Staying in the room at the pediatrician

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Anonymous wrote:Youths are sexual beings (as are we). They should talk about sexual health with a medical professional. They aren't going to open up in front of mommy. Some of you who refuse to leave already know this, thus you don't leave. You want your teenagers to be sexless babies forever.

Youth are sexual beings
Really pedo?

Get over yourself Puritan PP! Yes, most children start thinking about sexuality in their preteens - that is perfectly healthy and developmentally appropriate. The average age of first intercourse has been rising in recent years, but half of American teens have had first intercourse prior to age 18. Beyond intercourse, many more American teens are engaging in oral sex in their earlier teens because they believe it’s a safer option and ‘isn’t really sex’. This is one very good reason to get your kids the HPV vaccine as soon as they’re eligible (age 11/12, I believe?).

The terms Youth and Sexual Beings are polar opposites.

Good luck with that.

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its so they can ask about sex, drugs and smoking. its important.
also, if you dont trust your doctor enough to leave your teen in there for 5 minutes you need to get another doctor

[Anonymous]

I always leave! I go in with my child, talk bout anything relevant updates, and then I said "I will be in the waiting room. Let me know if you need me!". I want my 14 year old to ask questions, be honest and take ownership of his health!

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Ours gives teens a mental-health questionnaire beforehand, and they go over that as well.

So not just sex and drugs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I always leave! I go in with my child, talk bout anything relevant updates, and then I said "I will be in the waiting room. Let me know if you need me!". I want my 14 year old to ask questions, be honest and take ownership of his health!

Why can't he talk to the doctor and take ownership of his health with an adult there? A good doctor will talk to them and not you except to fill in where help is needed.

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Anonymous wrote:I have been asked to leave the room for a portion of the visit since DC turned 13. I assume it's to ask questions about drugs/alcohol/abuse. Is this not the norm?

I leave for her to ask him questions, but I stay for the entire actual exam (even the private part).

Yucky. How would you have felt if your Mom/Dad had done that?

I spent three years changing his diaper and six years giving him baths. I think he can handle me seeing his twig and berries for thirty seconds a year.

Wow. How old is your kid?

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Anonymous wrote:I have been asked to leave the room for a portion of the visit since DC turned 13. I assume it's to ask questions about drugs/alcohol/abuse. Is this not the norm?

I leave for her to ask him questions, but I stay for the entire actual exam (even the private part).

Yucky. How would you have felt if your Mom/Dad had done that?

I spent three years changing his diaper and six years giving him baths. I think he can handle me seeing his twig and berries for thirty seconds a year.

Jesus, lady. You need some boundaries and your kids deserve privacy. I have teen and older boys. They ran around the house with no or minimal clothing for years, too. Doesn't mean that I didn't leave the exam room for their privacy during a doctor's visit when they were teens.

Or to turn it around, I spent years chasing diapers on my DD, bathing her until she was able to do it herself, etc. I am a father.
I have no need to be in the room when DD is examined. And she is very open with me, but because I respect her privacy,

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There are things the doctor needs to know that teens don’t want to tell their parents. Leave the room.

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Anonymous wrote:I am surprised at so many being ok with kids alone. We were at the doctor today and they offered an escort even with a parent if you wanted. As a female, when I go to the doctor, any exam with a mail where its more than just ears/basics there is always a female escort in there. It is not only to protect the patient but also doctor as an accusation can ruin a doctors career.

Seriously? My GP is a man, and I’m always alone with him when I get my physical. If you don’t trust your doctor not to molest you, maybe find another doctor?

Wow. I didn’t think that happened anymore. Always now with a female PA or nurse in the room. It’s for both the patient’s protection and the doc’s protection against false accusations and lawsuits. In fact in many practices even female docs will have a nurse in the room for physicals and gyn exams now, to protect against accusations and lawsuits.

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Anonymous wrote:I am surprised at so many being ok with kids alone. We were at the doctor today and they offered an escort even with a parent if you wanted. As a female, when I go to the doctor, any exam with a mail where its more than just ears/basics there is always a female escort in there. It is not only to protect the patient but also doctor as an accusation can ruin a doctors career.

Seriously? My GP is a man, and I’m always alone with him when I get my physical. If you don’t trust your doctor not to molest you, maybe find another doctor?

Wow. I didn’t think that happened anymore. Always now with a female PA or nurse in the room. It’s for both the patient’s protection and the doc’s protection against false accusations and lawsuits. In fact in many practices even female docs will have a nurse in the room for physicals and gyn exams now, to protect against accusations and lawsuits.

Of course it still happens. Some doctors follow the practice, some don't. You should not send a child, even a teen who may not speak up alone with a stranger while they get examined.

And, not all of us have doctor choice. We are with a large health care system and often you cannot get an appointment with your assigned doctor and even if you do you often don't get to see them. I usually have why husband come when I am concerned. I've had issues with fake breast exams.

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My friend has a pediatrician he and his wife loved. Has cared for all 3 of their children who are not 15, 13, and 11. The pediatrician was just arrested for assaulting a child as young as 2. They're devastated.

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This happened this year w physical. I was there and then asked to step out. 14 yo male.

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Anonymous wrote:This happened this year w physical. I was there and then asked to step out. 14 yo male.

I trust her. It was brief. Have worked w her since son was 2 years old. She’s been remarkable to us as a family.

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Anonymous wrote:Ours gives teens a mental-health questionnaire beforehand, and they go over that as well.

So not just sex and drugs.

Exactly this. Including abuse or bullying. Things they may not say w parent present.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Youths are sexual beings (as are we). They should talk about sexual health with a medical professional. They aren't going to open up in front of mommy. Some of you who refuse to leave already know this, thus you don't leave. You want your teenagers to be sexless babies forever.

Youth are sexual beings
Really pedo?

Get over yourself Puritan PP! Yes, most children start thinking about sexuality in their preteens - that is perfectly healthy and developmentally appropriate. The average age of first intercourse has been rising in recent years, but half of American teens have had first intercourse prior to age 18. Beyond intercourse, many more American teens are engaging in oral sex in their earlier teens because they believe it’s a safer option and ‘isn’t really sex’. This is one very good reason to get your kids the HPV vaccine as soon as they’re eligible (age 11/12, I believe?).

The terms Youth and Sexual Beings are polar opposites.

I’m sorry for your obviously very damaging upbringing.