Men who travel for work: do you always cheat?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I worked for a large, well know consulting company and travelled 80-100% for 10 years. Lots of long hours, lots of drinking after work. There was always 1 maybe 2 married guys on a large project that the younger women whispered about. It’s at open secret who the womanizer, philandering or problem drinkers are.

After spending literally thousands of nights in hotels and hotel bars, most men aren’t cheating. The ones that are, would be doing it at home too.

It may also depend on the industry culture. Cheating happens independent of industry and class. However, I wonder if some “industries” attract people with certain propensities. Having traveled quite a bit, I knew of only a few affairs among my colleagues. Of course, maybe they were really good at keeping things on the down low. However, observations of lawyer conventions (as a vendor), it seemed almost expected that married or otherwise coupled people would hook up. It was like open season. Quite eye opening.

I’m in IT and the culture is very work hard - play harder. People go to the same hotel and client for months on end, work long hours together. It seems like a recipe for trouble. Lots of people at my company met their spouse at work - either coworker or client - but I don’t hear of many affairs. I do know one guy who travelled so much he married a gate agent from his home airport.

I’m the PP you’re responding to, and that is my experience working in IT as well. That’s why the legal tech convention was eye opening. Everything was so flagrant among the lawyer crowd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never cheated and I traveled for years. I never had a reason to cheat nor looked for the opportunity. Maybe I’m dull.

So many good men on this thread. Finally some balanced view so that you hear from men who haven’t cheated as well!
I also think there is a cluster effect: if you hang around a group of people who don’t cheat, you will be less likely to cheat and vice Vera. This could explain why some people claim that most people cheat.

[Anonymous]

I’m a woman who travels regularly for my job, and most of my peers are men. Most of the men seem pretty dedicated to their wives and children. I’m sure some men cheat while on business travel but I haven’t seen it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a woman who travels regularly for my job, and most of my peers are men. Most of the men seem pretty dedicated to their wives and children. I’m sure some men cheat while on business travel but I haven’t seen it.

Man here and neither have I, in 30 years of business travel. Nor do I recall ever having an opportunity for a fling and I'm not even married.

I read these threads and think I must be in a parallel universe or something, what with everyone else seemingly jumping into bed with one another at every chance they get.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think the poster who said that if a person cheats on travel, they'd do it at home is pretty spot on.

I've been married for a long time. My spouse and I love each other very much, have an agreement, and have hall passes. But I've honestly never used one. I just don't wanna.

If you love each other so much why on earth would you have hall passes?? Doesn't make sense, nor is it safe.

You're not in our marriage. We are, and we like it this way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband was gone for two weeks, acted strange when he returned, and finally admitted it. Some of my friends suspect their husbands of this. How common is cheating while on business travel?

How attractive and charming is your husband?

Point being, it's not that easy to cheat. Men try all the time but only the very attractive and successful ones can do it. Even then, cheating is at best, occasionally

Charming, but not someone you would look twice at in America.He was in India at a 5-star hotel. According to him, he was just sitting at the hotel coffee shop during a conference at the hotel when he was propositioned.

Did he pay for it? Because then it is whoring and not strictly cheating.

He didn't mention money changing hands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is a former USSS agent. He said they all cheat. All of them. So when we are together with friends whose husbands are agents, it's all i think about. She's clueless and he's happy as a clam interacting with his family.

Including him?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a woman who travels regularly for my job, and most of my peers are men. Most of the men seem pretty dedicated to their wives and children. I’m sure some men cheat while on business travel but I haven’t seen it.

Man here and neither have I, in 30 years of business travel. Nor do I recall ever having an opportunity for a fling and I'm not even married.

I read these threads and think I must be in a parallel universe or something, what with everyone else seemingly jumping into bed with one another at every chance they get.

I know right? Cheating definitely happens but not like it is brought up here where it’s rampant and everyone is jumping in to bed with everyone else. It does seem like a parallel universe sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I worked for a large, well know consulting company and travelled 80-100% for 10 years. Lots of long hours, lots of drinking after work. There was always 1 maybe 2 married guys on a large project that the younger women whispered about. It’s at open secret who the womanizer, philandering or problem drinkers are.

