"DL is working well for my kid"

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Anonymous wrote:My kid is unhappy enough that he testified yesterday about the mental health troubles MCPS isn’t addressing.

Its not MCPS job to deal with mental health troubles. If your child has mental health issues, that's a parenting fail as the real issue is you have not addressed it. Instead of taking your kid to testify take him to a therapist.

MCPS disagrees. MCPS has spent a good amount of money implementing mental health curriculum - Be Well 365?

The poster who keeps blaming parents for kids mental health is a nasty selfish person lacking in any empathy. Yes, lack of school is causing mental health problems. Anxiety is rocketing among children. Isolation is one factor and it’s also causing regression in behaviors for many kids. I was able to find my kid a therapist and was lucky to have insurance to cover it, but his need for therapy was directly related to school closures and would be solved instantly by being back at school in person. So not only is the school not addressing this but the lack of school is a direct causal factor. The nasty poster knows this but for some reason it feels good to her to attack desperate parents to meet her fear driven goal of keeping school closed.

I keep pushing back on this argument because kids experience anxiety and depression for all kinds of reasons. I recognize that for a lot of kids the locus of their anxiety is around fear of a global pandemic and their depression is from the fact that life has radically changed and there is no easy answer about when things will be going back to normal. I I think it's incredibly simplistic and naive to think that reopening school is going to just cure those mental health issues. And yes part of parenting is helping your child through mental health issues and helping them to build resilience in the face of adversity.

I think you are both naive and lacking in empathy for failing to understand that school would bring a sense of normality to many kids and essentially solve their issues. I’m certain my 8 year old’s anxiety will be 95% gone as soon as he can get back in school. It is directly related to being out of school and never existed previously. It’s also unrelated to fear of the pandemic. Sure if I could afford to send him to an in-person daily program he would do much better but I don’t have that money and as we are new to the area also don’t have groups of friends for him to spend time with. These issues are multiplied many times over in other families. The risks of reopening schools are tiny but I’m beginning to conclude that the BOE just doesn’t care about kids. Believe me this will be (and is) studied for years and the long term mental health implications for our kids are only just beginning.

100%

I've read a couple of papers that figure anxiety and depression as extensions of normal adaptive drives. When "normal" stressors result in anxiety and depression, that seems maladaptive.

But anxiety and depression in October 2020?????? Those seem like appropriate adaptations to an unprecedented ongoing collective trauma.

one of the ways to "help your child" through trauma is by acknowledging the authenticity of the challenges they face and validating as appropriate their emotional reactions.

And yes to the long-term mental health implications. The trauma is ongoing: High-functioning now does not forestall the possibility of post-trauma, when the dust clears.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kid is unhappy enough that he testified yesterday about the mental health troubles MCPS isn’t addressing.

Its not MCPS job to deal with mental health troubles. If your child has mental health issues, that's a parenting fail as the real issue is you have not addressed it. Instead of taking your kid to testify take him to a therapist.

MCPS disagrees. MCPS has spent a good amount of money implementing mental health curriculum - Be Well 365?

The poster who keeps blaming parents for kids mental health is a nasty selfish person lacking in any empathy. Yes, lack of school is causing mental health problems. Anxiety is rocketing among children. Isolation is one factor and it’s also causing regression in behaviors for many kids. I was able to find my kid a therapist and was lucky to have insurance to cover it, but his need for therapy was directly related to school closures and would be solved instantly by being back at school in person. So not only is the school not addressing this but the lack of school is a direct causal factor. The nasty poster knows this but for some reason it feels good to her to attack desperate parents to meet her fear driven goal of keeping school closed.

No, we are responsible parents who meet our kids needs and stop scapegoating others as an excuse for your child's mental health issues. They probably had issues before and you didn't notice it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid is unhappy enough that he testified yesterday about the mental health troubles MCPS isn’t addressing.

Wow. I didn’t see it, but kudos to your kid for coming forward. Especially in the current environment, where there is so much hostility towards those who want to reopen.

