God, I hate my husband

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Every day this forum reminds me why I stay away from men.
Ladies, I hope it gets better for each of you soon.

+1

Lesbian here. My wife and I have our issues but damn. Could not have made it with a dude even if I had wanted to.

Just as it’s ridiculous to generalize about all women, it’s ridiculous to generalize about all men.

- A woman who is happy in her marriage to a man

I'm not really generalizing.

https://www.them.us/story/gay-marriage-is-better

https://www.apa.org/monitor/2013/04/same-sex

https://www.advocate.com/people/2020/2/13/study-gay-people-have-happier-marriages-straight-people

Anecdotally speaking, we have tons of married friends - gay and straight. From those observations alone, I stand by what I said. Of course not every man is the same, and that's not what I said.

Not the first time straight ladies have gotten butt hurt over this observation on DCUM.

I’m not straight; I’m bi. I just happen to be married to a man.

Also, none of your links actually prove that heterosexual marriages are less stressful or last longer than same-sex marriages. One of them says it’s too early to tell, based on the data available, and the other two links show that men in hetero marriages and women in same-sex marriages show similar stress levels.

“A recent study found that same-sex couples generally feel more satisfied in their marriages than heterosexual couples do.” Does more satisfied not mean less stressful to you?

Also - “Heterosexual marriages ‘are more subject to tension, miscommunication and resentment than same-sex relationships,’ the Times wrote, suggesting that the disparity is caused by typical gender roles and expectations.”

Are all men the same? No.

Are all same sex relationships perfect? No.

But the fact remains that we had to work harder and put more effort into the families that we have and that we made and therefore we are often more cognizant about putting in the work to make our spouses happier. As a bisexual woman you must also recognize the privilege you have in being able to identify as bi while reaping the benefits that heterosexual couples enjoy.

Happy to keep going if you want.

[Anonymous]

Love him, the snoring is driving me batshit. He needs a cpap. And has the coverage for proper sleep study. Go, man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Love him, the snoring is driving me batshit. He needs a cpap. And has the coverage for proper sleep study. Go, man.

A Cpap changed our lives! We are both sleeping better, which changes everything. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. After reading this thread I just went and gave my h of 24 years a huge kiss on the lips. So many of you married poorly!

Thank you for coming here just to brag about your perfect marriage. A lot of it is luck you know. You are not smarter than everyone else.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. After reading this thread I just went and gave my h of 24 years a huge kiss on the lips. So many of you married poorly!

Thank you for coming here just to brag about your perfect marriage. A lot of it is luck you know. You are not smarter than everyone else.

I would have said the same thing a year ago. Very happy marriage, great sex, lots of fun and respect...and then I discovered his incredibly well-hidden multi-year affair with a married woman.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. After reading this thread I just went and gave my h of 24 years a huge kiss on the lips. So many of you married poorly!

Thank you for coming here just to brag about your perfect marriage. A lot of it is luck you know. You are not smarter than everyone else.

I would have said the same thing a year ago. Very happy marriage, great sex, lots of fun and respect...and then I discovered his incredibly well-hidden multi-year affair with a married woman.

Exactly. First husband never had a clue he was horrible with money and would change jobs a lot. Made a good amount of money, but didn't have squat when he died. He new wife is no where near retiring whereas my current DH has 2 great retirements and I no longer have to work.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. After reading this thread I just went and gave my h of 24 years a huge kiss on the lips. So many of you married poorly!

Wonderful for you but I venture to guess that empathy is not your strong suit ifjavascript:void(0); you are posting this comment here!!!

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. We just moved into a bigger house that I really didn’t want to, because I felt like I was trapping myself. I am mostly happier because I have more space to myself, but it’s also an albatross. Tomorrow he’ll act like everything’s back to normal. He can never apologize or grow from his mistakes.

Same here. DH never apologizes and will not address his issues. I married Mr. Perfect. It's never him, it's me. I'm the source of all problems. If I dare complain about something or ask him to address something, he lashes out and gets snide because how dare I.

Same here! I married mr perfect too and every day that goes by I hate him more and more. He will turn everything around to my fault. I can NEVER complain about anything too because he gives me the same how dare I. The dog he brought home shit in the kitchen and when I brought it to his attention he said it was the cats fault. Because the cat opened the door to our bedroom during the night and let the dog out.

This is a prime example of how so many marriages are trash - the people in them are stupid. What does it matter if the dog HE brought home shit on the floor, or the cat (presumably "yours") facilitated it? Just imagining having such stupid thoughts is lowering my IQ as I read your post

My point was that I can never bring the dogs(husbands) bad behavior his attention without him turning it back to being my fault. How bout, “oh shoot honey Im sorry I should’ve given the dog more than 32 seconds to do her business last night”..

