Annoying message on Facebook from SIL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, MLMs are the worst. The manipulative twaddle of "because we're family" is all out of the playbook they give them upon signup. You can find copies of them online.

When you try to say no thanks or to give them factual information about the garbage business model that is MLM, you get the same answers: well, MINE is different and special, I'm just doing it for the discount and/or my vision board says I'm going to be able to retire my husband by selling pizza stones that cost 3x of comparable products from businesses that DON'T screw women and their downlines because you will feel obligated and sorry for me.

Hard pass.

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[Anonymous]

This thread just prompted me to find my one Facebook friend who is hosting an online party (and there’s always one)- I just ordered a bunch of Pampered Chef stuff. It lasts forever and there are some great things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:SIL messaged me on FB Messenger out of the blue saying she's joined Pampered Chef as a side job and tells me "please take a look" at their products. I described it as Avon for kitchen utensils to DH and he says we ought to buy something even though I say we don't need anything because "it's family". I'm annoyed that she's soliciting me and I regret sharing about this with DH! How to tell her that she's being duped and that what she's doing is gauche?

Actually, PC is probably the only one of these sales things that actually has good products. Cooking stones. Mixing bowls. And some accessories. Just buy one thing and move on. Lecturing her won't change anything. Buy something small and ignore future requests. If she asks you to host a party, just say you're not interested.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd be curious to know if this is your husband's sister or his SIL. You sound resentful.

I don't like be solicited to buy things, but I also have no problem just saying no. In this case, because it's family, I'd probably say we really don't need anything right now but that we would keep it in mind if we needed to buy a hostess gift or similar. And then either do it or forget about it -- I don't think you have any obligation.

But I think what is really happening here is that your SIL messaged you and you told your husband because you assumed he'd agree it was annoying, and instead he wanted to support your SIL (his sister?). I can see how that would be irritating because I do sometimes get annoyed with people and want my DH to share in my annoyance. But if it's his family, I recognize that may not be possible (sometimes it is, but you have to tread carefully), so I might take it somewhere else instead, usually to a friend.

In this case, I think you might be as annoyed with your DH for not agreeing it's dumb as you are with your SIL for doing the dumb thing. But you kind of walked right into it. Lesson learned.

OP here. SIL is not my DH's sister but his brother's wife. SIL has a habit of annoying me with personal questions like asking multiple times about planning for children ("Oh, you're sure you don't want children?" "I'll have another kid if you guys have one!") and I have kept my cool by simply giving short direct answers with no explanation. I'll just say 'No, we're not' and pretend to busy myself with something. She puts up with a lot from DH's brother's issues and she can be an emotional vampire over the phone. She's nice enough but dull and I have nothing in common with her nor do I sympathize with their money troubles. They're actually quite wasteful IMHO but I keep all these opinions to myself except on DCUM lol. DH, being a guy, kind of doesn't get it so yes, lesson learned for me to just not share next time.

OP you sound perfect. so peachy!!

YEah, you lost me too, OP. You sound like real jerk. There is absolutely nothing in this post that is horrid. Emotional vampire??? Takes one to know one, I guess.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I never thought I'd quote Taylor Swift, but "You need to calm down."

Surely you have ONE friend you could buy a gift for from Pampered Chef. 15 years ago I was hearing that their stuff was good.

Do you have kids? Well, at some point they will be selling some bullshit crap to raise money for something and you'll want SIL to buy something from them. This is how families work. Just buy something inexpensive as a gift for someone else, since you don't need anything.

Ridiculous. This isn't how families work. People should learn to be self-sufficient instead of harrassing family members.

+1

Agree completely.

[Anonymous]

I have no idea why the MLM lovers are coming down so hard on OP. Some of us just don't want extra crap in our house that we will never use - our kitchens are set up the way we like them, and we don't need extra crap. It is that simple.

If you need money, I'll give you money, but don't try to sell me crap.

