Boyfriend's exw told him to wear a mask around the kids after being with me

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I get the sense that a lot of parents are using covid as a way to control their exes ...

Happening to me all this time. Courts vlosed and I am still waiting on a date to force the court order. He refuses to let me within 6 feet of her and won't allow visitation, stating I am not in their household.

Mom is not refusing visitation. She’s asking dad to be more responsible with Covid. You call the police and get your order enforced and act responsibly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds reasonable. Also, none of your business.

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I don’t get what the problem is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I get the sense that a lot of parents are using covid as a way to control their exes ...

Happening to me all this time. Courts vlosed and I am still waiting on a date to force the court order. He refuses to let me within 6 feet of her and won't allow visitation, stating I am not in their household.

Are you able to call the police to help you? You have a court order regarding the custody arrangement, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am in a long distance relationship with an old friend. I hadn't visited him since May. I am visiting him now. We both have 3 kids, are responsible parents, etc. Today his exw told him to wear a mask around the kids for the next 2 weeks because I traveled from out of state and he's spending time with me. Keep in mind their kids (teens and tween) have been out and about for months, sports, sleepovers, visiting relatives, etc. Cases are active if both locations, in fact their location is hot-spottier.

People are dying and falling ill out here and you’re stressing about petty shit.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:totally normal request in light of current situation.

Parents are masking up around their kids for weeks on end because they were with people without masks?

Yes, Some are.

I don't know anyone like this.

My husband wore a mask in the house after attending protests before he got his test results back. This is what conscientious people do: the right thing, even if it’s confusing, or hard.

[Anonymous]

OP, if you are traveling here from a hotspot, you are supposed to quarantine for 2 weeks -- how are you seeing the kids at all?

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you have had little contact with her or really been privy to how they co parent because you sound offended, angry and or rightously outraged. So, now you have this information, she is not you, she does not do it like you would, you feel she is impinging, etc. It's all valuable information. And probably pretty distressing...you are involved with someone who has an ex that is pissing you off and you feel helpless. You have to process and decide about how much you want him and or face the reality that she is could be in your life. That's hard.....it's not his first rodeo, he has an ex, that's the reality. Deal or don't. It is yours to manage.

[Anonymous]

My DS went partying on one weekend. I told him to wear a mask around me as well. I am not trying to controlling my young adult son, but hey, do no come near me, even if you wore a mask most of the time. I know he does not drink with a mask on.

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Anonymous wrote:Do not bother seeing this mofo if you don’t like it. You have options. You are not married. Be busy and block the calls.

Hang out with your cat or go shopping. Go out to eat. Forget all this shit.

It's really not my problem. I am not breaking up with him because she is controlling. I love him. I am just sorry he has to deal with this. And remember, I am an exw who also co-parents. My exh makes choices I disagree with very much, but it's his life and he can make parenting choices too, even if I don't like them.

The issue is COVID. If he is going back and forth to your house and you have three kids you are sharing with your ex and probably are seeing others, etc. then she has a reasonable concern. Some of us aren't going out to eat and doing the absolute necessities for shopping and keeping our risk level low. If she is one of those people I fully agree with her. You are putting her and your kids at risk.

she doesn’t get to police her ex’s “risk level” to this degree.

His risk level impacts her. He could easily get it and pass it through the kids. Its a fair concern.

She doesn’t get to micromanage his risk level in a clearly arbitrary way where she gets to decide for both of them. Not how it works. She gets to decide who she trusts (relatives, friends, sports) and he gets to decide who he trusts.

In a normal situation, yes, but this is a huge health issue and the risks to her are great. It impacts her! It is selfish.

you keep on missing the point. she deems her own people/activities “safe” but applies a different standard to him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:totally normal request in light of current situation.

Parents are masking up around their kids for weeks on end because they were with people without masks?

Yes, Some are.

I don't know anyone like this.

My husband wore a mask in the house after attending protests before he got his test results back. This is what conscientious people do: the right thing, even if it’s confusing, or hard.

then SHE needs to also force every other adult her kids are in contact with to wear masks. She’s not. Hence, this is harassment.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:totally normal request in light of current situation.

Parents are masking up around their kids for weeks on end because they were with people without masks?

Yes, Some are.

I don't know anyone like this.

My husband wore a mask in the house after attending protests before he got his test results back. This is what conscientious people do: the right thing, even if it’s confusing, or hard.

then SHE needs to also force every other adult her kids are in contact with to wear masks. She’s not. Hence, this is harassment.

Child of divorce poster again. You people all suck and you only hurt your kids. OP, you, mask mom, all of you. Every single time you decide to get in the mud with each other, you hurt the kids. But hey you scored points against one another so its worth it right?

[Anonymous]

OP the ex is totally being controlling. This is just hate for stepmothers.

My DSS mother has taken him on vacation twice to hotspots, and they stop often and take selfies at tourists spots. Her (second) ex comes over sometimes to visit.

My DH and I have been very strictly social distancing. We don’t agree with his ex taking DSS on vacation and then DSS visiting us. We don’t understand why her ex needs to visit. She signed DSS for driving lessons where he is in a car with another adult for 2 hours at a time. But we keep our mouths shut and just remind DSS to be careful wherever he goes. Because she is an adult, she is his mother, and we accept we cannot control her.

[Anonymous]

He needs to tell her go pound sand. She’s the ex...

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Mom might be a controlling lunatic, for telling Dad to wear a mask. Dad is definitely a dick for telling the new girlfriend and stirring shit up. New girlfriend is 100% a sucker for falling for it and 200% a drama queen for posting about it. Everyone just needs to handle their shit like grown-ups.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:totally normal request in light of current situation.

Parents are masking up around their kids for weeks on end because they were with people without masks?

Yes, Some are.

I don't know anyone like this.

My husband wore a mask in the house after attending protests before he got his test results back. This is what conscientious people do: the right thing, even if it’s confusing, or hard.

then SHE needs to also force every other adult her kids are in contact with to wear masks. She’s not. Hence, this is harassment.

Child of divorce poster again. You people all suck and you only hurt your kids. OP, you, mask mom, all of you. Every single time you decide to get in the mud with each other, you hurt the kids. But hey you scored points against one another so its worth it right?

PP here. I 100% agree with you! I’m only judging in the court of dcum.