Question for people who actually know cheating couples

[Anonymous]

The OW in my case wasnt stunning. She was cute enough - kind of like I'm cute enough. I think my XH got close to her because they talked and confided in eachother. He told me it was not about her looks, it was not a competition between me and her (to him. To ME, it felt like a competition that I lost). I'm sure she was more exciting in bed at the time - she was new to him.

On the inside, I feel like she was a major downgrade. He traded me for her. She is disloyal, dishonest, was screwing random other guys in her house while her kids were home when her husband was working night shift. She was "cheating" on my husband with other guys (yes, lol, what a sentence. Life is ridiculous). I was super jealous at first, but my husband really asked for and deserves that quality of woman. Not that he got her... they broke up and she is on to the next. I used to fantasize about having a confrontation with her. Now, I would have absolutely nothing to say to her. I massively upgraded my life, bought a much nicer home than my ex, am raising my kids, and succeeding professionally. As far as I'm aware, she still has a second job at Wal Mart.

[Anonymous]

Halle Berry got cheated on. Candice Swanepoel got cheated on. Men are dumb.

[Anonymous]

Man here who works in an industry (think wealthy men who travel a lot) and cheating is rampant. Affairs, not so much. Are we making the distinction of short term sex (cheating) v.long term commitment and professions if love (affairs).

Men cheat down but affair up. You don't hear of the cheating unless someone is dumb enough to get caught.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here who works in an industry (think wealthy men who travel a lot) and cheating is rampant. Affairs, not so much. Are we making the distinction of short term sex (cheating) v.long term commitment and professions if love (affairs).

Men cheat down but affair up. You don't hear of the cheating unless someone is dumb enough to get caught.

And many women who consider themselves in affairs are really just available partners for cheating. Big difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Halle Berry got cheated on. Candice Swanepoel got cheated on. Men are dumb.

Liz Hurley. Lots of the most gorgeous women alive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here who works in an industry (think wealthy men who travel a lot) and cheating is rampant. Affairs, not so much. Are we making the distinction of short term sex (cheating) v.long term commitment and professions if love (affairs).

Men cheat down but affair up. You don't hear of the cheating unless someone is dumb enough to get caught.

And many women who consider themselves in affairs are really just available partners for cheating. Big difference.

This. The length of time doesn’t matter. If it’s just a f@ck once or twice a month to the guy who wants to just keep free sex going, it’s like taking a good dump. Women often read way more into it and are busy fantasizing about an exit/new life—even when directly told it isn’t going anywhere. They still think they can change his mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here who works in an industry (think wealthy men who travel a lot) and cheating is rampant. Affairs, not so much. Are we making the distinction of short term sex (cheating) v.long term commitment and professions if love (affairs).

Men cheat down but affair up. You don't hear of the cheating unless someone is dumb enough to get caught.

And many women who consider themselves in affairs are really just available partners for cheating. Big difference.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The OW in my case wasnt stunning. She was cute enough - kind of like I'm cute enough. I think my XH got close to her because they talked and confided in eachother. He told me it was not about her looks, it was not a competition between me and her (to him. To ME, it felt like a competition that I lost). I'm sure she was more exciting in bed at the time - she was new to him.

On the inside, I feel like she was a major downgrade. He traded me for her. She is disloyal, dishonest, was screwing random other guys in her house while her kids were home when her husband was working night shift. She was "cheating" on my husband with other guys (yes, lol, what a sentence. Life is ridiculous). I was super jealous at first, but my husband really asked for and deserves that quality of woman. Not that he got her... they broke up and she is on to the next. I used to fantasize about having a confrontation with her. Now, I would have absolutely nothing to say to her. I massively upgraded my life, bought a much nicer home than my ex, am raising my kids, and succeeding professionally. As far as I'm aware, she still has a second job at Wal Mart.

Cheaters cheating on their AP is actually really common. It’s pretty frickin absurd. Ex’s AP would get very angry and stalked everyone of our acquaintances on social media and get worked up and hysterical with accusations he was cheating on her...yet he was still screwing me. You can’t make this crazy stuff up. So screwing his wife is okay—but how dare he screw another woman he’s not married to. Crazy, crazy, cray-cray

[Anonymous]

^ oh and he confessed he was thinking of cheating on her because she was such a PIA in not that pleasant—but it would take too much time and effort to find a new AP Cheaters are messed up

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ oh and he confessed he was thinking of cheating on her because she was such a PIA in not that pleasant—but it would take too much time and effort to find a new AP Cheaters are messed up

I think she was that way because she most likely was cheating on him. Her prior married AP had cheated on her with random women. And, yes, this is why the potential STI situation for the poor married clueless partners is so great.

[Anonymous]

I keep waiting to see me described here, as I think a friend of mine comes to DCUM regularly, and she knows my history.

I was an OW. I'm not prettier as the wife. She's pretty (like a composite picture of hundreds of women), and has very regular features. I'm definitely less symetrical!

I, however, definitely had a better body. I workout and stay fit and in shape, she was about 40 pounds overweight.

I'll stand firm that I have the better personality (although not morals). I didn't particularly like the wife when I met her (before I met her husband). She has one of those personalities that strikes me as disingenuous, so we never really clicked.

[Anonymous]

Cheaters cheating on their AP is actually really common.

I get the impression the AP really broke my ex. He thought they had something special. She contributed to 2 marriages blowing up at the same workplace. 😂

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I keep waiting to see me described here, as I think a friend of mine comes to DCUM regularly, and she knows my history.

I was an OW. I'm not prettier as the wife. She's pretty (like a composite picture of hundreds of women), and has very regular features. I'm definitely less symetrical!

I, however, definitely had a better body. I workout and stay fit and in shape, she was about 40 pounds overweight.

I'll stand firm that I have the better personality (although not morals). I didn't particularly like the wife when I met her (before I met her husband). She has one of those personalities that strikes me as disingenuous, so we never really clicked.

A cheater calling someone else disgenguous. Sweet