Boyfriend's exw told him to wear a mask around the kids after being with me

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, do you not see anything wrong with your boyfriend telling you all this?

Do you not see anything wrong with your boyfriend purposely feeding drama between you and his kids mother?

Do you see the issue?

Get real. Of course people in a relationship would share this kind of information. He's not feeding drama. He is more annoyed than I am. I am mainly incredulous.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think you should be there at all. He probably has limited time with his kids and COVID. I'm a stepmom and I wouldn't have done it.

He has them 50/50. We have seen each other twice during this. He has come to visit me. He has never been asked to wear a mask until now.

You should be visiting when they aren't there. If he is traveling and you are, I have to agree with Mom. I would not be happy about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think you should be there at all. He probably has limited time with his kids and COVID. I'm a stepmom and I wouldn't have done it.

He has them 50/50. We have seen each other twice during this. He has come to visit me. He has never been asked to wear a mask until now.

You should be visiting when they aren't there. If he is traveling and you are, I have to agree with Mom. I would not be happy about it.

Aren't where? They are not with him right now, but he still sees them. I don't visit when he has them and vice versa.

[Anonymous]

Do not bother seeing this mofo if you don’t like it. You have options. You are not married. Be busy and block the calls.

Hang out with your cat or go shopping. Go out to eat. Forget all this shit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, do you not see anything wrong with your boyfriend telling you all this?

Do you not see anything wrong with your boyfriend purposely feeding drama between you and his kids mother?

Do you see the issue?

Get real. Of course people in a relationship would share this kind of information. He's not feeding drama. He is more annoyed than I am. I am mainly incredulous.

No, they wouldn't this is small potatoes, he's feeding into drama, and dragging you into it, and don't pretend you aren't because you are here posting about it, just itching to call ex wife all types of names.


Feel sorry for the children under 18. The adult children, all 3 of you need to grow up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do not bother seeing this mofo if you don’t like it. You have options. You are not married. Be busy and block the calls.

Hang out with your cat or go shopping. Go out to eat. Forget all this shit.

It's really not my problem. I am not breaking up with him because she is controlling. I love him. I am just sorry he has to deal with this. And remember, I am an exw who also co-parents. My exh makes choices I disagree with very much, but it's his life and he can make parenting choices too, even if I don't like them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do not bother seeing this mofo if you don’t like it. You have options. You are not married. Be busy and block the calls.

Hang out with your cat or go shopping. Go out to eat. Forget all this shit.

It's really not my problem. I am not breaking up with him because she is controlling. I love him. I am just sorry he has to deal with this. And remember, I am an exw who also co-parents. My exh makes choices I disagree with very much, but it's his life and he can make parenting choices too, even if I don't like them.

He is not dealing with anything, but the drama he's feeding into.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do not bother seeing this mofo if you don’t like it. You have options. You are not married. Be busy and block the calls.

Hang out with your cat or go shopping. Go out to eat. Forget all this shit.

It's really not my problem. I am not breaking up with him because she is controlling. I love him. I am just sorry he has to deal with this. And remember, I am an exw who also co-parents. My exh makes choices I disagree with very much, but it's his life and he can make parenting choices too, even if I don't like them.

The issue is COVID. If he is going back and forth to your house and you have three kids you are sharing with your ex and probably are seeing others, etc. then she has a reasonable concern. Some of us aren't going out to eat and doing the absolute necessities for shopping and keeping our risk level low. If she is one of those people I fully agree with her. You are putting her and your kids at risk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do not bother seeing this mofo if you don’t like it. You have options. You are not married. Be busy and block the calls.

Hang out with your cat or go shopping. Go out to eat. Forget all this shit.

It's really not my problem. I am not breaking up with him because she is controlling. I love him. I am just sorry he has to deal with this. And remember, I am an exw who also co-parents. My exh makes choices I disagree with very much, but it's his life and he can make parenting choices too, even if I don't like them.

The issue is COVID. If he is going back and forth to your house and you have three kids you are sharing with your ex and probably are seeing others, etc. then she has a reasonable concern. Some of us aren't going out to eat and doing the absolute necessities for shopping and keeping our risk level low. If she is one of those people I fully agree with her. You are putting her and your kids at risk.

Don't be a fool. This is a control issue.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Respect the mother.

I am an exw too. I get it. But this isn't about that. It's about her controlling/punishing him. (I know, because I am an exw.)

How long have you been seeing this man?

1.5 years.

What state are you coming from?

[Anonymous]

Child of acrimonious divorce/blended marriages

Mother may or may not be a controlling person. Dad maybe or maybe should not fight this battle.

But no one is hurt when parents fight more than the kids. No one gets hurt by mom and step mom hating each other more than the kids. So I’d try to butt out and keep a generally neutral opinion of her for their sake

[Anonymous]

What are the pros of doing what she asks?
What are the cons?
What are the pros of *not* doing what she asks?
What are the cons?

Go through the exercise and the answer is clear to me.

[Anonymous]

If you're not with him when he's visiting his kids, it doesn't affect you. Look on the bright side, it offers you and your kids some protection, too. His ex ... his problem on this one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am in a long distance relationship with an old friend. I hadn't visited him since May. I am visiting him now. We both have 3 kids, are responsible parents, etc. Today his exw told him to wear a mask around the kids for the next 2 weeks because I traveled from out of state and he's spending time with me. Keep in mind their kids (teens and tween) have been out and about for months, sports, sleepovers, visiting relatives, etc. Cases are active if both locations, in fact their location is hot-spottier.

Things she probably closely monitors.

Dad gets sick the kids can't spend time with them.

He does all of their sports. The relatives they visited were his. Any time kids have sleepovers, especially teens, they are at risk. Why is she so concerned about this situation?

Sports a controlled situation. She knows the relatives, and likley how cautious they would be. She knows the sleepover families, and how they would likely enforce precautions. She does not know you or your behavior.

so she get to control when she trusts someone but her exDH does not? No, does not work that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do not bother seeing this mofo if you don’t like it. You have options. You are not married. Be busy and block the calls.

Hang out with your cat or go shopping. Go out to eat. Forget all this shit.

It's really not my problem. I am not breaking up with him because she is controlling. I love him. I am just sorry he has to deal with this. And remember, I am an exw who also co-parents. My exh makes choices I disagree with very much, but it's his life and he can make parenting choices too, even if I don't like them.

The issue is COVID. If he is going back and forth to your house and you have three kids you are sharing with your ex and probably are seeing others, etc. then she has a reasonable concern. Some of us aren't going out to eat and doing the absolute necessities for shopping and keeping our risk level low. If she is one of those people I fully agree with her. You are putting her and your kids at risk.

she doesn’t get to police her ex’s “risk level” to this degree.