"DL is working well for my kid"

[Anonymous]

I really hate the "it works for my SN child" posts. You would think an SN parent would be a little more sensitive!!

- parent of a severe SN child

[Anonymous]

It's working well in that my kid logs in, does her school work and demonstrates that she is learning and making progress. She can socialize with friends either after school or on weekends with socially distance play dates.

this is definitely not an ideal situation but it is not necessarily a situation where I am going to through myself into an anxiety spiral about it. I would also argue that content-wise my kid is getting all the stuff that she needed. she doesn't have to spend a lot of time learning things like how to sit crisscross or line up etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kid is unhappy enough that he testified yesterday about the mental health troubles MCPS isn’t addressing.

Its not MCPS job to deal with mental health troubles. If your child has mental health issues, that's a parenting fail as the real issue is you have not addressed it. Instead of taking your kid to testify take him to a therapist.

MCPS disagrees. MCPS has spent a good amount of money implementing mental health curriculum - Be Well 365?

Be well 365 and attempting to have conversations with students around mental health issues as a way of desigmatizing taboos around anxiety and depression and other mental health issues is absolutely not a substitute for connecting children with a licensed therapist

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kid is unhappy enough that he testified yesterday about the mental health troubles MCPS isn’t addressing.

Its not MCPS job to deal with mental health troubles. If your child has mental health issues, that's a parenting fail as the real issue is you have not addressed it. Instead of taking your kid to testify take him to a therapist.

MCPS disagrees. MCPS has spent a good amount of money implementing mental health curriculum - Be Well 365?

The poster who keeps blaming parents for kids mental health is a nasty selfish person lacking in any empathy. Yes, lack of school is causing mental health problems. Anxiety is rocketing among children. Isolation is one factor and it’s also causing regression in behaviors for many kids. I was able to find my kid a therapist and was lucky to have insurance to cover it, but his need for therapy was directly related to school closures and would be solved instantly by being back at school in person. So not only is the school not addressing this but the lack of school is a direct causal factor. The nasty poster knows this but for some reason it feels good to her to attack desperate parents to meet her fear driven goal of keeping school closed.

I keep pushing back on this argument because kids experience anxiety and depression for all kinds of reasons. I recognize that for a lot of kids the locus of their anxiety is around fear of a global pandemic and their depression is from the fact that life has radically changed and there is no easy answer about when things will be going back to normal. I I think it's incredibly simplistic and naive to think that reopening school is going to just cure those mental health issues. And yes part of parenting is helping your child through mental health issues and helping them to build resilience in the face of adversity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is unhappy enough that he testified yesterday about the mental health troubles MCPS isn’t addressing.

Its not MCPS job to deal with mental health troubles. If your child has mental health issues, that's a parenting fail as the real issue is you have not addressed it. Instead of taking your kid to testify take him to a therapist.

MCPS disagrees. MCPS has spent a good amount of money implementing mental health curriculum - Be Well 365?

The poster who keeps blaming parents for kids mental health is a nasty selfish person lacking in any empathy. Yes, lack of school is causing mental health problems. Anxiety is rocketing among children. Isolation is one factor and it’s also causing regression in behaviors for many kids. I was able to find my kid a therapist and was lucky to have insurance to cover it, but his need for therapy was directly related to school closures and would be solved instantly by being back at school in person. So not only is the school not addressing this but the lack of school is a direct causal factor. The nasty poster knows this but for some reason it feels good to her to attack desperate parents to meet her fear driven goal of keeping school closed.

I keep pushing back on this argument because kids experience anxiety and depression for all kinds of reasons. I recognize that for a lot of kids the locus of their anxiety is around fear of a global pandemic and their depression is from the fact that life has radically changed and there is no easy answer about when things will be going back to normal. I I think it's incredibly simplistic and naive to think that reopening school is going to just cure those mental health issues. And yes part of parenting is helping your child through mental health issues and helping them to build resilience in the face of adversity.

I think you are both naive and lacking in empathy for failing to understand that school would bring a sense of normality to many kids and essentially solve their issues. I’m certain my 8 year old’s anxiety will be 95% gone as soon as he can get back in school. It is directly related to being out of school and never existed previously. It’s also unrelated to fear of the pandemic. Sure if I could afford to send him to an in-person daily program he would do much better but I don’t have that money and as we are new to the area also don’t have groups of friends for him to spend time with. These issues are multiplied many times over in other families. The risks of reopening schools are tiny but I’m beginning to conclude that the BOE just doesn’t care about kids. Believe me this will be (and is) studied for years and the long term mental health implications for our kids are only just beginning.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If the parents for whom DL is NOT working well spent half as much time helping their kids or instead of coming on to this board to start a gazillionth thread about why they hate DL, they might be having better success. Seriously, there is a new whiny thread about this (or a couple dozen replies to the most recent thread about it) every hour or two. Some of you folks have a lot of time to spend complaining.

