Boyfriend's exw told him to wear a mask around the kids after being with me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP the ex is totally being controlling. This is just hate for stepmothers.

My DSS mother has taken him on vacation twice to hotspots, and they stop often and take selfies at tourists spots. Her (second) ex comes over sometimes to visit.

My DH and I have been very strictly social distancing. We don’t agree with his ex taking DSS on vacation and then DSS visiting us. We don’t understand why her ex needs to visit. She signed DSS for driving lessons where he is in a car with another adult for 2 hours at a time. But we keep our mouths shut and just remind DSS to be careful wherever he goes. Because she is an adult, she is his mother, and we accept we cannot control her.

At the very least your DH could say no to the driving lessons. If not, make sure windows are rolled down and DSS and driver are wearing masks

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am in a long distance relationship with an old friend. I hadn't visited him since May. I am visiting him now. We both have 3 kids, are responsible parents, etc. Today his exw told him to wear a mask around the kids for the next 2 weeks because I traveled from out of state and he's spending time with me. Keep in mind their kids (teens and tween) have been out and about for months, sports, sleepovers, visiting relatives, etc. Cases are active if both locations, in fact their location is hot-spottier.

People are dying and falling ill out here and you’re stressing about petty shit.

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Jesus Christ this is so silly. Him wearing mask has no cons. Just get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do not bother seeing this mofo if you don’t like it. You have options. You are not married. Be busy and block the calls.

Hang out with your cat or go shopping. Go out to eat. Forget all this shit.

It's really not my problem. I am not breaking up with him because she is controlling. I love him. I am just sorry he has to deal with this. And remember, I am an exw who also co-parents. My exh makes choices I disagree with very much, but it's his life and he can make parenting choices too, even if I don't like them.

The issue is COVID. If he is going back and forth to your house and you have three kids you are sharing with your ex and probably are seeing others, etc. then she has a reasonable concern. Some of us aren't going out to eat and doing the absolute necessities for shopping and keeping our risk level low. If she is one of those people I fully agree with her. You are putting her and your kids at risk.

Frankly, this is my reaction too. I am very risk averse re: covid and I was upset when my in-laws suddenly showed up at our house without masks and hugged and kissed the kids, kept the younger kid on his lap. They are essential workers who take few precautions and have been meeting who knows how many others. You bet DH and I had a huge fight about this. They were endangering our kids and DH was not putting his foot down.

[Anonymous]

It's a mask, worn around his kids, for 14 days. So what? I am sure he doesn't see the every day. If he was at Safeway hed have to wear one, too

Butt out

[Anonymous]

Honestly OP, you are the drama queen and are stirring the pot. Stay out of your boyfriend’s relationship with his ex wife.