After spending literally thousands of nights in hotels and hotel bars, most men aren’t cheating. The ones that are, would be doing it at home too.

It may also depend on the industry culture. Cheating happens independent of industry and class. However, I wonder if some “industries” attract people with certain propensities. Having traveled quite a bit, I knew of only a few affairs among my colleagues. Of course, maybe they were really good at keeping things on the down low. However, observations of lawyer conventions (as a vendor), it seemed almost expected that married or otherwise coupled people would hook up. It was like open season. Quite eye opening.

I’m in IT and the culture is very work hard - play harder. People go to the same hotel and client for months on end, work long hours together. It seems like a recipe for trouble. Lots of people at my company met their spouse at work - either coworker or client - but I don’t hear of many affairs. I do know one guy who travelled so much he married a gate agent from his home airport.

There are thousands of young consultants on the road Mon-Thurs and they must have great stories to tell. But the older married ones I know are so exhausted that they just crash.

I'm one of those consultants. The married ones do cheat, but by no means all. They're usually the ones who are kind of known as letches around the office as well.

[Anonymous]

I work in an industry crawling with men on the road 300 days a year or so. Most of them end up divorced, but it's due to the travel and not because they cheated. The hours are too demanding and most are too ugly to even consider it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband was gone for two weeks, acted strange when he returned, and finally admitted it. Some of my friends suspect their husbands of this. How common is cheating while on business travel?

How attractive and charming is your husband?

Point being, it's not that easy to cheat. Men try all the time but only the very attractive and successful ones can do it. Even then, cheating is at best, occasionally

Charming, but not someone you would look twice at in America.He was in India at a 5-star hotel. According to him, he was just sitting at the hotel coffee shop during a conference at the hotel when he was propositioned.

Is he white? In some cultures, white partners are seen as a "prize". Ie: "I am good enough!"

Yes, as white as they come.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I worked for a large, well know consulting company and travelled 80-100% for 10 years. Lots of long hours, lots of drinking after work. There was always 1 maybe 2 married guys on a large project that the younger women whispered about. It’s at open secret who the womanizer, philandering or problem drinkers are.

After spending literally thousands of nights in hotels and hotel bars, most men aren’t cheating. The ones that are, would be doing it at home too.

It may also depend on the industry culture. Cheating happens independent of industry and class. However, I wonder if some “industries” attract people with certain propensities. Having traveled quite a bit, I knew of only a few affairs among my colleagues. Of course, maybe they were really good at keeping things on the down low. However, observations of lawyer conventions (as a vendor), it seemed almost expected that married or otherwise coupled people would hook up. It was like open season. Quite eye opening.

I’m in IT and the culture is very work hard - play harder. People go to the same hotel and client for months on end, work long hours together. It seems like a recipe for trouble. Lots of people at my company met their spouse at work - either coworker or client - but I don’t hear of many affairs. I do know one guy who travelled so much he married a gate agent from his home airport.

There are thousands of young consultants on the road Mon-Thurs and they must have great stories to tell. But the older married ones I know are so exhausted that they just crash.

I'm one of those consultants. The married ones do cheat, but by no means all. They're usually the ones who are kind of known as letches around the office as well.

Exactly. They are everywhere, everyone knows they are the creepers to avoid. Quite a few posting on here as well.

[Anonymous]

Pro-tip for any guys out there who want to cheat with a local: sign-up for an online account in the city about three weeks in advance.

Once you match, gradually escalate the tension by chat so that the tension is sky high by the time you do meet. (My uber trips from my hotel to the bar and back were sometimes under an hour.)

You're not in town on business. Your in town as a job trial that will ideally lead to a transfer to the city.

[Anonymous]

I used to travel for work and had plenty of opportunities but never cheated. Now I am divorced and when I (rarely) travel for work, I still don't mess around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a very active libido and I like to think of my bedroom skills as being “active and adventurous.” If my husband was to cheat I think he would be very disappointed.

Same, girl..same.

Still think he's a lying, cheating asshole though.