God, I hate my husband

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Anonymous wrote:Me too.

Mine is an abusive bully to me and the kids. My oldest is exhibiting symptoms of anxiety now. God forbid I address the way he behaves towards her and experience his wrath. We're all on eggshells, just how he likes it.

I'm not saying he's a narcissist but when I google the things he says and does, pathological narcissism is what comes up. Every time.

Why are you living like this? He is damaging your kids. Get out.

DP.. here's the thing.. if she leaves, more than likely they will get joint custody. On the days that the father has the kid, OP won't be there to be a buffer.

I'd rather live with this ahole than allow my kids to be subjected to his a$$holery alone.

No you can document abuse. Kid can go see a counselor to document the effects. She is not protecting her kids. Period.

I am the PP you're referring to and I discussed documenting his abuse with my divorce attorney. She said unless it's horrific and I can prove it's ongoing without resorting to secret recordings (MD is a two party consent state) than to count on 50/50 custody. My abusive husband made it clear if I tried to paint him in a negative light during divorce hearings, he would go full tilt on allegations that I am he abusive one. The main difference is that he has a lot more money to spend on lawyers than I do. I am using free legal aid, he has a team of the best on retainer.

How wonderful for you that you don't seem to be able to grasp the nuances involved with leaving an abuser. Consider yourself lucky that you've not fallen into the web of one of them. Perhaps if you have a daughter, she will. Keep that in mind while judging me.

PP Thanks for sharing the info about documenting abuse with an attorney. What an absolutely terrible system. I hope that you come out okay after the divorce. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Op here. Well I guess it lasted 6 months, not three. But yes, hate my husband again who decided to blow his top 6 days before Xmas. Wtf. I am tired of him saying he would do something and then not doing it, so when he realized that the pile of dishes would keep growing until he tackled it, he lost his sh*t. Also, my dd said that he loves her more than out son and how bad she feels about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Same. Can't even find a couples counselor - they're all booked up.

Interesting, my wife and I are struggling and it's hard to find a counselor where we are too

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Anonymous wrote:I really used to hate my husband until he died.

Lucky you. I prayed for death but it didn't work so I divorced him.

I’m still hoping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every day this forum reminds me why I stay away from men.
Ladies, I hope it gets better for each of you soon.

Same. I used to date occasionally for sex, but even the young hot ones can’t seem to brush their teeth or wipe their asses properly. Utterly useless people.
And before all the men chime in, I recently bought a new house and my movers and contractors were all women.