Is this super entitled and irritating, or is it just me?

[Anonymous]

Op, your answer would tell me that you aren’t worried about the answers to these questions, which is a red flag that you aren’t doing your own due diligence. If that isn’t the case and you do know the answers, why wouldn’t you share it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, your answer would tell me that you aren’t worried about the answers to these questions, which is a red flag that you aren’t doing your own due diligence. If that isn’t the case and you do know the answers, why wouldn’t you share it?

Yes, exactly. If you don’t know the answers to this question, it means you aren’t someone whose kids I want mine to spend time around right now. That being said, your response was fine. It would’ve given me all the information I needed. And no, it’s not rude or “entitled” of the other family to ask.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, perfect response from you.

Yes. I'd definitely be weirded by the other parents. If you are not comfortable. I get it, but the just decline the invitation!

[Anonymous]

OP, it’s not an unreasonable question. Perhaps these parents are assuming that you know about the other parents’ social distancing practices because you felt comfortable enough to host those parents’ children.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, you are a poor host. We are in the middle of a pandemic.

Kids aren’t getting covid from watching a movie in someone’s backyard.

Kids aren’t great at social distancing - and, arguably, shouldn’t have to be.
Many households and/or family circles have high risk members.
Connect the dots.

Read up on transmission. You need to be in close proximity for extended duration. Outdoors - even in close proximity- is low risk due to air flow.

Where my parent lives they've had 4 community spread events in the past week. One of the spreads has been tied to a backyard event attended by multiple families. The question asked of OP is not entitled, and shouldn't be irritating.

[Anonymous]

I just think about the most lax social distancers I know and assume everyone is that bad. I wouldn’t let my kid watch a movie on OP’s backyard, especially not with her response.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think they’re wrong to ask and I also don’t think your response was wrong. Everyone’s figuring out how to navigate this based on their own risk tolerance.

I agree.

[Anonymous]

Op, your answer would tell me that you aren’t worried about the answers to these questions, which is a red flag that you aren’t doing your own due diligence. If that isn’t the case and you do know the answers, why wouldn’t you share it?

I don't know the answer. If I did, why wouldn't I share it? And no, I am comfortable not knowing that information for an outdoor event for three nine or eleven year olds that involves sitting in our yard and watching a movie. I have no issue if others feel differently, but I don't think it is my job to seek that information out for them. They can decline - but one of them ultimately didn't. My irritation likely stems from a larger issue where, in the past, I've always had to do more of the work of organizing things, rather than this specific issue.

[Anonymous]

I find it irritating because it shows they don't get why we are doing all this. The point of socially distancing and only getting together in small groups outside is because you are supposed to assume everyone is an asymptomatic carrier of COVID-19. So you should act accordingly. They should be making sure you will keep the kids apart, no going inside, etc. but otherwise they should assume everyone HAS been acting irresponsibly and that is why it is important to SD in outside spaces.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People,

You need to understand that usual etiquette does not apply 100% in times pf pandemic.

It is a most important question, actually, OP.

Your response was fine, but please don’t think they were rude. You should be asking the same question of others.

Agree with this. They aren’t entitled or rude, OP. You’re being too sensitive.

[Anonymous]

You need to understand that usual etiquette does not apply 100% in times pf pandemic.

It is a most important question, actually, OP.

Your response was fine, but please don’t think they were rude. You should be asking the same question of others.




Agree with this. They aren’t entitled or rude, OP. You’re being too sensitive.

Ok, thanks, I appreciate the feedback. I probably am. As I said, the issue is likely part of a larger backdrop of me feeling that these people always expect me to organize and arrange for all the kids' time together, which is upsetting me regardless of this situation.

[Anonymous]

You need to understand that usual etiquette does not apply 100% in times pf pandemic.

It is a most important question, actually, OP.

Your response was fine, but please don’t think they were rude. You should be asking the same question of others.




Agree with this. They aren’t entitled or rude, OP. You’re being too sensitive.


Ok, thanks, I appreciate the feedback. I probably am. As I said, the issue is likely part of a larger backdrop of me feeling that these people always expect me to organize and arrange for all the kids' time together, which is upsetting me regardless of this situation.

OP again. I wanted to thank everyone who took the time to respond. The feedback was helpful in putting the issue in perspective and helping me to think about what it was that was really bothering me, rather than this relatively minor incident.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just think about the most lax social distancers I know and assume everyone is that bad. I wouldn’t let my kid watch a movie on OP’s backyard, especially not with her response.

Are you planning to keep your kids away from all other kids until there is a vaccine? I am just curious. We are socializing with a couple of other families--dining outdoors, but with kids in and out of the house (teenagers) and we think this is appropriate after 3 months of isolating ourselves. It's clear this isn't going away and it's ridiculous to keep punishing our children while the rest of the world goes on around us.

[Anonymous]

I just think about the most lax social distancers I know and assume everyone is that bad. I wouldn’t let my kid watch a movie on OP’s backyard, especially not with her response.


Are you planning to keep your kids away from all other kids until there is a vaccine? I am just curious. We are socializing with a couple of other families--dining outdoors, but with kids in and out of the house (teenagers) and we think this is appropriate after 3 months of isolating ourselves. It's clear this isn't going away and it's ridiculous to keep punishing our children while the rest of the world goes on around us.

OP again and I wanted to clarify that this is not me. I don't personally intend to prevent my kids from getting together with a few other kids outdoors, but if other people feel safest doing that, it is entirely their choice and I don't question their decision to decline. My issue was with the request to gather information about the social distancing practices of others and convey them along, but other people have pointed out that is not a big deal, except to me it was in light of other interactions with the invitees.

[Anonymous]

I agree with OP. Everyone has gone too far with this. Ridiculous.