Nanny resentful

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lesson learned. Caregivers for children should be caring for children. She most likely didn't appreciate you using her as a family manager and personal assistant.

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OP sounds entitled and defensive. I'm willing to bet there were plenty of things she asked nanny to do outside of the job description that aren't even listed in this thread, and the move was the straw that broke the camel's back. Would love to hear nanny's side of it, I bet it was much worse than is being let on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lesson learned. Caregivers for children should be caring for children. She most likely didn't appreciate you using her as a family manager and personal assistant.

+1

OP sounds entitled and defensive. I'm willing to bet there were plenty of things she asked nanny to do outside of the job description that aren't even listed in this thread, and the move was the straw that broke the camel's back. Would love to hear nanny's side of it, I bet it was much worse than is being let on.

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[Anonymous]

I'm team OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$20 is a low rate, which is probably reasonable for a cushy job like yours, but you can’t expect her to love it.

OH PLEASE $20 an hour for watching a 10 year old do virtual learning is great. This isn't changing diapers, dealing with whiny toddlers, etc etc. Come on people! Don't believe the nannies here.

Sure, OP, whatever you say. You hired a college graduate with relatively higher credentials than most nannies in a booming job market, and asked her to do stuff outside her scope of work. I'm not a nanny, and I have the employer tax software to prove it. But if you're going to be so defensive about what people are trying to tell you, I'm not sure why you bothered to post here. Just bask in your supreme righteousness and move on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$20 is a low rate, which is probably reasonable for a cushy job like yours, but you can’t expect her to love it.

OH PLEASE $20 an hour for watching a 10 year old do virtual learning is great. This isn't changing diapers, dealing with whiny toddlers, etc etc. Come on people! Don't believe the nannies here.

Sure, OP, whatever you say. You hired a college graduate with relatively higher credentials than most nannies in a booming job market, and asked her to do stuff outside her scope of work. I'm not a nanny, and I have the employer tax software to prove it. But if you're going to be so defensive about what people are trying to tell you, I'm not sure why you bothered to post here. Just bask in your supreme righteousness and move on.

OP and that wasn’t me above, nor were any of the other “team OP” posts.. Interesting how the opinions here are so divided.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$20 is a low rate, which is probably reasonable for a cushy job like yours, but you can’t expect her to love it.

OH PLEASE $20 an hour for watching a 10 year old do virtual learning is great. This isn't changing diapers, dealing with whiny toddlers, etc etc. Come on people! Don't believe the nannies here.

Sure, OP, whatever you say. You hired a college graduate with relatively higher credentials than most nannies in a booming job market, and asked her to do stuff outside her scope of work. I'm not a nanny, and I have the employer tax software to prove it. But if you're going to be so defensive about what people are trying to tell you, I'm not sure why you bothered to post here. Just bask in your supreme righteousness and move on.

OP and that wasn’t me above, nor were any of the other “team OP” posts.. Interesting how the opinions here are so divided.

I think there is a lot of sockpuppeting on "team OP" posts.

[Anonymous]

OP, ignore all the posters who are suggesting that her attitude is because you underpaid her. It sounds like you were clear about the expectations of the job and the wage up front, and she accepted the job based on those terms. For additional/different work, I presume you asked and didn't just expect her to do it...and you offered additional compensation. This stuff about booming economy and her great credentials is nonsense. If it were true, she could have quit earlier for a better job.

All of that said, though, I'm confused about what you are looking for. Maybe she could have been a little more polite, but it doesn't sound like she did anything wrong or particularly rude. Are you upset that she didn't say good bye to your kid, which is kind of a crappy thing for a nanny not to do? Because everything else sounds like a weird thing to expect from a relatively short-term employee.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$20 is a low rate, which is probably reasonable for a cushy job like yours, but you can’t expect her to love it.

OH PLEASE $20 an hour for watching a 10 year old do virtual learning is great. This isn't changing diapers, dealing with whiny toddlers, etc etc. Come on people! Don't believe the nannies here.

Sure, OP, whatever you say. You hired a college graduate with relatively higher credentials than most nannies in a booming job market, and asked her to do stuff outside her scope of work. I'm not a nanny, and I have the employer tax software to prove it. But if you're going to be so defensive about what people are trying to tell you, I'm not sure why you bothered to post here. Just bask in your supreme righteousness and move on.

OP and that wasn’t me above, nor were any of the other “team OP” posts.. Interesting how the opinions here are so divided.

I think there is a lot of sockpuppeting on "team OP" posts.

Agreed. OP will post as OP, and then immediately thereafter there's a very supportive post about OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, ignore all the posters who are suggesting that her attitude is because you underpaid her. It sounds like you were clear about the expectations of the job and the wage up front, and she accepted the job based on those terms. For additional/different work, I presume you asked and didn't just expect her to do it...and you offered additional compensation. This stuff about booming economy and her great credentials is nonsense. If it were true, she could have quit earlier for a better job.