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Anonymous wrote:I love Pampered Chef. Here is what you should buy:

Bar pan (have had mine for 12 years)
Brownie pan (your DH and ass will thank me)
Mix and Scrap spatula (it will complete you)

I have no need for any of those and I hate buying stuff that we don't need. Her DH (brothers with mine) complains that SIL buys a lot of stuff that they cannot even clear the basement for a remodel. Plus she doesn't cook at home 80% of the time so I'm puzzled why she's into this initiative.

Why the Eff does this bother you so much?
Seriously, how is this hurting you? Geez, you either buy a dang spatula or not but it’s not like she selling babies on the Internet it’s freaking kitchen stuff it affects you not a bit.

geez..why does this bother you so much. it bothers the op because now she has to say no or buy some crap she doesnt need.

Welcome to adulthood! This is what grownups do. And it's possible to do this without lecturing the SIL about it - because 1) it's a waste of time and 2) it's SIL's business what she spends her time on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I love Pampered Chef. Here is what you should buy:

Bar pan (have had mine for 12 years)
Brownie pan (your DH and ass will thank me)
Mix and Scrap spatula (it will complete you)

I have no need for any of those and I hate buying stuff that we don't need. Her DH (brothers with mine) complains that SIL buys a lot of stuff that they cannot even clear the basement for a remodel. Plus she doesn't cook at home 80% of the time so I'm puzzled why she's into this initiative.

Why the Eff does this bother you so much?
Seriously, how is this hurting you? Geez, you either buy a dang spatula or not but it’s not like she selling babies on the Internet it’s freaking kitchen stuff it affects you not a bit.

geez..why does this bother you so much. it bothers the op because now she has to say no or buy some crap she doesnt need.

Welcome to adulthood! This is what grownups do. And it's possible to do this without lecturing the SIL about it - because 1) it's a waste of time and 2) it's SIL's business what she spends her time on.

I would tell the SIL that you don't appreciate being solicited out of the blue. It's also not OP's business to support the SIL's new line of work. Maybe tell the BIL to get his wife to watch the new show on minimalism on TV? I would be so embarrassed to know my spouse was hassling family to get sales.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:SIL messaged me on FB Messenger out of the blue saying she's joined Pampered Chef as a side job and tells me "please take a look" at their products. I described it as Avon for kitchen utensils to DH and he says we ought to buy something even though I say we don't need anything because "it's family". I'm annoyed that she's soliciting me and I regret sharing about this with DH! How to tell her that she's being duped and that what she's doing is gauche?

You don't. That is your opinion, but lots of people (my SIL included) have had a lot of fun and some success being Pampered Chef reps.

You seem easily annoyed if this bothers you this much. From your SIL's perspective she is bringing your attention to something you might like/need. Your options are 1) listen to your spouse and spend $50 on a bar pan that you may or may not end up loving or 2) simply say " thanks but there is nothing you need right now. Good luck with the new business."

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Anonymous wrote:I have no idea why the MLM lovers are coming down so hard on OP. Some of us just don't want extra crap in our house that we will never use - our kitchens are set up the way we like them, and we don't need extra crap. It is that simple.

If you need money, I'll give you money, but don't try to sell me crap.

Then just say you're not interested. It really is not that difficult. And certainly no reason for coming on here and bitching about it.

And OP's post was obnoxious, whiny, and bitchy. Her f/u is even more so. She deserves the responses she got.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I never thought I'd quote Taylor Swift, but "You need to calm down."

Surely you have ONE friend you could buy a gift for from Pampered Chef. 15 years ago I was hearing that their stuff was good.

Do you have kids? Well, at some point they will be selling some bullshit crap to raise money for something and you'll want SIL to buy something from them. This is how families work. Just buy something inexpensive as a gift for someone else, since you don't need anything.

Ridiculous. This isn't how families work. People should learn to be self-sufficient instead of harrassing family members.

+1

Agree completely.

