Boyfriend's exw told him to wear a mask around the kids after being with me

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Anonymous wrote:I am in a long distance relationship with an old friend. I hadn't visited him since May. I am visiting him now. We both have 3 kids, are responsible parents, etc. Today his exw told him to wear a mask around the kids for the next 2 weeks because I traveled from out of state and he's spending time with me. Keep in mind their kids (teens and tween) have been out and about for months, sports, sleepovers, visiting relatives, etc. Cases are active if both locations, in fact their location is hot-spottier.

Things she probably closely monitors.

Dad gets sick the kids can't spend time with them.

He does all of their sports. The relatives they visited were his. Any time kids have sleepovers, especially teens, they are at risk. Why is she so concerned about this situation?

Sports a controlled situation. She knows the relatives, and likley how cautious they would be. She knows the sleepover families, and how they would likely enforce precautions. She does not know you or your behavior.

so she get to control when she trusts someone but her exDH does not? No, does not work that way.

And you don't get to decided what she complains about.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do not bother seeing this mofo if you don’t like it. You have options. You are not married. Be busy and block the calls.

Hang out with your cat or go shopping. Go out to eat. Forget all this shit.

It's really not my problem. I am not breaking up with him because she is controlling. I love him. I am just sorry he has to deal with this. And remember, I am an exw who also co-parents. My exh makes choices I disagree with very much, but it's his life and he can make parenting choices too, even if I don't like them.

Well perhaps you should be more concerned with your children's safety while with dad, than hanging out with your boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Child of acrimonious divorce/blended marriages

Mother may or may not be a controlling person. Dad maybe or maybe should not fight this battle.

But no one is hurt when parents fight more than the kids. No one gets hurt by mom and step mom hating each other more than the kids. So I’d try to butt out and keep a generally neutral opinion of her for their sake

This is true, unfortunately, OP and the other adults are immature.

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OP, were you the other woman?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do not bother seeing this mofo if you don’t like it. You have options. You are not married. Be busy and block the calls.

Hang out with your cat or go shopping. Go out to eat. Forget all this shit.

It's really not my problem. I am not breaking up with him because she is controlling. I love him. I am just sorry he has to deal with this. And remember, I am an exw who also co-parents. My exh makes choices I disagree with very much, but it's his life and he can make parenting choices too, even if I don't like them.

This is who she is.

[Anonymous]

She wants to get you upset, and it’s working.

Next time, just laugh it off and let your bf deal with his xW the way he wants to. Don’t let it get to you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do not bother seeing this mofo if you don’t like it. You have options. You are not married. Be busy and block the calls.

Hang out with your cat or go shopping. Go out to eat. Forget all this shit.

It's really not my problem. I am not breaking up with him because she is controlling. I love him. I am just sorry he has to deal with this. And remember, I am an exw who also co-parents. My exh makes choices I disagree with very much, but it's his life and he can make parenting choices too, even if I don't like them.

The issue is COVID. If he is going back and forth to your house and you have three kids you are sharing with your ex and probably are seeing others, etc. then she has a reasonable concern. Some of us aren't going out to eat and doing the absolute necessities for shopping and keeping our risk level low. If she is one of those people I fully agree with her. You are putting her and your kids at risk.

she doesn’t get to police her ex’s “risk level” to this degree.

His risk level impacts her. He could easily get it and pass it through the kids. Its a fair concern.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do not bother seeing this mofo if you don’t like it. You have options. You are not married. Be busy and block the calls.

Hang out with your cat or go shopping. Go out to eat. Forget all this shit.

It's really not my problem. I am not breaking up with him because she is controlling. I love him. I am just sorry he has to deal with this. And remember, I am an exw who also co-parents. My exh makes choices I disagree with very much, but it's his life and he can make parenting choices too, even if I don't like them.

The issue is COVID. If he is going back and forth to your house and you have three kids you are sharing with your ex and probably are seeing others, etc. then she has a reasonable concern. Some of us aren't going out to eat and doing the absolute necessities for shopping and keeping our risk level low. If she is one of those people I fully agree with her. You are putting her and your kids at risk.

she doesn’t get to police her ex’s “risk level” to this degree.

