Good/bad coaches - development and ethical behavior

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Find a team that is the right level for your kid. It’s not his fault it is your responsibility as a parent to put your child in an environment where they will be happy and successful

Guess you take tests for your kid and will be there when they interview for a job.

When you ask you kid how the did in a game, what exactly do they tell you? It was awesome dad, the grass was super soft and a great place to sit on a beautiful afternoon?

No need on this thread for your nastiness. Please go away.

You go away.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Find a team that is the right level for your kid. It’s not his fault it is your responsibility as a parent to put your child in an environment where they will be happy and successful

Wrong.... If you care about your kid getting the most out of his talent. He needs to be in a situation where he is uncomfortable and needs to push himself to his max everyday. Playing where he is happy and successful won't maximize his talent. Maybe he is out of his league right now but find a level where he is not quite good enough to be a starter and let him work himself up from there.

[Anonymous]

This thread has degenerated. The U15 kid did not just randomly get signed up by his parent for an elite team. The team had tryouts and someone let him on that team. That means that coaches, not just one because usually they have multiple coaches deciding, determined he was a good match for that team.

How is a parent supposed to magically know it's not good before the roster is set and games are played? Kids change a lot from year to year and season to season. The kid may have been the top player last year but everyone has grown. It's U15. Kids grow inches over months which may make them faster and stronger or more clumsy and act like they have three left feet.

What is wrong with some of you?

U15 parent, I'm sorry this is happening to your child. I think not playing kids is wrong in general but it sounds like this is a very high level team. You sound like you are providing great support.

[Anonymous]

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I love May daughter and she busts her ass working, if she went to McClean and made a top team, I wouldn’t expect her to see the field. Right now, she plays EDP, plays most of the game and the team does fairly well- that makes me think she’s at the proper level

If she went to Mclean?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread has degenerated. The U15 kid did not just randomly get signed up by his parent for an elite team. The team had tryouts and someone let him on that team. That means that coaches, not just one because usually they have multiple coaches deciding, determined he was a good match for that team.

How is a parent supposed to magically know it's not good before the roster is set and games are played? Kids change a lot from year to year and season to season. The kid may have been the top player last year but everyone has grown. It's U15. Kids grow inches over months which may make them faster and stronger or more clumsy and act like they have three left feet.

What is wrong with some of you?

U15 parent, I'm sorry this is happening to your child. I think not playing kids is wrong in general but it sounds like this is a very high level team. You sound like you are providing great support.

I am the parent of the U15 player and I thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread has degenerated. The U15 kid did not just randomly get signed up by his parent for an elite team. The team had tryouts and someone let him on that team. That means that coaches, not just one because usually they have multiple coaches deciding, determined he was a good match for that team.

How is a parent supposed to magically know it's not good before the roster is set and games are played? Kids change a lot from year to year and season to season. The kid may have been the top player last year but everyone has grown. It's U15. Kids grow inches over months which may make them faster and stronger or more clumsy and act like they have three left feet.

What is wrong with some of you?

U15 parent, I'm sorry this is happening to your child. I think not playing kids is wrong in general but it sounds like this is a very high level team. You sound like you are providing great support.

+1. agree! Some coaches supported by the club would do anything to secure wins, this includes unethical practices like not telling parents that only 18 players are allowed to dress to play. Others would give kids poorly playing time while their favorites play the full game. Is all this communicated to parents when they commit? Some clubs would make families travel to Florida and give players no playing time. Why did they select your daughter in the first place? BECAUSE they need players to ride the bench. Families that are okay seeing their kids no playing but that brag the team is on the top rankings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread has degenerated. The U15 kid did not just randomly get signed up by his parent for an elite team. The team had tryouts and someone let him on that team. That means that coaches, not just one because usually they have multiple coaches deciding, determined he was a good match for that team.

How is a parent supposed to magically know it's not good before the roster is set and games are played? Kids change a lot from year to year and season to season. The kid may have been the top player last year but everyone has grown. It's U15. Kids grow inches over months which may make them faster and stronger or more clumsy and act like they have three left feet.

What is wrong with some of you?

U15 parent, I'm sorry this is happening to your child. I think not playing kids is wrong in general but it sounds like this is a very high level team. You sound like you are providing great support.

+1. agree! Some coaches supported by the club would do anything to secure wins, this includes unethical practices like not telling parents that only 18 players are allowed to dress to play. Others would give kids poorly playing time while their favorites play the full game. Is all this communicated to parents when they commit? Some clubs would make families travel to Florida and give players no playing time. Why did they select your daughter in the first place? BECAUSE they need players to ride the bench. Families that are okay seeing their kids no playing but that brag the team is on the top rankings.

they need parents paying fees. It's as simple as that. If the last kid on the roster never dresses, even better, their fees still get counted and the team doesn't get incrementally worse by adding them because they will never play. Players over number 18 on the roster are probably the best ROI for a club because its pure profit at that point

[Anonymous]

Right, who cares about the children or their mental health?
They are here to make money.
If your club thinks like this please post here. The rich parents with money to waste can go to them and the rest of us can go to places that will actually let our children play.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Right, who cares about the children or their mental health?
They are here to make money.
If your club thinks like this please post here. The rich parents with money to waste can go to them and the rest of us can go to places that will actually let our children play.

any team that rosters more kids than they can dress thinks like this

[Anonymous]

We are talking about a u15 now not a u9. The kid shouldn’t have his hand held anymore. If the kid isn’t happy sure look around for other clubs. But do it because the kid wants to not because the parent has a hurt ego.