Bathroom Line Etiquette

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:An adult with a true emergency can use her words and say so/ask for what she needs. Passive aggressive comments will get you nowhere.

DP. Thank you. The reactions of other posters on this thread really left me scratching my head. The woman could have asked you directly - and explained the emergency. Otherwise, she should be in command of her body enough to plan accordingly. I don't think it was an emergency since she didn't make a move toward the port a potty.

You still don’t get it, do you? You’re an idiot.

NP here. It appears that you are missing a crucial point. From the OP:

"a few port-a-potties about 20 feet away from the main building. . . . I did point out that there were port-a-potties a stones throw away with no line and she made a face."

So, it isn't that the woman had an emergency and was at risk of soiling herself. It was that she had to go, but was too good to go in the port-a-potties, and wanted to jump the line because of that. And if she's so snotty that she's rather wet her pants than use a port-a-john, well, that's on her.

Yep. I agree with this. What grown woman feels entitled to cut in front of a woman with two little kids, when there were port a potties right near by. She just didn’t want to use them and tried to guilt OP into letting her go. You did the right thing OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult with a true emergency can use her words and say so/ask for what she needs. Passive aggressive comments will get you nowhere.

DP. Thank you. The reactions of other posters on this thread really left me scratching my head. The woman could have asked you directly - and explained the emergency. Otherwise, she should be in command of her body enough to plan accordingly. I don't think it was an emergency since she didn't make a move toward the port a potty.

Why do you need to make someone go through that potential humiliation? What has the world done to you that you cannot simply take a person who said she is having an emergency, at her word? Do you really need or want details on what exactly the emergency is? Maybe she’s having insane bleeding due to oerimenopause and is worried she already bled through so doesn’t want to walk to the ports potty? What the hell do you folks need, a notarized affidavit?

Just a direct question: “Excuse me. I’m in a bit of an emergency. Could I please go ahead of you and your children?” According to OP, she didn’t even ask. She just talked loudly to somebody else about how bad she had to pee.

That's not what OP said. From the OP:
As we were waiting, the woman with the emergency kept talking to me about how badly she had to go.

-- Personally, I think that's pretty direct.

Good observation. What more do you need OP? Do you expect a grown woman asking you like she was a child and you the teacher in Elementary school?

And think of it - the three of you would have taken way longer than the time it would have taken her. You are just not a considerate person OP. The reason for this thread is to make yourself feel better and justify your actions.

+1,000

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You were not wrong in any way to do what you did but you know that you could have been gracious and let the grandma go ahead of you. Etiquette is looking past your own interests to the interest of others. You followed the rules (you were in line first...) but you were not gracious. Be gracious next time and see what happens with your kids (maybe they hold their pee, maybe they don't but either way, they will learn a valuable lesson).

Grandma??!

Grandma's the best person on this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult with a true emergency can use her words and say so/ask for what she needs. Passive aggressive comments will get you nowhere.

DP. Thank you. The reactions of other posters on this thread really left me scratching my head. The woman could have asked you directly - and explained the emergency. Otherwise, she should be in command of her body enough to plan accordingly. I don't think it was an emergency since she didn't make a move toward the port a potty.

You still don’t get it, do you? You’re an idiot.

NP here. It appears that you are missing a crucial point. From the OP:

"a few port-a-potties about 20 feet away from the main building. . . . I did point out that there were port-a-potties a stones throw away with no line and she made a face."

So, it isn't that the woman had an emergency and was at risk of soiling herself. It was that she had to go, but was too good to go in the port-a-potties, and wanted to jump the line because of that. And if she's so snotty that she's rather wet her pants than use a port-a-john, well, that's on her.

Yep. I agree with this. What grown woman feels entitled to cut in front of a woman with two little kids, when there were port a potties right near by. She just didn’t want to use them and tried to guilt OP into letting her go. You did the right thing OP.

Exactly.

That grown woman was disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult with a true emergency can use her words and say so/ask for what she needs. Passive aggressive comments will get you nowhere.

DP. Thank you. The reactions of other posters on this thread really left me scratching my head. The woman could have asked you directly - and explained the emergency. Otherwise, she should be in command of her body enough to plan accordingly. I don't think it was an emergency since she didn't make a move toward the port a potty.

You still don’t get it, do you? You’re an idiot.

NP here. It appears that you are missing a crucial point. From the OP:

"a few port-a-potties about 20 feet away from the main building. . . . I did point out that there were port-a-potties a stones throw away with no line and she made a face."

So, it isn't that the woman had an emergency and was at risk of soiling herself. It was that she had to go, but was too good to go in the port-a-potties, and wanted to jump the line because of that. And if she's so snotty that she's rather wet her pants than use a port-a-john, well, that's on her.

Yep. I agree with this. What grown woman feels entitled to cut in front of a woman with two little kids, when there were port a potties right near by. She just didn’t want to use them and tried to guilt OP into letting her go. You did the right thing OP.

There.were.port-a-potties.right.there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She could have gone to the porta potty. I don’t think you were wrong OP.

Says the youngster who hasn't yet learned what a weak pelvic floor can do to a woman. You cannot laugh, jump, stand up quickly, or run across a field to a Port a Potty without peeing. And don't even think about a trampoline.

Adults first in this scenario every time. BTW: I bet OP had a change of clothes for her potty trainer. I'm 100% sure the adult woman did not.

+1 OP was utterly in the wrong. She knows it and that’s why she posted. Trying to gain sympathy Bc she feels bad, as she should.

OP here and I do not feel bad. I actually found it ridiculous that a grown woman would act that way and tried to make me feel guilty for not letting her go without actually asking. If you need something, then ask directly and if you don't, then don't comment about it. Regardless of how bad I had to go I would never suggest that a woman with two children wait longer for me. If the woman had some sort of issue you would think that 1) she was wearing some sort of depends 2) she did have a change of clothes because this is a frequent occurrence or 3) she could just ask to go first.

