Question for people who actually know cheating couples

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only person who sounds bitter and angry is OP.

I've got no skin in this game. Just shower thoughts.

- OP

[Anonymous]

Internet affairs: always a downgrade. Classy women don’t usually whore themselves out on cheating websites.
Office affairs: mixed bag. Usually wife is a SAHM and husband spent too much time at work. It can go either way.
Old man/young woman: she is usually not hotter than the wife was at the same age. Youth is only thing on her side.

I guess we really need a thread about the OM!!

How do they compare to the husband’s???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread, like the others, will probably devolve into bitter wives slinging over-the-top insults at all OW writ large, but I'm curious...

The old trope that men affair down, does it actually bear out among the cheaters you know?

It's repeated so often, I used to accept that fact, but when I actually think about the cheating men I personally know, their wives are overweight and haggard and the OW are all more attractive, if only because they're more sexual. As in, since they are still interested in sex, they put more effort into their appearance.

I know we'll hear about the 50-year-old Ashley Madison woman and the ugly redhead that looks like a witch (stop already), but in my experience the OW are all lightyears more attractive than the wives.

She was one in the same

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was a hot wife, remain a hot divorcee, am everyone’s hot ex, and if I was an betrayed partner and defiled as an unknowing OW by a lying beGilesnake is going to reap the deceit he frolicked in and hissed about in his hole. He he will WISH he had feet to help slow the slither that awaits such an unrepentant, proud, deceiving, ignorant, trifeling serpent that will always be under my feet.


Assuming he didn’t like about his faith too, 5 min of YouTube church ain’t enough to truly feed you with what you need to shed that skin. It is in God’s hands.

I don’t know any cheaters. If I know them I’m not aware that they’re cheating. The cheaters I knew before are dead to me now.

I deeply want to understand this but enjoyed it, Jabberwocky-style, nonetheless.

LOL! Thanks, friend. It is a jabberwocky kind of day. You helped make mine a little bit brighter with your kindness.

[Anonymous]

My friend whose husband cheated on her was gorgeous. Killer body and looks. All the husbands drool over, but she’s so nice nobody gets jealous.
Fwiw, her husband was mega-hot too. I didn’t see a photo of OW- but other friends said she was homely. They really seemed head over heels in love, sad all the way around.

Our female neighbor that cheated affaired down—shorter, stockier cheesy guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Internet affairs: always a downgrade. Classy women don’t usually whore themselves out on cheating websites.
Office affairs: mixed bag. Usually wife is a SAHM and husband spent too much time at work. It can go either way.
Old man/young woman: she is usually not hotter than the wife was at the same age. Youth is only thing on her side.

I guess we really need a thread about the OM!!

How do they compare to the husband’s???

Yes. Someone please weigh in. So tired of people acting like there aren’t tons of married women cheating. There were a few betrayed husbands posting- maybe they can answer.

[Anonymous]

My BFF's (thin, athletic, very ambitious and accomplished) DH cheated on her and left her for very curvy, more outwardly sexual in dress, but basically dumb dental hygienist. Better looking is in the eye of the beholder, right - depends on what you find attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. The only people I know cheating are men in the medical field. Typical tale as old as time. 40-50 something surgeon/Dr becomes smitten with 20-30 something cute nurse/PA. Starts affair, leaves wife and starts family #2. The women are much younger than wife, single, very pretty and usually transition to SAHM.

I don’t know any cheating married women.

1. They're much busier and may not have time for cheating.
2. If they do, they're obviously more competent at it.

SAHMs with kids or teens out of the house all day are NOT busier.

I will give you that a working mom is also busy running the house/dinners/transport, etc so very time strapped.

[Anonymous]

I think we can leave it at: the cheaters are morally corrupt, dishonest liars. That’s ugly no matter the outer shell.

[Anonymous]

In my experience the OW are equally as attractive or less than the wife. It more attractive it is only because the OW is younger than wife.

[Anonymous]

I feel like I’m the only person who didn’t aware of cheating going on with anybody I know. Literally can’t think of a single person ever. I don’t want in on the drama, and yet I feel left out!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think we can leave it at: the cheaters are morally corrupt, dishonest liars. That’s ugly no matter the outer shell.

My mom always said, you got to remove any ugly on the inside if you want to let that beauty glow on the outside. Mama knows!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like I’m the only person who didn’t aware of cheating going on with anybody I know. Literally can’t think of a single person ever. I don’t want in on the drama, and yet I feel left out!

Says more good about you than you know. Some things are good to be left out of and kept far from. Like prison. Or debt. Or the fiery gates of hell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like I’m the only person who didn’t aware of cheating going on with anybody I know. Literally can’t think of a single person ever. I don’t want in on the drama, and yet I feel left out!

Says more good about you than you know. Some things are good to be left out of and kept far from. Like prison. Or debt. Or the fiery gates of hell.

I was that way until I hit my 50s. Marriages blowing up (not my family or anyone in extended family) all around me--work, neighborhood, kids' friends. Middle aged people get weird and you start seeing a lot of 'oh my god, never would I thought' type stuff.

I literally did not even know a single divorced person or have a friend with a divorced parent until 2 years ago. There are no divorces in my family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think we can leave it at: the cheaters are morally corrupt, dishonest liars. That’s ugly no matter the outer shell.

My mom always said, you got to remove any ugly on the inside if you want to let that beauty glow on the outside. Mama knows!

Hiding in the shadows and gaslighting and lying is not a good look. Says so much negative about a person.