1 ask does not equal "Harassment." JFC, what a bunch of babies some of you are.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have no idea why the MLM lovers are coming down so hard on OP. Some of us just don't want extra crap in our house that we will never use - our kitchens are set up the way we like them, and we don't need extra crap. It is that simple.

If you need money, I'll give you money, but don't try to sell me crap.

Then just say you're not interested. It really is not that difficult. And certainly no reason for coming on here and bitching about it.

And OP's post was obnoxious, whiny, and bitchy. Her f/u is even more so. She deserves the responses she got.

Did you read about her past interactions with SIL? If you did, then you'll understand the OP. OP hasn't said anything to the SIL that indicates she's bitchy. Nothing wrong with whining on DCUM. We all do it!

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Anonymous wrote:SIL messaged me on FB Messenger out of the blue saying she's joined Pampered Chef as a side job and tells me "please take a look" at their products. I described it as Avon for kitchen utensils to DH and he says we ought to buy something even though I say we don't need anything because "it's family". I'm annoyed that she's soliciting me and I regret sharing about this with DH! How to tell her that she's being duped and that what she's doing is gauche?

You don't. That is your opinion, but lots of people (my SIL included) have had a lot of fun and some success being Pampered Chef reps.

You seem easily annoyed if this bothers you this much. From your SIL's perspective she is bringing your attention to something you might like/need. Your options are 1) listen to your spouse and spend $50 on a bar pan that you may or may not end up loving or 2) simply say " thanks but there is nothing you need right now. Good luck with the new business."

WTF is a bar pan? Also, I cannot understand the logic of these businesses. Everyone has the same product so how is one rep different from another? - DP

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Anonymous wrote:SIL messaged me on FB Messenger out of the blue saying she's joined Pampered Chef as a side job and tells me "please take a look" at their products. I described it as Avon for kitchen utensils to DH and he says we ought to buy something even though I say we don't need anything because "it's family". I'm annoyed that she's soliciting me and I regret sharing about this with DH! How to tell her that she's being duped and that what she's doing is gauche?

You don't. That is your opinion, but lots of people (my SIL included) have had a lot of fun and some success being Pampered Chef reps.

You seem easily annoyed if this bothers you this much. From your SIL's perspective she is bringing your attention to something you might like/need. Your options are 1) listen to your spouse and spend $50 on a bar pan that you may or may not end up loving or 2) simply say " thanks but there is nothing you need right now. Good luck with the new business."

WTF is a bar pan? Also, I cannot understand the logic of these businesses. Everyone has the same product so how is one rep different from another? - DP

FWIW, it is possible to be successful in these businesses. Yes, it's rare, and you also have to acknowledge that its not likely to be your primary source of income.

But my partner spent a few months setting up her business (not gonna name which). And now that its operational, she probably spends about 12-16 hours a month working on it, mostly from her phone, at home and pulls in between 1500 - 2000 a month. Def not enough to support a family, but its also a nice supplement to the other income streams.

You just have to pick the right business & product combo, and set realistic expectations

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Anonymous wrote:SIL messaged me on FB Messenger out of the blue saying she's joined Pampered Chef as a side job and tells me "please take a look" at their products. I described it as Avon for kitchen utensils to DH and he says we ought to buy something even though I say we don't need anything because "it's family". I'm annoyed that she's soliciting me and I regret sharing about this with DH! How to tell her that she's being duped and that what she's doing is gauche?

You don't. That is your opinion, but lots of people (my SIL included) have had a lot of fun and some success being Pampered Chef reps.

You seem easily annoyed if this bothers you this much. From your SIL's perspective she is bringing your attention to something you might like/need. Your options are 1) listen to your spouse and spend $50 on a bar pan that you may or may not end up loving or 2) simply say " thanks but there is nothing you need right now. Good luck with the new business."

WTF is a bar pan? Also, I cannot understand the logic of these businesses. Everyone has the same product so how is one rep different from another? - DP

Thats like asking why is one salesman better than another at a car dealership? They both have the same products to sell...