His risk level impacts her. He could easily get it and pass it through the kids. Its a fair concern.

I agree. I am married to someone who shares kids with his ex. They are both essential workers. I wish they would wear masks around their kids especially when they are inside, one of whom is higher risk for covid complications, so that they would cut down on the transmission risks to me and their kids. They don't. I wear a mask and try to keep the house ventilated, wipe down high touch surfaces, encourage dad and his kids interact outside, rather than inside, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do not bother seeing this mofo if you don’t like it. You have options. You are not married. Be busy and block the calls.

Hang out with your cat or go shopping. Go out to eat. Forget all this shit.

It's really not my problem. I am not breaking up with him because she is controlling. I love him. I am just sorry he has to deal with this. And remember, I am an exw who also co-parents. My exh makes choices I disagree with very much, but it's his life and he can make parenting choices too, even if I don't like them.

The issue is COVID. If he is going back and forth to your house and you have three kids you are sharing with your ex and probably are seeing others, etc. then she has a reasonable concern. Some of us aren't going out to eat and doing the absolute necessities for shopping and keeping our risk level low. If she is one of those people I fully agree with her. You are putting her and your kids at risk.

she doesn’t get to police her ex’s “risk level” to this degree.

His risk level impacts her. He could easily get it and pass it through the kids. Its a fair concern.

She doesn’t get to micromanage his risk level in a clearly arbitrary way where she gets to decide for both of them. Not how it works. She gets to decide who she trusts (relatives, friends, sports) and he gets to decide who he trusts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with her.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do not bother seeing this mofo if you don’t like it. You have options. You are not married. Be busy and block the calls.

Hang out with your cat or go shopping. Go out to eat. Forget all this shit.

It's really not my problem. I am not breaking up with him because she is controlling. I love him. I am just sorry he has to deal with this. And remember, I am an exw who also co-parents. My exh makes choices I disagree with very much, but it's his life and he can make parenting choices too, even if I don't like them.

The issue is COVID. If he is going back and forth to your house and you have three kids you are sharing with your ex and probably are seeing others, etc. then she has a reasonable concern. Some of us aren't going out to eat and doing the absolute necessities for shopping and keeping our risk level low. If she is one of those people I fully agree with her. You are putting her and your kids at risk.

she doesn’t get to police her ex’s “risk level” to this degree.

His risk level impacts her. He could easily get it and pass it through the kids. Its a fair concern.

She doesn’t get to micromanage his risk level in a clearly arbitrary way where she gets to decide for both of them. Not how it works. She gets to decide who she trusts (relatives, friends, sports) and he gets to decide who he trusts.

In a normal situation, yes, but this is a huge health issue and the risks to her are great. It impacts her! It is selfish.

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Anonymous wrote:I get the sense that a lot of parents are using covid as a way to control their exes ...

Happening to me all this time. Courts vlosed and I am still waiting on a date to force the court order. He refuses to let me within 6 feet of her and won't allow visitation, stating I am not in their household.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do not bother seeing this mofo if you don’t like it. You have options. You are not married. Be busy and block the calls.

Hang out with your cat or go shopping. Go out to eat. Forget all this shit.

It's really not my problem. I am not breaking up with him because she is controlling. I love him. I am just sorry he has to deal with this. And remember, I am an exw who also co-parents. My exh makes choices I disagree with very much, but it's his life and he can make parenting choices too, even if I don't like them.

The issue is COVID. If he is going back and forth to your house and you have three kids you are sharing with your ex and probably are seeing others, etc. then she has a reasonable concern. Some of us aren't going out to eat and doing the absolute necessities for shopping and keeping our risk level low. If she is one of those people I fully agree with her. You are putting her and your kids at risk.

she doesn’t get to police her ex’s “risk level” to this degree.

His risk level impacts her. He could easily get it and pass it through the kids. Its a fair concern.

She doesn’t get to micromanage his risk level in a clearly arbitrary way where she gets to decide for both of them. Not how it works. She gets to decide who she trusts (relatives, friends, sports) and he gets to decide who he trusts.

This. I do not agree with her.