Men who travel for work: do you always cheat?

[Anonymous]

What about the men who work away from home 4 nights a week? Not just travel, but work in a different city than their family? Can we get a straw poll on that scenario and cheating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they are in sales, yes.

Especially if you do a lot of large trade shows in sales, those are open air meat markets

100%

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they are in sales, yes.

Especially if you do a lot of large trade shows in sales, those are open air meat markets

100%

They are meat markets. Many booths get staffed with model types and things happen. I hated the shows!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is common, because the men who travel for work tend to have means and an alpha personality, which got them to the point where they are professionally.

Really? Every professional man and woman, even those right out of college “have to” travel for work. It is not a status, privileage to travel for work. Most hate it, including myself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What about the men who work away from home 4 nights a week? Not just travel, but work in a different city than their family? Can we get a straw poll on that scenario and cheating?

Sounds like a perfect scenario for a double life. I don't think many people can (or want to) pull that off -- but opportunists might.

[Anonymous]

I am the 75/100 PP. Don’t know of any cheaters. I mostly work in places not DC and don’t cheat and don’t know if others who do. There are hookups among the singles but to be honest the work and there travel is more soul crushing than anything.

I work from the time I get to whatever shitty place I’m going till 10 pm, repeat two or three more times until I can head home hoping my flight is on time. My life is already hard enough. Why would I cheat. Seems like a waste.

Nothing to do with travel. It’s just poor character.

[Anonymous]

I find the certainty with which some of you talk about what your spouse does or doesn’t do when alone very amusing.

Also, “he’s Catholic” as an explanation... Seriously? In 2019?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find the certainty with which some of you talk about what your spouse does or doesn’t do when alone very amusing.

Also, “he’s Catholic” as an explanation... Seriously? In 2019?!

Which way would that explanation even cut?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband was gone for two weeks, acted strange when he returned, and finally admitted it. Some of my friends suspect their husbands of this. How common is cheating while on business travel?

Always. After eight hours in a conference room, then a client dinner, and then spending an hour or so answering the emails I missed during the day, I put on my Sex Panther cologne and troll the bar at the Courtyard Marriott or similarly branded property. Someone available is always there, nursing some sort of faux tropical drink or unnaturally fruit-flavored margarita, delightfully frumpy in a jaded, I’m-married-too sort of way. Our brief courtship takes minutes, or even seconds—-we both know why we are there at the Courtyard Marriott bar at 11:45 pm on a Tuesday. The whole thing is, of course, ineffably erotic. In the morning, when my alarm goes off at 5:30 because I need to spend a couple hours getting ready for an 8:00 am meeting, I worry about waking her, but she is awake already, poring over an excel spreadsheet of the Q3 widget figures for the upper Midwest. We say nothing. There is nothing to say. Our moment has passed.

I love this so much.

[Anonymous]

All of these “my spouse would never cheat!”, keep being naive. Y’all are cute.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of these “my spouse would never cheat!”, keep being naive. Y’all are cute.

What about all of the men who have posted that they don’t cheat? Do you know more about them than they themselves do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of these “my spouse would never cheat!”, keep being naive. Y’all are cute.

DW knows I wouldn’t cheat and I wouldn’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recently retired and over 35 years I must have taken 700 business trips. For the last 15 years I was a COO or CEO of large businesses and combined with the fact that I’m a decent looking, fit guy with a full head of hair having a ONS would have been very easy. But I never did nor was I ever really tempted to. I certainly had many after dinner conversations with attractive women but I had no interest in letting a conversation drift into affair territory. If we weren’t discussing business I’d find a way to talk about my family and how great they are. It helps that my wife and I have a very active sex life (including last night) so there was never a “I have a deprived need” excuse. If I had been deprived the odds are high I would have cheated so I’m certainly not an altar boy. Except for very early in my career I never saw a business colleague slip away with someone but at the same time I never really paid attention to what other people did after hours. I’m clueless as to how prevalent cheating is on business trips and it’s certainly not something that married guys discuss. Maybe I live in an unreal bubble but I’m happy to be there.

No one wants to hear this. We want dirty laundry! Air it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find the certainty with which some of you talk about what your spouse does or doesn’t do when alone very amusing.

Also, “he’s Catholic” as an explanation... Seriously? In 2019?!

Yes SERIOUSLY! I know its unusual for people to have morals & ethics in DC, but there are still decent people out there.

Plenty of spouses can trust each other to be faithful and committed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband spent years traveling and there were times during relo's when he'd be gone for two weeks at a time. I've never had a reason to suspect that he cheated given we have a great relationship and he has a very strong moral compass. When I read all of these stories about cheating it seems to come down to those two things - a strong relationship and moral compass. I know a lot of men who are like this so my husband isn't unique.

NP. This is 100% accurate. I’ve always felt this way.