+1 DL is a lot of work on our part.

Guess what. I put a ton of v hard work and it still didn't work for us. We switched to home school and my kids are learning easily.

Some kids need to be in person to learn. Sorry.

I spend hours a day helping my one child with special needs in the general curriculum. HOURS. Every day Monday though Friday (we take a break on the weekends - yes a break). We also have a tutor for one hour everyday in person. DL is not working for my kid for various reasons. He needs to be In the building with his teachers and fellow students.

Don’t tell me I am not trying hard enough or not spending enough. Tutor costs more than after care did.

For all you people who think we can go on for years like this are wrong. I’m trying to prevent him from falling for so far behind he will never catch up, have bad self esteem, drop out, and be a burden on society.

Glad it is “working” for your kid, because he or she will be supporting mine with your tax dollars.

I won’t give up, but there IS a limit. We do this all year and if we do we’ve got a our problem be odds COVID - kids who have given up.

[Anonymous]

Settle in. MCPS will be DL through 2021.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Settle in. MCPS will be DL through 2021.

It feels like even 2022 won’t be in person.

It’s possible there is a surge this winter and that will mean MCPS pushes for even more time before schools reopen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid is unhappy enough that he testified yesterday about the mental health troubles MCPS isn’t addressing.

Oh! I saw the video of his testimony and it was thoughtful and on point. My 9th and 11th graders agreed with every word.

So did I.

[Anonymous]

If you want to escape DL until 2022 you need to get out now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is unhappy enough that he testified yesterday about the mental health troubles MCPS isn’t addressing.

Its not MCPS job to deal with mental health troubles. If your child has mental health issues, that's a parenting fail as the real issue is you have not addressed it. Instead of taking your kid to testify take him to a therapist.

MCPS disagrees. MCPS has spent a good amount of money implementing mental health curriculum - Be Well 365?

The poster who keeps blaming parents for kids mental health is a nasty selfish person lacking in any empathy. Yes, lack of school is causing mental health problems. Anxiety is rocketing among children. Isolation is one factor and it’s also causing regression in behaviors for many kids. I was able to find my kid a therapist and was lucky to have insurance to cover it, but his need for therapy was directly related to school closures and would be solved instantly by being back at school in person. So not only is the school not addressing this but the lack of school is a direct causal factor. The nasty poster knows this but for some reason it feels good to her to attack desperate parents to meet her fear driven goal of keeping school closed.

I keep pushing back on this argument because kids experience anxiety and depression for all kinds of reasons. I recognize that for a lot of kids the locus of their anxiety is around fear of a global pandemic and their depression is from the fact that life has radically changed and there is no easy answer about when things will be going back to normal. I I think it's incredibly simplistic and naive to think that reopening school is going to just cure those mental health issues. And yes part of parenting is helping your child through mental health issues and helping them to build resilience in the face of adversity.

Expecting students who find distance learning challenging to perform at the same or similar levels as they did before the pandemic, under vastly different conditions, in the name of building "resilience" is a form of gaslighting. You don't build resilience by pretending away challenges or just "powering through."

Things that help build resilience:
- Loving, trusting relationships (especially with parents, but also friends,)
- finding purpose and meaning in one's activities (ahem)
- a sense of self-esteem (worth) and self-efficacy (ability to do what's needed in a given situation)
- the freedom to adapt in ways that support self-regulation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you want to escape DL until 2022 you need to get out now.

We are out at the end of the year

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is unhappy enough that he testified yesterday about the mental health troubles MCPS isn’t addressing.

Its not MCPS job to deal with mental health troubles. If your child has mental health issues, that's a parenting fail as the real issue is you have not addressed it. Instead of taking your kid to testify take him to a therapist.

MCPS disagrees. MCPS has spent a good amount of money implementing mental health curriculum - Be Well 365?