That was brave and deserves credit!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:My kid is unhappy enough that he testified yesterday about the mental health troubles MCPS isn’t addressing.

Its not MCPS job to deal with mental health troubles. If your child has mental health issues, that's a parenting fail as the real issue is you have not addressed it. Instead of taking your kid to testify take him to a therapist.

MCPS disagrees. MCPS has spent a good amount of money implementing mental health curriculum - Be Well 365?

The poster who keeps blaming parents for kids mental health is a nasty selfish person lacking in any empathy. Yes, lack of school is causing mental health problems. Anxiety is rocketing among children. Isolation is one factor and it’s also causing regression in behaviors for many kids. I was able to find my kid a therapist and was lucky to have insurance to cover it, but his need for therapy was directly related to school closures and would be solved instantly by being back at school in person. So not only is the school not addressing this but the lack of school is a direct causal factor. The nasty poster knows this but for some reason it feels good to her to attack desperate parents to meet her fear driven goal of keeping school closed.

No, we are responsible parents who meet our kids needs and stop scapegoating others as an excuse for your child's mental health issues. They probably had issues before and you didn't notice it.

Ok lol let me get this right: We're in the midst of a global pandemic. Our lives have been completely upended, many of us are facing financial distress, health issues, social isolation, and a host of other challenges, including the complete withdrawal of the basic social structure that defined the days of our kids' lives, ages 5-18 - and your response upon hearing that kids are anxious or depressed is to blame the parents?

The kids who have been at home since March: no holidays with family, no playdates, no sleepovers, months without activities, camp, travel, milestones of all kids -- bar and bat mitzvahs, sweet 16th, homecoming and prom -- an uncertain future, the political future of our country hanging in the balance --

-- and you're blaiming the parents?????

bwahahahaha

Well done, Trolly One! That was literally one of the best trollings I have witnesses in all of my years. Congratulations.

[Anonymous]

It’s just a phrase that comes out of the mouths of umc white folk.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kid is unhappy enough that he testified yesterday about the mental health troubles MCPS isn’t addressing.

Its not MCPS job to deal with mental health troubles. If your child has mental health issues, that's a parenting fail as the real issue is you have not addressed it. Instead of taking your kid to testify take him to a therapist.

MCPS disagrees. MCPS has spent a good amount of money implementing mental health curriculum - Be Well 365?

The poster who keeps blaming parents for kids mental health is a nasty selfish person lacking in any empathy. Yes, lack of school is causing mental health problems. Anxiety is rocketing among children. Isolation is one factor and it’s also causing regression in behaviors for many kids. I was able to find my kid a therapist and was lucky to have insurance to cover it, but his need for therapy was directly related to school closures and would be solved instantly by being back at school in person. So not only is the school not addressing this but the lack of school is a direct causal factor. The nasty poster knows this but for some reason it feels good to her to attack desperate parents to meet her fear driven goal of keeping school closed.

I keep pushing back on this argument because kids experience anxiety and depression for all kinds of reasons. I recognize that for a lot of kids the locus of their anxiety is around fear of a global pandemic and their depression is from the fact that life has radically changed and there is no easy answer about when things will be going back to normal. I I think it's incredibly simplistic and naive to think that reopening school is going to just cure those mental health issues. And yes part of parenting is helping your child through mental health issues and helping them to build resilience in the face of adversity.

I think you are both naive and lacking in empathy for failing to understand that school would bring a sense of normality to many kids and essentially solve their issues. I’m certain my 8 year old’s anxiety will be 95% gone as soon as he can get back in school. It is directly related to being out of school and never existed previously. It’s also unrelated to fear of the pandemic. Sure if I could afford to send him to an in-person daily program he would do much better but I don’t have that money and as we are new to the area also don’t have groups of friends for him to spend time with. These issues are multiplied many times over in other families. The risks of reopening schools are tiny but I’m beginning to conclude that the BOE just doesn’t care about kids. Believe me this will be (and is) studied for years and the long term mental health implications for our kids are only just beginning.