All of that said, though, I'm confused about what you are looking for. Maybe she could have been a little more polite, but it doesn't sound like she did anything wrong or particularly rude. Are you upset that she didn't say good bye to your kid, which is kind of a crappy thing for a nanny not to do? Because everything else sounds like a weird thing to expect from a relatively short-term employee.

The nanny did quit early what sounds like a pretty easy job. So, yeah, I would guess she found something else.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$20 is a low rate, which is probably reasonable for a cushy job like yours, but you can’t expect her to love it.

OH PLEASE $20 an hour for watching a 10 year old do virtual learning is great. This isn't changing diapers, dealing with whiny toddlers, etc etc. Come on people! Don't believe the nannies here.

Sure, OP, whatever you say. You hired a college graduate with relatively higher credentials than most nannies in a booming job market, and asked her to do stuff outside her scope of work. I'm not a nanny, and I have the employer tax software to prove it. But if you're going to be so defensive about what people are trying to tell you, I'm not sure why you bothered to post here. Just bask in your supreme righteousness and move on.

OP and that wasn’t me above, nor were any of the other “team OP” posts.. Interesting how the opinions here are so divided.

OP here, no sockpuppeting (funny term!). I know it is hard to process, but apparently some people agree w me. However, that’s not why I posted. I’m really looking to learn what I can from this situation but opinion seems split along nanny/employer lines.


I think there is a lot of sockpuppeting on "team OP" posts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$20 is a low rate, which is probably reasonable for a cushy job like yours, but you can’t expect her to love it.

OH PLEASE $20 an hour for watching a 10 year old do virtual learning is great. This isn't changing diapers, dealing with whiny toddlers, etc etc. Come on people! Don't believe the nannies here.

Sure, OP, whatever you say. You hired a college graduate with relatively higher credentials than most nannies in a booming job market, and asked her to do stuff outside her scope of work. I'm not a nanny, and I have the employer tax software to prove it. But if you're going to be so defensive about what people are trying to tell you, I'm not sure why you bothered to post here. Just bask in your supreme righteousness and move on.

OP and that wasn’t me above, nor were any of the other “team OP” posts.. Interesting how the opinions here are so divided.

OP here, no sockpuppeting (funny term!). I know it is hard to process, but apparently some people agree w me. However, that’s not why I posted. I’m really looking to learn what I can from this situation but opinion seems split along nanny/employer lines.


I think there is a lot of sockpuppeting on "team OP" posts.

Except that it's not split that way OP. I'm an employer who had the same nanny for 8 years until my kids aged out, and she still talks to our kids (and us) regularly. The nanny-parent relationship isn't the same as the average employee. You tried to nickel and dime a college grad during a pandemic and it failed.

[Anonymous]

DP. My nanny likes to take my DD to her place once a week. It allows them to hang out in her environment and perhaps visit a nearby park or store. She would probably do it more often but I want DD at our house for the remainder of the week. I am puzzled that pps think OP makes her do this when clearly the nanny requested it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$20 is a low rate, which is probably reasonable for a cushy job like yours, but you can’t expect her to love it.

OH PLEASE $20 an hour for watching a 10 year old do virtual learning is great. This isn't changing diapers, dealing with whiny toddlers, etc etc. Come on people! Don't believe the nannies here.

Sure, OP, whatever you say. You hired a college graduate with relatively higher credentials than most nannies in a booming job market, and asked her to do stuff outside her scope of work. I'm not a nanny, and I have the employer tax software to prove it. But if you're going to be so defensive about what people are trying to tell you, I'm not sure why you bothered to post here. Just bask in your supreme righteousness and move on.

OP and that wasn’t me above, nor were any of the other “team OP” posts.. Interesting how the opinions here are so divided.

Long-time poster here. If you suspect sockpuppeting, you can have Jeff check the thread on Website Feedback. Seems like typical DCUM back-and-forth to me.

I think there is a lot of sockpuppeting on "team OP" posts.

Agreed. OP will post as OP, and then immediately thereafter there's a very supportive post about OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DP. My nanny likes to take my DD to her place once a week. It allows them to hang out in her environment and perhaps visit a nearby park or store. She would probably do it more often but I want DD at our house for the remainder of the week. I am puzzled that pps think OP makes her do this when clearly the nanny requested it.

No one said OP made her do this. A few posters pointed out that in having the kid over to the nanny's house most of the time (as OP said occurred due to some issue involving a move), the nanny could incur more costs (utilities etc.).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DP. My nanny likes to take my DD to her place once a week. It allows them to hang out in her environment and perhaps visit a nearby park or store. She would probably do it more often but I want DD at our house for the remainder of the week. I am puzzled that pps think OP makes her do this when clearly the nanny requested it.

She initially did it without asking and then later demanded it. This was a really a teach for me bc she lives with her boyfriend and I was not excited about an unapproved adult in their home, on top of which BF works “in agriculture” aka the cannabis industry and I didn’t want him in an environment where that might be a feature/normalized.