The poster who keeps blaming parents for kids mental health is a nasty selfish person lacking in any empathy. Yes, lack of school is causing mental health problems. Anxiety is rocketing among children. Isolation is one factor and it’s also causing regression in behaviors for many kids. I was able to find my kid a therapist and was lucky to have insurance to cover it, but his need for therapy was directly related to school closures and would be solved instantly by being back at school in person. So not only is the school not addressing this but the lack of school is a direct causal factor. The nasty poster knows this but for some reason it feels good to her to attack desperate parents to meet her fear driven goal of keeping school closed.

I keep pushing back on this argument because kids experience anxiety and depression for all kinds of reasons. I recognize that for a lot of kids the locus of their anxiety is around fear of a global pandemic and their depression is from the fact that life has radically changed and there is no easy answer about when things will be going back to normal. I I think it's incredibly simplistic and naive to think that reopening school is going to just cure those mental health issues. And yes part of parenting is helping your child through mental health issues and helping them to build resilience in the face of adversity.

Expecting students who find distance learning challenging to perform at the same or similar levels as they did before the pandemic, under vastly different conditions, in the name of building "resilience" is a form of gaslighting. You don't build resilience by pretending away challenges or just "powering through."

Things that help build resilience:
- Loving, trusting relationships (especially with parents, but also friends,)
- finding purpose and meaning in one's activities (ahem)
- a sense of self-esteem (worth) and self-efficacy (ability to do what's needed in a given situation)
- the freedom to adapt in ways that support self-regulation

+1

I completely agree. I think that PP is almost psychopathic .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is unhappy enough that he testified yesterday about the mental health troubles MCPS isn’t addressing.

Its not MCPS job to deal with mental health troubles. If your child has mental health issues, that's a parenting fail as the real issue is you have not addressed it. Instead of taking your kid to testify take him to a therapist.

MCPS disagrees. MCPS has spent a good amount of money implementing mental health curriculum - Be Well 365?

The poster who keeps blaming parents for kids mental health is a nasty selfish person lacking in any empathy. Yes, lack of school is causing mental health problems. Anxiety is rocketing among children. Isolation is one factor and it’s also causing regression in behaviors for many kids. I was able to find my kid a therapist and was lucky to have insurance to cover it, but his need for therapy was directly related to school closures and would be solved instantly by being back at school in person. So not only is the school not addressing this but the lack of school is a direct causal factor. The nasty poster knows this but for some reason it feels good to her to attack desperate parents to meet her fear driven goal of keeping school closed.

I keep pushing back on this argument because kids experience anxiety and depression for all kinds of reasons. I recognize that for a lot of kids the locus of their anxiety is around fear of a global pandemic and their depression is from the fact that life has radically changed and there is no easy answer about when things will be going back to normal. I I think it's incredibly simplistic and naive to think that reopening school is going to just cure those mental health issues. And yes part of parenting is helping your child through mental health issues and helping them to build resilience in the face of adversity.

The only difference is parents are now more involved and notice it. It hasn't increase, but parents rely on the schools to address the issues vs. them supporting their kids.

Schools closed are not causing mental health issues. You need to readjust your home if they are the sole cause and get your kid mental health treatment as well as parenting classes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the parents for whom DL is NOT working well spent half as much time helping their kids or instead of coming on to this board to start a gazillionth thread about why they hate DL, they might be having better success. Seriously, there is a new whiny thread about this (or a couple dozen replies to the most recent thread about it) every hour or two. Some of you folks have a lot of time to spend complaining.

+1 DL is a lot of work on our part.

Guess what. I put a ton of v hard work and it still didn't work for us. We switched to home school and my kids are learning easily.

Some kids need to be in person to learn. Sorry.

I spend hours a day helping my one child with special needs in the general curriculum. HOURS. Every day Monday though Friday (we take a break on the weekends - yes a break). We also have a tutor for one hour everyday in person. DL is not working for my kid for various reasons. He needs to be In the building with his teachers and fellow students.

Don’t tell me I am not trying hard enough or not spending enough. Tutor costs more than after care did.

For all you people who think we can go on for years like this are wrong. I’m trying to prevent him from falling for so far behind he will never catch up, have bad self esteem, drop out, and be a burden on society.

Glad it is “working” for your kid, because he or she will be supporting mine with your tax dollars.

I won’t give up, but there IS a limit. We do this all year and if we do we’ve got a our problem be odds COVID - kids who have given up.

Reality is you'd be doing those things regardless of DL. We did all those things in elementary school as the school failed to address our child's needs so we had no choice but to do outside therapies and supplement.