Amanda Palmer and Neil Gaiman divorcing

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People always blame the woman.

Look how they blamed Jennifer Aniston for Brad leaving.

And, the MEN always get a pass.

It sounds like he cheated on her and had a drug problem. No matter what her personality is like, it is always wrong for a married partner to cheat.

And open marriages?? WTF? Somebody will always fall in love eventually with whomever they begin to screw. It's the riskiest arrangement ever for a married couple that wants to protect their marriage.

You can’t cheat in an open marriage.

That's a silly statement. Pretty sure most open marriages have rules that couples stick by and aren't just a free-for-all in terms of getting involved/sleeping with others.

Good luck enforcing rules when you've already said you’re ok with your husband banging other people. Rule #1 of marriage has already been broken.

Im not poly, but I don’t think that’s how it works. Some couples manage to do this in a healthy way. It takes a ton of communication, emotional honesty, self awareness, self assessment, and vulnerability. Most of us aren’t equipped to do this well or put in the work. It’s something that’s easier to think about (and judge), than practice.

Not poly either, but I have a good friend who has been married for about 15 years and she and her husband have opened up the marriage a few times. They always had iron-clad rules about who and how and where they saw other people. If one person was on a dating site, they disclosed they were married and already had a primary partner. If sex with others was going to happen, it was not spontaneous and was disclosed. If one person became uncomfortable, the secondary relationship was discontinued and/or the marriage closed back up. They are still happily married (marriage currently closed).

That sounds sick. Two twisted, self-involved, highly controlling assholes. Yuck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People always blame the woman.

Look how they blamed Jennifer Aniston for Brad leaving.

And, the MEN always get a pass.

It sounds like he cheated on her and had a drug problem. No matter what her personality is like, it is always wrong for a married partner to cheat.

And open marriages?? WTF? Somebody will always fall in love eventually with whomever they begin to screw. It's the riskiest arrangement ever for a married couple that wants to protect their marriage.

You can’t cheat in an open marriage.

Yes you can

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People always blame the woman.

Look how they blamed Jennifer Aniston for Brad leaving.

And, the MEN always get a pass.

It sounds like he cheated on her and had a drug problem. No matter what her personality is like, it is always wrong for a married partner to cheat.

And open marriages?? WTF? Somebody will always fall in love eventually with whomever they begin to screw. It's the riskiest arrangement ever for a married couple that wants to protect their marriage.

You can’t cheat in an open marriage.

That's a silly statement. Pretty sure most open marriages have rules that couples stick by and aren't just a free-for-all in terms of getting involved/sleeping with others.

Good luck enforcing rules when you've already said you’re ok with your husband banging other people. Rule #1 of marriage has already been broken.

Im not poly, but I don’t think that’s how it works. Some couples manage to do this in a healthy way. It takes a ton of communication, emotional honesty, self awareness, self assessment, and vulnerability. Most of us aren’t equipped to do this well or put in the work. It’s something that’s easier to think about (and judge), than practice.

Not poly either, but I have a good friend who has been married for about 15 years and she and her husband have opened up the marriage a few times. They always had iron-clad rules about who and how and where they saw other people. If one person was on a dating site, they disclosed they were married and already had a primary partner. If sex with others was going to happen, it was not spontaneous and was disclosed. If one person became uncomfortable, the secondary relationship was discontinued and/or the marriage closed back up. They are still happily married (marriage currently closed).

That sounds sick. Two twisted, self-involved, highly controlling assholes. Yuck.

Hmmmmm. Or understanding your partner so well that you give one another space to have room for all of they’re emotional experiences. To me, that seems exactly the opposite of self involved in the way you are using that term (and reacting to the concept). It’s not just about sex outside your primary relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To take a left turn, Shadow is totally the idealized version of Neil. But Neil is more of a Fat Charlie (albeit not fat).

And Amanda is NOT a Laura!

Fat Charlie is a good guy. Shadow has issues. I'd much rather go drinking with Fat Charlie than Shadow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To take a left turn, Shadow is totally the idealized version of Neil. But Neil is more of a Fat Charlie (albeit not fat).

And Amanda is NOT a Laura!

Fat Charlie is a good guy. Shadow has issues. I'd much rather go drinking with Fat Charlie than Shadow.

Adding: But I'd much rather drink with Mr. Nancy than either one of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To take a left turn, Shadow is totally the idealized version of Neil. But Neil is more of a Fat Charlie (albeit not fat).

And Amanda is NOT a Laura!

Fat Charlie is a good guy. Shadow has issues. I'd much rather go drinking with Fat Charlie than Shadow.

Adding: But I'd much rather drink with Mr. Nancy than either one of them.

+1

[Anonymous]

Neil Gaiman posted on Goodreads.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Neil Gaiman posted on Goodreads.

May not be him of course.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Neil Gaiman posted on Goodreads.

May not be him of course.

Oh, its him. Verified profile - he's got 200,000+ followers on Goodreads.

https://www.goodreads.com/review/list/1239026-neil?shelf=currently-reading

[Anonymous]

They both suck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Neil Gaiman posted on Goodreads.

Hilarious

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Neil Gaiman posted on Goodreads.

May not be him of course.

Oh, its him. Verified profile - he's got 200,000+ followers on Goodreads.

https://www.goodreads.com/review/list/1239026-neil?shelf=currently-reading

His account was hacked.

Whoa
Someone with a dark sense of humour just hacked this account.

(I suppose that's what I get for leaving it here and not doing anything for a long time.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Neil Gaiman posted on Goodreads.

May not be him of course.

Oh, its him. Verified profile - he's got 200,000+ followers on Goodreads.

https://www.goodreads.com/review/list/1239026-neil?shelf=currently-reading

His account was hacked.

Whoa
Someone with a dark sense of humour just hacked this account.

(I suppose that's what I get for leaving it here and not doing anything for a long time.)

Meh.

[Anonymous]

^^like I said, not him.
not remotely surprising, and shame we have to see that screen shot over and over. you killed the thread - well done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^like I said, not him.
not remotely surprising, and shame we have to see that screen shot over and over. you killed the thread - well done.

“I got hacked” is what everyone says when something unflattering like this pops up and there is an unexpected backlash. Doesn’t mean it’s true