Is this super entitled and irritating, or is it just me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People,

You need to understand that usual etiquette does not apply 100% in times pf pandemic.

It is a most important question, actually, OP.

Your response was fine, but please don’t think they were rude. You should be asking the same question of others.

it absolutely was rude. they are not entitled to OP’s contact tracing services.

[Anonymous]

Why do you not know if people you are interacting with are following social-distancing?

Would you invite people with allergies for dinner & then think its rude if they ask what's in the food? Your fake etiquettes are not more important than people's lives. People are scared. I don't understand how you can't be bothered to be responsible during a pandemic. As a parent, and as a host, I would give everyone all the information that I could.

[Anonymous]

Why do you not know if people you are interacting with are following social-distancing?

Would you invite people with allergies for dinner & then think its rude if they ask what's in the food? Your fake etiquettes are not more important than people's lives. People are scared. I don't understand how you can't be bothered to be responsible during a pandemic. As a parent, and as a host, I would give everyone all the information that I could.

If you are scared for your life it would seem to make sense not to attend an outdoor movie with people you don't know. It's fine to decline.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Why do you not know if people you are interacting with are following social-distancing?

Would you invite people with allergies for dinner & then think its rude if they ask what's in the food? Your fake etiquettes are not more important than people's lives. People are scared. I don't understand how you can't be bothered to be responsible during a pandemic. As a parent, and as a host, I would give everyone all the information that I could.

If you are scared for your life it would seem to make sense not to attend an outdoor movie with people you don't know. It's fine to decline.

People can't lock themselves and their kids forever. They rely on their community, friends, and families being understandable human beings and making it safe for each other. It's not a hard concept.

[Anonymous]

Would you invite people with allergies for dinner & then think its rude if they ask what's in the food? Your fake etiquettes are not more important than people's lives. People are scared. I don't understand how you can't be bothered to be responsible during a pandemic. As a parent, and as a host, I would give everyone all the information that I could.


If you are scared for your life it would seem to make sense not to attend an outdoor movie with people you don't know. It's fine to decline.


People can't lock themselves and their kids forever. They rely on their community, friends, and families being understandable human beings and making it safe for each other. It's not a hard concept.

I don't assume anyone is completely socially distancing at this point, and choose activities accordingly. If you don't want to interact with people you don't know, you are welcome to either: host something yourself, or decline invites where you don't know people, or ask for the contact information for other invitees so you can ask them yourself. It's not a hard concept.

[Anonymous]

It seems to me that if they are attending your event they are pretty ok with some amount of outdoor contact as is anyone else who is coming. If they are truly distancing they would just decline. I would not have asked you that. I would just have accepted (probably) or declined. If three kids became 10 and you ended up serving pizza and ice cream and then my kid called to see if they could sleep over, I would be annoyed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you not know if people you are interacting with are following social-distancing?

Would you invite people with allergies for dinner & then think its rude if they ask what's in the food? Your fake etiquettes are not more important than people's lives. People are scared. I don't understand how you can't be bothered to be responsible during a pandemic. As a parent, and as a host, I would give everyone all the information that I could.

because everyone accepts some risks ,because it’s unkind to grill people on their behaviors and because you can’t trust what they say way.

[Anonymous]

OP here. The issue isn't really the COVID. It's a larger problem with the relationship and division of labor. One of the moms contacted me this weekend to ask if my family wanted to do a socially distanced picnic with hers. I said sure. She then responded: ok which park would be good in terms of not having many too people, and what day this week has the best weather.

[Anonymous]

I would text back something like "as far as I know! But you can speak to them directly if you have any specific questions or want to discuss potential concerns."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Would you invite people with allergies for dinner & then think its rude if they ask what's in the food? Your fake etiquettes are not more important than people's lives. People are scared. I don't understand how you can't be bothered to be responsible during a pandemic. As a parent, and as a host, I would give everyone all the information that I could.


If you are scared for your life it would seem to make sense not to attend an outdoor movie with people you don't know. It's fine to decline.


People can't lock themselves and their kids forever. They rely on their community, friends, and families being understandable human beings and making it safe for each other. It's not a hard concept.

I don't assume anyone is completely socially distancing at this point, and choose activities accordingly. If you don't want to interact with people you don't know, you are welcome to either: host something yourself, or decline invites where you don't know people, or ask for the contact information for other invitees so you can ask them yourself. It's not a hard concept.

Agree. Why would you expect anyone to be "completely social distancing" now that restrictions have been limited? It is no longer required.

[Anonymous]

It is irritating because they are shifting the responsibility of the decision and risk on you.

So, if their kid or they get sick, they’ll come back and blame you, cause either one of the kids’ families did not distance properly and you did not do the due diligence and communicate to them or the kids did not distance properly while in your yard - even if they got it elsewhere.

There is risk in any social interaction now and it should be their own decision and risk assessment and taking responsibility fully for their own decision. Best to stay away from people like that.

[Anonymous]

11:02. I would be ok if families ask about details of my hosting (e.g. # of kids, distancing rules while they are over in my backyard, bathroom use, etc) and as host during a pandemic I’d be happy to provide these details.

But I would find it rude and irritating to answer questions on what and how families of kid A and kid B are distancing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, you are a poor host. We are in the middle of a pandemic.

+1

+2. I don’t think their question was entitled or irritating. They asked, you answered, done.

I am immuno-compromised. I would like to let my kids be around other kids but .... it's scary. If I get the virus, I'll be one of those people who winds up on a vent. If you can't answer my question then just say that. But aren't I entitled to try to LIVE?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, you are a poor host. We are in the middle of a pandemic.

+1

+2. I don’t think their question was entitled or irritating. They asked, you answered, done.

I am immuno-compromised. I would like to let my kids be around other kids but .... it's scary. If I get the virus, I'll be one of those people who winds up on a vent. If you can't answer my question then just say that. But aren't I entitled to try to LIVE?

Of course you are. So organize something yourself for your kids and invite only families you can personally vouch for.

[Anonymous]

Not entitled. You are hosting so you need to make others comfortable.