So many who don’t like/respect parents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:and cut them off. And many people say that’s ok.

What happens when you don’t like who your children turned out to be?

I fully get this. Especially now. It’s a result of the everyone gets a trophy mentality. As much as I tried to instill good values in my kids, the schools undid it. I love my kids but they have no clue what it means to fail and therefore have not grown much emotionally. I assume that will change when life kicks them in the a$$ in their later 20s.

Ah, OK. All the schools' fault. Got it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:and cut them off. And many people say that’s ok.

What happens when you don’t like who your children turned out to be?

I fully get this. Especially now. It’s a result of the everyone gets a trophy mentality. As much as I tried to instill good values in my kids, the schools undid it. I love my kids but they have no clue what it means to fail and therefore have not grown much emotionally. I assume that will change when life kicks them in the a$$ in their later 20s.

I would not be surprised to learn that your children can’t take responsibility for their own actions and are emotionally immature. But I don’t think it’s the school’s fault. They learned this somewhere else. Can you think of where?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother was routinely horrible to me. Beat me as a a child, sent me hate mail as an adult, bad mouthed me with lies to other family, cut me from the will. Then she got pancreatic cancer and had a falling out with my sister.

She died alone in her apartment. She called at least a dozen times. I never picked up. I don't even know who cleaned out her things.

Sounds horrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:and cut them off. And many people say that’s ok.

What happens when you don’t like who your children turned out to be?

I agree. I don't know if it is the same posters posting repeatedly or if this Family Relationships forum attracts only the unstable but it is disheartening to see how intolerant people are. I used to think it was just a Millennial issue but now I don't know.

I do think that whomever is posting all of this vitriol hasn't figured out that they truly are their kids' models and what their kids see is how their kids will act when they get older. I think there are some DCUMers who are in for a nasty surprise in 5-10-15 years.

What kind of person goes online and makes such mean assumptions about people they don't know? You are the one who needs to check yourself.

Seriously, this.

If you grew up in a loving and stable home then you should be counting your blessings and being grateful instead of judging people who made a very difficult choice to cut off or have low contact with abusive relatives. You have no idea what it's like to overcome abuse and it shows