Life isn't normal right now. Being in school doesn't magically make the pandemic go away

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:My kid is unhappy enough that he testified yesterday about the mental health troubles MCPS isn’t addressing.

Its not MCPS job to deal with mental health troubles. If your child has mental health issues, that's a parenting fail as the real issue is you have not addressed it. Instead of taking your kid to testify take him to a therapist.

MCPS disagrees. MCPS has spent a good amount of money implementing mental health curriculum - Be Well 365?

The poster who keeps blaming parents for kids mental health is a nasty selfish person lacking in any empathy. Yes, lack of school is causing mental health problems. Anxiety is rocketing among children. Isolation is one factor and it’s also causing regression in behaviors for many kids. I was able to find my kid a therapist and was lucky to have insurance to cover it, but his need for therapy was directly related to school closures and would be solved instantly by being back at school in person. So not only is the school not addressing this but the lack of school is a direct causal factor. The nasty poster knows this but for some reason it feels good to her to attack desperate parents to meet her fear driven goal of keeping school closed.

I keep pushing back on this argument because kids experience anxiety and depression for all kinds of reasons. I recognize that for a lot of kids the locus of their anxiety is around fear of a global pandemic and their depression is from the fact that life has radically changed and there is no easy answer about when things will be going back to normal. I I think it's incredibly simplistic and naive to think that reopening school is going to just cure those mental health issues. And yes part of parenting is helping your child through mental health issues and helping them to build resilience in the face of adversity.

Expecting students who find distance learning challenging to perform at the same or similar levels as they did before the pandemic, under vastly different conditions, in the name of building "resilience" is a form of gaslighting. You don't build resilience by pretending away challenges or just "powering through."

Things that help build resilience:
- Loving, trusting relationships (especially with parents, but also friends,)
- finding purpose and meaning in one's activities (ahem)
- a sense of self-esteem (worth) and self-efficacy (ability to do what's needed in a given situation)
- the freedom to adapt in ways that support self-regulation

Expecting public school to give kids that is ludicrous.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is unhappy enough that he testified yesterday about the mental health troubles MCPS isn’t addressing.

Its not MCPS job to deal with mental health troubles. If your child has mental health issues, that's a parenting fail as the real issue is you have not addressed it. Instead of taking your kid to testify take him to a therapist.

MCPS disagrees. MCPS has spent a good amount of money implementing mental health curriculum - Be Well 365?

The poster who keeps blaming parents for kids mental health is a nasty selfish person lacking in any empathy. Yes, lack of school is causing mental health problems. Anxiety is rocketing among children. Isolation is one factor and it’s also causing regression in behaviors for many kids. I was able to find my kid a therapist and was lucky to have insurance to cover it, but his need for therapy was directly related to school closures and would be solved instantly by being back at school in person. So not only is the school not addressing this but the lack of school is a direct causal factor. The nasty poster knows this but for some reason it feels good to her to attack desperate parents to meet her fear driven goal of keeping school closed.

I keep pushing back on this argument because kids experience anxiety and depression for all kinds of reasons. I recognize that for a lot of kids the locus of their anxiety is around fear of a global pandemic and their depression is from the fact that life has radically changed and there is no easy answer about when things will be going back to normal. I I think it's incredibly simplistic and naive to think that reopening school is going to just cure those mental health issues. And yes part of parenting is helping your child through mental health issues and helping them to build resilience in the face of adversity.

Expecting students who find distance learning challenging to perform at the same or similar levels as they did before the pandemic, under vastly different conditions, in the name of building "resilience" is a form of gaslighting. You don't build resilience by pretending away challenges or just "powering through."

Things that help build resilience:
- Loving, trusting relationships (especially with parents, but also friends,)
- finding purpose and meaning in one's activities (ahem)
- a sense of self-esteem (worth) and self-efficacy (ability to do what's needed in a given situation)
- the freedom to adapt in ways that support self-regulation

Expecting public school to give kids that is ludicrous.

