Is this super entitled and irritating, or is it just me?
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Anonymous
| On two occasions in the past two weeks, I have asked different parents of my kids' friends if their kids could watch a movie in our yard (we have a projector) with one or two of DS and DD's other friends. The response I've gotten is "can you tell me about how the parents of those kids have been socially distancing?" I totally get that COVID is a real and scary thing, and I have no issue with parents feeling uncomfortable and declining an invite due to concerns about COVID. Makes total sense. However, I don't feel that I should be obligated to obtain and provide a detailed explanation of the social distancing practices of our other guests' families. I think that, if people are concerned and want to socially distance, they themselves should decline the invite for that reason. Am I wrong that this response is unreasonable? I just replied, "Sorry, I don't have that information. I totally understand if you feel uncomfortable, maybe another time later on." |
Anonymous
| Yes, I think it's rude. Either accept the invitation, or don't. Don't grill the host on the other guests' behavior, which the host couldn't possibly know or verify. |
Anonymous
| I don’t think they’re wrong to ask and I also don’t think your response was wrong. Everyone’s figuring out how to navigate this based on their own risk tolerance. |
Anonymous
+1 "I don't know, you can ask them!" |
Anonymous
| I don’t think it’s an unreasonable question. It’s something many people would be concerned about - and something that someone hosting a gathering might have discussed with the other guests or their families. I also think that your response is a good one. Different people have different concerns regarding risks — and that’s reasonable. |
Anonymous
| OP, your response was perfect. I would have done the same. |
Anonymous
| Wow, you are a poor host. We are in the middle of a pandemic. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
+2. I don’t think their question was entitled or irritating. They asked, you answered, done. |
Anonymous
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People,
You need to understand that usual etiquette does not apply 100% in times pf pandemic. It is a most important question, actually, OP. Your response was fine, but please don’t think they were rude. You should be asking the same question of others. |
Anonymous
| Your response is fine. I would probably decline unless I knew everyone well. |
Anonymous
Kids aren’t getting covid from watching a movie in someone’s backyard. |
Anonymous
Kids aren’t great at social distancing - and, arguably, shouldn’t have to be. Many households and/or family circles have high risk members. Connect the dots. |
Anonymous
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Meh- everyone is handling this different. I would let it go.
Some of my daughters friends will come hang in the front yard and play in the sprinklers. Others are a hard no. Funny thing is we are all back in preschool, so I don’t really see why it matters |