Is this super entitled and irritating, or is it just me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you not know if people you are interacting with are following social-distancing?

Would you invite people with allergies for dinner & then think its rude if they ask what's in the food? Your fake etiquettes are not more important than people's lives. People are scared. I don't understand how you can't be bothered to be responsible during a pandemic. As a parent, and as a host, I would give everyone all the information that I could.

I wonder if the OP's guests were using this as a proxy for how closely SHE was following social distancing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you not know if people you are interacting with are following social-distancing?

Would you invite people with allergies for dinner & then think its rude if they ask what's in the food? Your fake etiquettes are not more important than people's lives. People are scared. I don't understand how you can't be bothered to be responsible during a pandemic. As a parent, and as a host, I would give everyone all the information that I could.

I wonder if the OP's guests were using this as a proxy for how closely SHE was following social distancing.

NP here-- I had that same thought.

[Anonymous]

Why do you not know if people you are interacting with are following social-distancing?

Would you invite people with allergies for dinner & then think its rude if they ask what's in the food? Your fake etiquettes are not more important than people's lives. People are scared. I don't understand how you can't be bothered to be responsible during a pandemic. As a parent, and as a host, I would give everyone all the information that I could.


I wonder if the OP's guests were using this as a proxy for how closely SHE was following social distancing.


NP here-- I had that same thought.

Maybe. It seems more normal and polite to just ask the question directly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Why do you not know if people you are interacting with are following social-distancing?

Would you invite people with allergies for dinner & then think its rude if they ask what's in the food? Your fake etiquettes are not more important than people's lives. People are scared. I don't understand how you can't be bothered to be responsible during a pandemic. As a parent, and as a host, I would give everyone all the information that I could.


I wonder if the OP's guests were using this as a proxy for how closely SHE was following social distancing.


NP here-- I had that same thought.

Maybe. It seems more normal and polite to just ask the question directly.

The guest DID ask the question directly. What's she supposed to do instead -- ask for the other guests' contact info so she can ask them herself? OP is just looking for any excuse to be bitchy about someone else's behavior. Hasn't that gotten old yet?

[Anonymous]

Why do you not know if people you are interacting with are following social-distancing?

Would you invite people with allergies for dinner & then think its rude if they ask what's in the food? Your fake etiquettes are not more important than people's lives. People are scared. I don't understand how you can't be bothered to be responsible during a pandemic. As a parent, and as a host, I would give everyone all the information that I could.


I wonder if the OP's guests were using this as a proxy for how closely SHE was following social distancing.


NP here-- I had that same thought.


Maybe. It seems more normal and polite to just ask the question directly.


The guest DID ask the question directly. What's she supposed to do instead -- ask for the other guests' contact info so she can ask them herself? OP is just looking for any excuse to be bitchy about someone else's behavior. Hasn't that gotten old yet?

Apparently not for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On two occasions in the past two weeks, I have asked different parents of my kids' friends if their kids could watch a movie in our yard (we have a projector) with one or two of DS and DD's other friends. The response I've gotten is "can you tell me about how the parents of those kids have been socially distancing?" I totally get that COVID is a real and scary thing, and I have no issue with parents feeling uncomfortable and declining an invite due to concerns about COVID. Makes total sense. However, I don't feel that I should be obligated to obtain and provide a detailed explanation of the social distancing practices of our other guests' families. I think that, if people are concerned and want to socially distance, they themselves should decline the invite for that reason. Am I wrong that this response is unreasonable? I just replied, "Sorry, I don't have that information. I totally understand if you feel uncomfortable, maybe another time later on."

Your answer is perfect. You are not responsible to be your guests' contact tracer and give out that information to other guests.

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Anonymous wrote:I just think about the most lax social distancers I know and assume everyone is that bad. I wouldn’t let my kid watch a movie on OP’s backyard, especially not with her response.

Are you planning to keep your kids away from all other kids until there is a vaccine? I am just curious. We are socializing with a couple of other families--dining outdoors, but with kids in and out of the house (teenagers) and we think this is appropriate after 3 months of isolating ourselves. It's clear this isn't going away and it's ridiculous to keep punishing our children while the rest of the world goes on around us.

It is not "hunker down until vaccine" or "act like a fool and lick doorknobs". It is not an either/or choice. We each decide how much risk we want, what risk are worth it, and when.

While we won't be indoors until a vaccine, we are still being careful. Why? We don't want Covid and we don't want to pass covid to our boomer parents. Simple. At some point, we'll take more risks. But for now, we're taking as few risks as possible.