As is expecting MCPS to correctly and actually our kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is unhappy enough that he testified yesterday about the mental health troubles MCPS isn’t addressing.

Its not MCPS job to deal with mental health troubles. If your child has mental health issues, that's a parenting fail as the real issue is you have not addressed it. Instead of taking your kid to testify take him to a therapist.

MCPS disagrees. MCPS has spent a good amount of money implementing mental health curriculum - Be Well 365?

The poster who keeps blaming parents for kids mental health is a nasty selfish person lacking in any empathy. Yes, lack of school is causing mental health problems. Anxiety is rocketing among children. Isolation is one factor and it’s also causing regression in behaviors for many kids. I was able to find my kid a therapist and was lucky to have insurance to cover it, but his need for therapy was directly related to school closures and would be solved instantly by being back at school in person. So not only is the school not addressing this but the lack of school is a direct causal factor. The nasty poster knows this but for some reason it feels good to her to attack desperate parents to meet her fear driven goal of keeping school closed.

No, we are responsible parents who meet our kids needs and stop scapegoating others as an excuse for your child's mental health issues. They probably had issues before and you didn't notice it.

No you are a nasty, selfish, heartless, mean excuse for a parent who is unable to feel empathy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is unhappy enough that he testified yesterday about the mental health troubles MCPS isn’t addressing.

Its not MCPS job to deal with mental health troubles. If your child has mental health issues, that's a parenting fail as the real issue is you have not addressed it. Instead of taking your kid to testify take him to a therapist.

MCPS disagrees. MCPS has spent a good amount of money implementing mental health curriculum - Be Well 365?

The poster who keeps blaming parents for kids mental health is a nasty selfish person lacking in any empathy. Yes, lack of school is causing mental health problems. Anxiety is rocketing among children. Isolation is one factor and it’s also causing regression in behaviors for many kids. I was able to find my kid a therapist and was lucky to have insurance to cover it, but his need for therapy was directly related to school closures and would be solved instantly by being back at school in person. So not only is the school not addressing this but the lack of school is a direct causal factor. The nasty poster knows this but for some reason it feels good to her to attack desperate parents to meet her fear driven goal of keeping school closed.

I keep pushing back on this argument because kids experience anxiety and depression for all kinds of reasons. I recognize that for a lot of kids the locus of their anxiety is around fear of a global pandemic and their depression is from the fact that life has radically changed and there is no easy answer about when things will be going back to normal. I I think it's incredibly simplistic and naive to think that reopening school is going to just cure those mental health issues. And yes part of parenting is helping your child through mental health issues and helping them to build resilience in the face of adversity.

Expecting students who find distance learning challenging to perform at the same or similar levels as they did before the pandemic, under vastly different conditions, in the name of building "resilience" is a form of gaslighting. You don't build resilience by pretending away challenges or just "powering through."

Things that help build resilience:
- Loving, trusting relationships (especially with parents, but also friends,)
- finding purpose and meaning in one's activities (ahem)
- a sense of self-esteem (worth) and self-efficacy (ability to do what's needed in a given situation)
- the freedom to adapt in ways that support self-regulation

Expecting public school to give kids that is ludicrous.

As is expecting MCPS to correctly and actually our kids.

This exactly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is unhappy enough that he testified yesterday about the mental health troubles MCPS isn’t addressing.

Its not MCPS job to deal with mental health troubles. If your child has mental health issues, that's a parenting fail as the real issue is you have not addressed it. Instead of taking your kid to testify take him to a therapist.

MCPS disagrees. MCPS has spent a good amount of money implementing mental health curriculum - Be Well 365?

The poster who keeps blaming parents for kids mental health is a nasty selfish person lacking in any empathy. Yes, lack of school is causing mental health problems. Anxiety is rocketing among children. Isolation is one factor and it’s also causing regression in behaviors for many kids. I was able to find my kid a therapist and was lucky to have insurance to cover it, but his need for therapy was directly related to school closures and would be solved instantly by being back at school in person. So not only is the school not addressing this but the lack of school is a direct causal factor. The nasty poster knows this but for some reason it feels good to her to attack desperate parents to meet her fear driven goal of keeping school closed.

