Annoying message on Facebook from SIL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd be curious to know if this is your husband's sister or his SIL. You sound resentful.

I don't like be solicited to buy things, but I also have no problem just saying no. In this case, because it's family, I'd probably say we really don't need anything right now but that we would keep it in mind if we needed to buy a hostess gift or similar. And then either do it or forget about it -- I don't think you have any obligation.

But I think what is really happening here is that your SIL messaged you and you told your husband because you assumed he'd agree it was annoying, and instead he wanted to support your SIL (his sister?). I can see how that would be irritating because I do sometimes get annoyed with people and want my DH to share in my annoyance. But if it's his family, I recognize that may not be possible (sometimes it is, but you have to tread carefully), so I might take it somewhere else instead, usually to a friend.

In this case, I think you might be as annoyed with your DH for not agreeing it's dumb as you are with your SIL for doing the dumb thing. But you kind of walked right into it. Lesson learned.

OP here. SIL is not my DH's sister but his brother's wife. SIL has a habit of annoying me with personal questions like asking multiple times about planning for children ("Oh, you're sure you don't want children?" "I'll have another kid if you guys have one!") and I have kept my cool by simply giving short direct answers with no explanation. I'll just say 'No, we're not' and pretend to busy myself with something. She puts up with a lot from DH's brother's issues and she can be an emotional vampire over the phone. She's nice enough but dull and I have nothing in common with her nor do I sympathize with their money troubles. They're actually quite wasteful IMHO but I keep all these opinions to myself except on DCUM lol. DH, being a guy, kind of doesn't get it so yes, lesson learned for me to just not share next time.

You are a peach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd be curious to know if this is your husband's sister or his SIL. You sound resentful.

I don't like be solicited to buy things, but I also have no problem just saying no. In this case, because it's family, I'd probably say we really don't need anything right now but that we would keep it in mind if we needed to buy a hostess gift or similar. And then either do it or forget about it -- I don't think you have any obligation.

But I think what is really happening here is that your SIL messaged you and you told your husband because you assumed he'd agree it was annoying, and instead he wanted to support your SIL (his sister?). I can see how that would be irritating because I do sometimes get annoyed with people and want my DH to share in my annoyance. But if it's his family, I recognize that may not be possible (sometimes it is, but you have to tread carefully), so I might take it somewhere else instead, usually to a friend.

In this case, I think you might be as annoyed with your DH for not agreeing it's dumb as you are with your SIL for doing the dumb thing. But you kind of walked right into it. Lesson learned.

OP here. SIL is not my DH's sister but his brother's wife. SIL has a habit of annoying me with personal questions like asking multiple times about planning for children ("Oh, you're sure you don't want children?" "I'll have another kid if you guys have one!") and I have kept my cool by simply giving short direct answers with no explanation. I'll just say 'No, we're not' and pretend to busy myself with something. She puts up with a lot from DH's brother's issues and she can be an emotional vampire over the phone. She's nice enough but dull and I have nothing in common with her nor do I sympathize with their money troubles. They're actually quite wasteful IMHO but I keep all these opinions to myself except on DCUM lol. DH, being a guy, kind of doesn't get it so yes, lesson learned for me to just not share next time.

You are a peach.

Can we all agree that SIL probably would annoy most of us too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd be curious to know if this is your husband's sister or his SIL. You sound resentful.

I don't like be solicited to buy things, but I also have no problem just saying no. In this case, because it's family, I'd probably say we really don't need anything right now but that we would keep it in mind if we needed to buy a hostess gift or similar. And then either do it or forget about it -- I don't think you have any obligation.

But I think what is really happening here is that your SIL messaged you and you told your husband because you assumed he'd agree it was annoying, and instead he wanted to support your SIL (his sister?). I can see how that would be irritating because I do sometimes get annoyed with people and want my DH to share in my annoyance. But if it's his family, I recognize that may not be possible (sometimes it is, but you have to tread carefully), so I might take it somewhere else instead, usually to a friend.

In this case, I think you might be as annoyed with your DH for not agreeing it's dumb as you are with your SIL for doing the dumb thing. But you kind of walked right into it. Lesson learned.

OP here. SIL is not my DH's sister but his brother's wife. SIL has a habit of annoying me with personal questions like asking multiple times about planning for children ("Oh, you're sure you don't want children?" "I'll have another kid if you guys have one!") and I have kept my cool by simply giving short direct answers with no explanation. I'll just say 'No, we're not' and pretend to busy myself with something. She puts up with a lot from DH's brother's issues and she can be an emotional vampire over the phone. She's nice enough but dull and I have nothing in common with her nor do I sympathize with their money troubles. They're actually quite wasteful IMHO but I keep all these opinions to myself except on DCUM lol. DH, being a guy, kind of doesn't get it so yes, lesson learned for me to just not share next time.