Basically, while we may all get it eventually, but I'd like the doctors/nurses treating me to have more than 15 weeks treating this virus before I show up. Just because you are bored does not mean the pandemic is over,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, you are a poor host. We are in the middle of a pandemic.

+1 We would pass. If I know you well and it's only your family, then great. Otherwise big no.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just think about the most lax social distancers I know and assume everyone is that bad. I wouldn’t let my kid watch a movie on OP’s backyard, especially not with her response.

Are you planning to keep your kids away from all other kids until there is a vaccine? I am just curious. We are socializing with a couple of other families--dining outdoors, but with kids in and out of the house (teenagers) and we think this is appropriate after 3 months of isolating ourselves. It's clear this isn't going away and it's ridiculous to keep punishing our children while the rest of the world goes on around us.

It is not "hunker down until vaccine" or "act like a fool and lick doorknobs". It is not an either/or choice. We each decide how much risk we want, what risk are worth it, and when.

While we won't be indoors until a vaccine, we are still being careful. Why? We don't want Covid and we don't want to pass covid to our boomer parents. Simple. At some point, we'll take more risks. But for now, we're taking as few risks as possible.

Basically, while we may all get it eventually, but I'd like the doctors/nurses treating me to have more than 15 weeks treating this virus before I show up. Just because you are bored does not mean the pandemic is over,

+1

[Anonymous]

Sorry to hijack this thread, but I have to say, this transitional period of people starting to get together with limited circles and everything - it really sucks for us. DH works in healthcare so he's exposed every day. So does that really mean that we should be isolating to protect others for another year or so, while everyone else is socializing?

[Anonymous]

Wow, you are a poor host. We are in the middle of a pandemic.



+1 We would pass. If I know you well and it's only your family, then great. Otherwise big no.

If you're only going to events where you know people well or only the host's family is attending, this entire post about asking for contact tracing information for invitees that you don't know well doesn't pertain to you at all. Just decline the invite. It's not a summons.

[Anonymous]

Sorry to hijack this thread, but I have to say, this transitional period of people starting to get together with limited circles and everything - it really sucks for us. DH works in healthcare so he's exposed every day. So does that really mean that we should be isolating to protect others for another year or so, while everyone else is socializing?

Different people have different risk tolerances. My son has a friend whose mom is a nurse. We let the kids ride bikes together outdoors. We wouldn't let them play tag or swim in our miniature pool together. It depends on what you mean by "isolating" and "socializing?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Sorry to hijack this thread, but I have to say, this transitional period of people starting to get together with limited circles and everything - it really sucks for us. DH works in healthcare so he's exposed every day. So does that really mean that we should be isolating to protect others for another year or so, while everyone else is socializing?

Different people have different risk tolerances. My son has a friend whose mom is a nurse. We let the kids ride bikes together outdoors. We wouldn't let them play tag or swim in our miniature pool together. It depends on what you mean by "isolating" and "socializing?"

Some families have started doing regular playdates with select families that they know are low risk. Unmasked, outdoor/indoor, not socially distant among the kids. This is great for them, but I feel bad for our kids who are excluded. So yes sure, they might be included here and there for an occasional masked playdate on a bike or whatever, while being vigilant not to get too close to each other. But my kids are little and this is hard and awkward. And knowing that their friends are having normal carefree playdates kinda sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think they’re wrong to ask and I also don’t think your response was wrong. Everyone’s figuring out how to navigate this based on their own risk tolerance.

+1000. Your house your rule but i think your irritation is misplaced. They have the right to ask and decide who they want in their circle. They are actually getting information about you . If you are the type of person who allows anyone in your yard, maybe they wont be confortable with you either in the future, and thats ok. Maybe they have someone more vulnerable to protect but dont want to deprive their kids either and are trying to assess the right balance.


In similar situations I give that type of info very willingly and as precisely as I can, so that everyone can decide based on their own risk assessment.

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Anonymous wrote:

Going by OP & a lot of other responses, a second wave is not too far! Let's all have fun and be careless...

A second wave is predicted to come this fall regardless. Experts have set up levels of risk by the nature of the activity. Sitting outdoors with a small group six feet away from each other to watch a movie is relatively low risk. Yes, it is more risk that a zoom session, but not everyone is going to want to or agree to do that indefinitely. Nor is it recommended for most people. In fact, in many states, you can have outdoor groups of up to 50 people at this point, or sit indoors at a restaurant, or get your hair done, or have your house cleaned. You may personally feel uncomfortable, and it is fine to opt out of doing so for that reason.

There can't be a second wave until the first wave is gone. Which it isn't. The first wave has plateaued, not receded. The correct term for another increase is a "surge."