No, we are responsible parents who meet our kids needs and stop scapegoating others as an excuse for your child's mental health issues. They probably had issues before and you didn't notice it.

No you are a nasty, selfish, heartless, mean excuse for a parent who is unable to feel empathy.

She's a nasty bitch. Just call her what she is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is unhappy enough that he testified yesterday about the mental health troubles MCPS isn’t addressing.

Its not MCPS job to deal with mental health troubles. If your child has mental health issues, that's a parenting fail as the real issue is you have not addressed it. Instead of taking your kid to testify take him to a therapist.

MCPS disagrees. MCPS has spent a good amount of money implementing mental health curriculum - Be Well 365?

The poster who keeps blaming parents for kids mental health is a nasty selfish person lacking in any empathy. Yes, lack of school is causing mental health problems. Anxiety is rocketing among children. Isolation is one factor and it’s also causing regression in behaviors for many kids. I was able to find my kid a therapist and was lucky to have insurance to cover it, but his need for therapy was directly related to school closures and would be solved instantly by being back at school in person. So not only is the school not addressing this but the lack of school is a direct causal factor. The nasty poster knows this but for some reason it feels good to her to attack desperate parents to meet her fear driven goal of keeping school closed.

No, we are responsible parents who meet our kids needs and stop scapegoating others as an excuse for your child's mental health issues. They probably had issues before and you didn't notice it.

Ok lol let me get this right: We're in the midst of a global pandemic. Our lives have been completely upended, many of us are facing financial distress, health issues, social isolation, and a host of other challenges, including the complete withdrawal of the basic social structure that defined the days of our kids' lives, ages 5-18 - and your response upon hearing that kids are anxious or depressed is to blame the parents?

The kids who have been at home since March: no holidays with family, no playdates, no sleepovers, months without activities, camp, travel, milestones of all kids -- bar and bat mitzvahs, sweet 16th, homecoming and prom -- an uncertain future, the political future of our country hanging in the balance --

-- and you're blaiming the parents?????

bwahahahaha

Well done, Trolly One! That was literally one of the best trollings I have witnesses in all of my years. Congratulations.

She’s been banging her head on this one for weeks. One day when her teen attempts suicide out of the blue (because parents like this deny the existence of mental health problems it’s highly likely that her kids will hide them from her) she’ll remember this thread and realize how little she knew and how cruel she was to REAL PEOPLE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is unhappy enough that he testified yesterday about the mental health troubles MCPS isn’t addressing.

Its not MCPS job to deal with mental health troubles. If your child has mental health issues, that's a parenting fail as the real issue is you have not addressed it. Instead of taking your kid to testify take him to a therapist.

MCPS disagrees. MCPS has spent a good amount of money implementing mental health curriculum - Be Well 365?

The poster who keeps blaming parents for kids mental health is a nasty selfish person lacking in any empathy. Yes, lack of school is causing mental health problems. Anxiety is rocketing among children. Isolation is one factor and it’s also causing regression in behaviors for many kids. I was able to find my kid a therapist and was lucky to have insurance to cover it, but his need for therapy was directly related to school closures and would be solved instantly by being back at school in person. So not only is the school not addressing this but the lack of school is a direct causal factor. The nasty poster knows this but for some reason it feels good to her to attack desperate parents to meet her fear driven goal of keeping school closed.

I keep pushing back on this argument because kids experience anxiety and depression for all kinds of reasons. I recognize that for a lot of kids the locus of their anxiety is around fear of a global pandemic and their depression is from the fact that life has radically changed and there is no easy answer about when things will be going back to normal. I I think it's incredibly simplistic and naive to think that reopening school is going to just cure those mental health issues. And yes part of parenting is helping your child through mental health issues and helping them to build resilience in the face of adversity.