You are a peach.

Can we all agree that SIL probably would annoy most of us too?

No question. She seems insufferable. Whatever you do, OP, DO NOT buy anything from
Pampered Chef. Not only would it be disingenuous, it sets a precedent you don’t seem ready to manage.

[Anonymous]

Just ignore and don't reply. If she writes again, it will show that she is pushy.

[Anonymous]

Nope, don't support MLMs.

[Anonymous]

I honestly think that even a car salesperson has more savvy than a Pampered Chef 'consultant'. Selling cars is totally more respectable than hawking kitchen utensils for work.

[Anonymous]

Maybe just tell her you don’t buy products from MLMs. No different from Herbalife or Amway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I honestly think that even a car salesperson has more savvy than a Pampered Chef 'consultant'. Selling cars is totally more respectable than hawking kitchen utensils for work.

Well, I respect anyone putting in the work. And just like MLMs, there are salespeople at dealerships that work hard, and those that don't. Both lines of work are respectable.

And I also think you're wrong. the original question was how does one person do better than another when they are both selling the same product? and that person obviously doesn't understand the effect of a good salesperson.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I honestly think that even a car salesperson has more savvy than a Pampered Chef 'consultant'. Selling cars is totally more respectable than hawking kitchen utensils for work.

Well, I respect anyone putting in the work. And just like MLMs, there are salespeople at dealerships that work hard, and those that don't. Both lines of work are respectable.

And I also think you're wrong. the original question was how does one person do better than another when they are both selling the same product? and that person obviously doesn't understand the effect of a good salesperson.

Look up stories on Lularoe. Over saturated market of the ugliest leggings ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I honestly think that even a car salesperson has more savvy than a Pampered Chef 'consultant'. Selling cars is totally more respectable than hawking kitchen utensils for work.

Well, I respect anyone putting in the work. And just like MLMs, there are salespeople at dealerships that work hard, and those that don't. Both lines of work are respectable.

And I also think you're wrong. the original question was how does one person do better than another when they are both selling the same product? and that person obviously doesn't understand the effect of a good salesperson.

It’s not work messaging family to buy crap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I honestly think that even a car salesperson has more savvy than a Pampered Chef 'consultant'. Selling cars is totally more respectable than hawking kitchen utensils for work.

Totally different- people going to a dealership want to at least look at some cars and potentially buy. Getting messaged out of nowhere to buy MLM junk when you just want to go on facebook to see some baby and cat pics is totally different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I honestly think that even a car salesperson has more savvy than a Pampered Chef 'consultant'. Selling cars is totally more respectable than hawking kitchen utensils for work.

Well, I respect anyone putting in the work. And just like MLMs, there are salespeople at dealerships that work hard, and those that don't. Both lines of work are respectable.

And I also think you're wrong. the original question was how does one person do better than another when they are both selling the same product? and that person obviously doesn't understand the effect of a good salesperson.

It’s not work messaging family to buy crap.

+1. DH's SIL has cycled through the essential oils, lularoe, some sort of make-up (not MK), and is now onto the beachbody/milkshake thing. DH was quite offended she was trying to hit us up for money considering their HHI.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I honestly think that even a car salesperson has more savvy than a Pampered Chef 'consultant'. Selling cars is totally more respectable than hawking kitchen utensils for work.

Well, I respect anyone putting in the work. And just like MLMs, there are salespeople at dealerships that work hard, and those that don't. Both lines of work are respectable.

And I also think you're wrong. the original question was how does one person do better than another when they are both selling the same product? and that person obviously doesn't understand the effect of a good salesperson.

It’s not work messaging family to buy crap.

+1. DH's SIL has cycled through the essential oils, lularoe, some sort of make-up (not MK), and is now onto the beachbody/milkshake thing. DH was quite offended she was trying to hit us up for money considering their HHI.

I would tell SIL that she is being tacky by directing you to 'look through their products'. Who the hell is she to tell you to do anything? And the comment about having kids? Terrible. She needs to be put in her place.

[Anonymous]

Not to hijack this thread but I'm a DP who's being asked by my sister to lend her my Zoom account to host some stupid Pampered Chef party. So I totally feel your pain OP!

[Anonymous]

OP here and just had to post an update. I haven't responded to a single Facebook message from SIL for over a year but this morning, I woke up to a Facebook invite to her private Pampered Chef group *gag* . Girl, read the room!