This is the problem with most people in life, particularly men. The ego. Put this on the nightstand- https://www.amazon.com/Ego-Enemy-Ryan-Holiday/dp/1591847818

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Love him, the snoring is driving me batshit. He needs a cpap. And has the coverage for proper sleep study. Go, man.

A Cpap changed our lives! We are both sleeping better, which changes everything. Good luck!

Well thanks to my husbands first wife he wears a cpap so he doesn’t snore but he will flip over during the night and that wakes me up because he’s on the heavy side and it bounces me up about 2 feet! Ugh I haven’t slept well since his last trip out of town.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Wow, this took off. I don't hate my husband right now; we've had a good few days. He took to heart some of what I said to him. Hey is a very good person who has his moments. I would say the same for myself. Hope many you also see better days ahead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Wow, this took off. I don't hate my husband right now; we've had a good few days. He took to heart some of what I said to him. Hey is a very good person who has his moments. I would say the same for myself. Hope many you also see better days ahead.

Sounds like you are in a happy place for now. Well, at least until the next quarterly big blow-up fight.

[Anonymous]

I hate my wife. She has cheated on me multiple times, is always nasty to me and our children, refuses to do any cooking, cleaning, or even helping the children with schoolwork. She basically just lives in our house and demands others serve her. Our kids hate her and want nothing to do with her.

I wish I was smart enough to have divorced her the last time she cheated. She'll do it again though, and when she does she will be gone. I do not want to grow old with her and as soon as our last kid is out of the house I'm selling and moving on without her. Thank God we live in an at-fault state.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate my wife. She has cheated on me multiple times, is always nasty to me and our children, refuses to do any cooking, cleaning, or even helping the children with schoolwork. She basically just lives in our house and demands others serve her. Our kids hate her and want nothing to do with her.

I wish I was smart enough to have divorced her the last time she cheated. She'll do it again though, and when she does she will be gone. I do not want to grow old with her and as soon as our last kid is out of the house I'm selling and moving on without her. Thank God we live in an at-fault state.

WTH are you waiting for? Even your kids hate her.

She has already cheated on you MULTIPLE times. Why wait for the next one?

I would have thrown her *ss out of the house, long before there were 'multiple' other men.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I hate my wife. She has cheated on me multiple times, is always nasty to me and our children, refuses to do any cooking, cleaning, or even helping the children with schoolwork. She basically just lives in our house and demands others serve her. Our kids hate her and want nothing to do with her.

I wish I was smart enough to have divorced her the last time she cheated. She'll do it again though, and when she does she will be gone. I do not want to grow old with her and as soon as our last kid is out of the house I'm selling and moving on without her. Thank God we live in an at-fault state.

WTH are you waiting for? Even your kids hate her.

She has already cheated on you MULTIPLE times. Why wait for the next one?

I would have thrown her *ss out of the house, long before there were 'multiple' other men.

Agree.

If this "is always nasty to me and our children, refuses to do any cooking, cleaning, or even helping the children with schoolwork. She basically just lives in our house and demands others serve her. Our kids hate her and want nothing to do with her."

isn't enough reason for divorce I don't know what is.

OP, she's nasty at home and a complete and utter faultless sweetheart to the all those men she f*cks. She paints you out to be the villain. And, she obviously could care less about her kids.

Do her a favor, let her go be the whore she wants to be and let someone else deal with her. Her true colors will come out when the next one actually has to live with her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I hate my wife. She has cheated on me multiple times, is always nasty to me and our children, refuses to do any cooking, cleaning, or even helping the children with schoolwork. She basically just lives in our house and demands others serve her. Our kids hate her and want nothing to do with her.

I wish I was smart enough to have divorced her the last time she cheated. She'll do it again though, and when she does she will be gone. I do not want to grow old with her and as soon as our last kid is out of the house I'm selling and moving on without her. Thank God we live in an at-fault state.

WTH are you waiting for? Even your kids hate her.

She has already cheated on you MULTIPLE times. Why wait for the next one?

I would have thrown her *ss out of the house, long before there were 'multiple' other men.

Agree.

If this "is always nasty to me and our children, refuses to do any cooking, cleaning, or even helping the children with schoolwork. She basically just lives in our house and demands others serve her. Our kids hate her and want nothing to do with her."

isn't enough reason for divorce I don't know what is.

OP, she's nasty at home and a complete and utter faultless sweetheart to the all those men she f*cks. She paints you out to be the villain. And, she obviously could care less about her kids.

Do her a favor, let her go be the whore she wants to be and let someone else deal with her. Her true colors will come out when the next one actually has to live with her.

How old are your kids?