I think you are both naive and lacking in empathy for failing to understand that school would bring a sense of normality to many kids and essentially solve their issues. I’m certain my 8 year old’s anxiety will be 95% gone as soon as he can get back in school. It is directly related to being out of school and never existed previously. It’s also unrelated to fear of the pandemic. Sure if I could afford to send him to an in-person daily program he would do much better but I don’t have that money and as we are new to the area also don’t have groups of friends for him to spend time with. These issues are multiplied many times over in other families. The risks of reopening schools are tiny but I’m beginning to conclude that the BOE just doesn’t care about kids. Believe me this will be (and is) studied for years and the long term mental health implications for our kids are only just beginning.

Life isn't normal right now. Being in school doesn't magically make the pandemic go away

No but it brings routine and social interaction to kids. It sets norms for behaving with peers. It provides an outlet for kids to learn and grow away from their families.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is unhappy enough that he testified yesterday about the mental health troubles MCPS isn’t addressing.

Its not MCPS job to deal with mental health troubles. If your child has mental health issues, that's a parenting fail as the real issue is you have not addressed it. Instead of taking your kid to testify take him to a therapist.

MCPS disagrees. MCPS has spent a good amount of money implementing mental health curriculum - Be Well 365?

The poster who keeps blaming parents for kids mental health is a nasty selfish person lacking in any empathy. Yes, lack of school is causing mental health problems. Anxiety is rocketing among children. Isolation is one factor and it’s also causing regression in behaviors for many kids. I was able to find my kid a therapist and was lucky to have insurance to cover it, but his need for therapy was directly related to school closures and would be solved instantly by being back at school in person. So not only is the school not addressing this but the lack of school is a direct causal factor. The nasty poster knows this but for some reason it feels good to her to attack desperate parents to meet her fear driven goal of keeping school closed.

No, we are responsible parents who meet our kids needs and stop scapegoating others as an excuse for your child's mental health issues. They probably had issues before and you didn't notice it.

No you are a nasty, selfish, heartless, mean excuse for a parent who is unable to feel empathy.

You have no idea what is going on in my life. The difference is I take responsibility for mine and get them the help they need vs. rant about what others aren't doing. My Kids, MY RESPONSIBILITY. YOUR KIDS, YOUR RESPONSIBILITY. There is much more to mental health than not having in person school and you are minimizing and ignoring your kids needs if you don't seem to understand that. We are in a pandemic. Its not just about you, but the greater good. There is no way MCPS can safely go back and you wanting to risk our kids health and our families health as you cannot make the necessary changes to meet your kids needs is nasty, selfish, heartless and mean. Be a parent and understand the risks you are putting others at with your behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is unhappy enough that he testified yesterday about the mental health troubles MCPS isn’t addressing.

Its not MCPS job to deal with mental health troubles. If your child has mental health issues, that's a parenting fail as the real issue is you have not addressed it. Instead of taking your kid to testify take him to a therapist.

MCPS disagrees. MCPS has spent a good amount of money implementing mental health curriculum - Be Well 365?

The poster who keeps blaming parents for kids mental health is a nasty selfish person lacking in any empathy. Yes, lack of school is causing mental health problems. Anxiety is rocketing among children. Isolation is one factor and it’s also causing regression in behaviors for many kids. I was able to find my kid a therapist and was lucky to have insurance to cover it, but his need for therapy was directly related to school closures and would be solved instantly by being back at school in person. So not only is the school not addressing this but the lack of school is a direct causal factor. The nasty poster knows this but for some reason it feels good to her to attack desperate parents to meet her fear driven goal of keeping school closed.

No, we are responsible parents who meet our kids needs and stop scapegoating others as an excuse for your child's mental health issues. They probably had issues before and you didn't notice it.

No you are a nasty, selfish, heartless, mean excuse for a parent who is unable to feel empathy.

She's a nasty bitch. Just call her what she is.

I was thinking another word but I'll go along with yours.