himself and even do household work. My dh used to mow neighbors lawns for extra money at that age

[Anonymous]

I knew of one nanny whose job included taking a kid to the bus stop.
When the kid was slow on purpose and refused to rush she made him walk. He made a crying scene when finally arrived at school. He didn't get much sympathy. Surprisingly it almost seemed like the entire schools teacher community supported the nanny

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If $20 is a good rate I’m sure OP already has a new nanny by now.

I couldn’t get someone reliable for $20/hr 5 years ago but based on the comments on this thread I assume the cost has gone down!

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Did you thank your previous employers for giving you a job? If not, why?

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Anonymous wrote:Did you thank your previous employers for giving you a job? If not, why?

OP: Of course! Are you kidding? No one owes you a living.

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Anonymous wrote:You consider paying her for the gas to drive your kid around, and paying her extra to do extra work related to a move “accommodations”?

She taught your kid he useful skill of making his own lunch and you didn’t thank her but think she should be grateful you didn’t complain?

+1 Many of the things you're citing as treating your nanny exceptionally well are standard practices. In fact, paying for gas to cart your kid around is not something extra, and I hope that if she used her own car, so I hope you paid her something extra for that, because often parents provide their own car for the nanny to drive., It's also not a bad thing for a 10 year old to make their own lunch. And allowing her time for doctor's appointments is also par for the course when you have a nanny. It's a person you're employing, not a daycare center, they'll need time off occasionally to go about their lives.

I paid her IRS mileage rates for her mileage/gas, totally standard. I said “adjustments” not “exceptional benefits.” “Accommodate” refers to her leaving an hour earlier than she was hired for and arriving an hour later, and letting her supervise in her own home instead of ours when she wanted to. I don’t think there are too many nanny jobs where you can do your own work 6 hours a day while a 10 year old is in remote school, and makes his own lunch, it’s a lot easier than watching a toddler or younger child.

I supervised remote school for 9 and 13 year olds. My rate was $30/hr and the kids made their own lunches. My bosses never asked me to do their errands (during a pandemic, no less!) and if they asked me to move their ‘bags by the door’ I would have told them to kick rocks.

So what did you do all day?

Just sit there?

Talk about a work ethic!

A lot of people make 30$/hr and up, particularly those with college degrees. They are not just "sitting there." I don't think OP's job was that attractive for someone with a college degree. I'm guessing OP's nanny took this job as a stop gap measure and will move to a more professional education setting shortly. So there isn't going to be a bunch of gratitude that OP is expecting. This is going to be the job she looks back on as the reason why I got my degree so I don't have to be subject to the whims of some mom again.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You consider paying her for the gas to drive your kid around, and paying her extra to do extra work related to a move “accommodations”?

She taught your kid he useful skill of making his own lunch and you didn’t thank her but think she should be grateful you didn’t complain?

+1 Many of the things you're citing as treating your nanny exceptionally well are standard practices. In fact, paying for gas to cart your kid around is not something extra, and I hope that if she used her own car, so I hope you paid her something extra for that, because often parents provide their own car for the nanny to drive., It's also not a bad thing for a 10 year old to make their own lunch. And allowing her time for doctor's appointments is also par for the course when you have a nanny. It's a person you're employing, not a daycare center, they'll need time off occasionally to go about their lives.

I paid her IRS mileage rates for her mileage/gas, totally standard. I said “adjustments” not “exceptional benefits.” “Accommodate” refers to her leaving an hour earlier than she was hired for and arriving an hour later, and letting her supervise in her own home instead of ours when she wanted to. I don’t think there are too many nanny jobs where you can do your own work 6 hours a day while a 10 year old is in remote school, and makes his own lunch, it’s a lot easier than watching a toddler or younger child.

I supervised remote school for 9 and 13 year olds. My rate was $30/hr and the kids made their own lunches. My bosses never asked me to do their errands (during a pandemic, no less!) and if they asked me to move their ‘bags by the door’ I would have told them to kick rocks.

So what did you do all day?

Just sit there?

Talk about a work ethic!

A lot of people make 30$/hr and up, particularly those with college degrees. They are not just "sitting there." I don't think OP's job was that attractive for someone with a college degree. I'm guessing OP's nanny took this job as a stop gap measure and will move to a more professional education setting shortly. So there isn't going to be a bunch of gratitude that OP is expecting. This is going to be the job she looks back on as the reason why I got my degree so I don't have to be subject to the whims of some mom again.

OP here and I totally agree with you, but that doesn’t excuse her rude behavior.

[Anonymous]

OP you sound exhausting.