You’re an awful person, OP.

Completely. The woman was hinting at an emergency but she felt bad about actually asking you directly. She was hoping you would concede and be gracious and offer for her to go first. You failed miserably.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult with a true emergency can use her words and say so/ask for what she needs. Passive aggressive comments will get you nowhere.

DP. Thank you. The reactions of other posters on this thread really left me scratching my head. The woman could have asked you directly - and explained the emergency. Otherwise, she should be in command of her body enough to plan accordingly. I don't think it was an emergency since she didn't make a move toward the port a potty.

You still don’t get it, do you? You’re an idiot.

NP here. It appears that you are missing a crucial point. From the OP:

"a few port-a-potties about 20 feet away from the main building. . . . I did point out that there were port-a-potties a stones throw away with no line and she made a face."

So, it isn't that the woman had an emergency and was at risk of soiling herself. It was that she had to go, but was too good to go in the port-a-potties, and wanted to jump the line because of that. And if she's so snotty that she's rather wet her pants than use a port-a-john, well, that's on her.

Yep. I agree with this. What grown woman feels entitled to cut in front of a woman with two little kids, when there were port a potties right near by. She just didn’t want to use them and tried to guilt OP into letting her go. You did the right thing OP.

There.were.port-a-potties.right.there.

No one wants to use port a potties, including the OP. So forget about them. They both wanted the real bathroom. OP with two kids would have taken way longer. Let the woman go first since she hinted at an emergency. My god, you are thick, aren’t you?

[Anonymous]

All of you guys saying there were port o potties across a field are totally clueless. When you're having an emergency you can't walk across a field, unless you want to pee or poop yourself. Lady was probably struggling to walk to the close by bathroom. You guys obviously have no idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult with a true emergency can use her words and say so/ask for what she needs. Passive aggressive comments will get you nowhere.

DP. Thank you. The reactions of other posters on this thread really left me scratching my head. The woman could have asked you directly - and explained the emergency. Otherwise, she should be in command of her body enough to plan accordingly. I don't think it was an emergency since she didn't make a move toward the port a potty.

You still don’t get it, do you? You’re an idiot.

NP here. It appears that you are missing a crucial point. From the OP:

"a few port-a-potties about 20 feet away from the main building. . . . I did point out that there were port-a-potties a stones throw away with no line and she made a face."

So, it isn't that the woman had an emergency and was at risk of soiling herself. It was that she had to go, but was too good to go in the port-a-potties, and wanted to jump the line because of that. And if she's so snotty that she's rather wet her pants than use a port-a-john, well, that's on her.

Yep. I agree with this. What grown woman feels entitled to cut in front of a woman with two little kids, when there were port a potties right near by. She just didn’t want to use them and tried to guilt OP into letting her go. You did the right thing OP.

There.were.port-a-potties.right.there.

No one wants to use port a potties, including the OP. So forget about them. They both wanted the real bathroom. OP with two kids would have taken way longer. Let the woman go first since she hinted at an emergency. My god, you are thick, aren’t you?

That's ridiculous. Of course no one wants to use a portable bathroom. But if you have an emergency, and there are two options - use the port-a-john, or jump the line in front of a couple of little kids, you suck it up. "I have an emergency, but I'm too good for the port-a-potty. I *want* the real bathroom!" is not a reason for her to get in front.

And yes, OP wanted to use the real bathroom. First, she had three people in there with her, so it's pretty much required. Second, she waited in line. Because princess doesn't want to use the other option, she should let her go ahead? Absurd, and grossly entitled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of you guys saying there were port o potties across a field are totally clueless. When you're having an emergency you can't walk across a field, unless you want to pee or poop yourself. Lady was probably struggling to walk to the close by bathroom. You guys obviously have no idea.

From the OP:

I was at an orchard over the weekend where there was one bathroom (2nd was out of order) and a few port-a-potties about 20 feet away from the main building.

Reading is important

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult with a true emergency can use her words and say so/ask for what she needs. Passive aggressive comments will get you nowhere.

DP. Thank you. The reactions of other posters on this thread really left me scratching my head. The woman could have asked you directly - and explained the emergency. Otherwise, she should be in command of her body enough to plan accordingly. I don't think it was an emergency since she didn't make a move toward the port a potty.

You still don’t get it, do you? You’re an idiot.

NP here. It appears that you are missing a crucial point. From the OP:

"a few port-a-potties about 20 feet away from the main building. . . . I did point out that there were port-a-potties a stones throw away with no line and she made a face."

So, it isn't that the woman had an emergency and was at risk of soiling herself. It was that she had to go, but was too good to go in the port-a-potties, and wanted to jump the line because of that. And if she's so snotty that she's rather wet her pants than use a port-a-john, well, that's on her.

Yep. I agree with this. What grown woman feels entitled to cut in front of a woman with two little kids, when there were port a potties right near by. She just didn’t want to use them and tried to guilt OP into letting her go. You did the right thing OP.

There.were.port-a-potties.right.there.

No one wants to use port a potties, including the OP. So forget about them. They both wanted the real bathroom. OP with two kids would have taken way longer. Let the woman go first since she hinted at an emergency. My god, you are thick, aren’t you?

That's ridiculous. Of course no one wants to use a portable bathroom. But if you have an emergency, and there are two options - use the port-a-john, or jump the line in front of a couple of little kids, you suck it up. "I have an emergency, but I'm too good for the port-a-potty. I *want* the real bathroom!" is not a reason for her to get in front.

And yes, OP wanted to use the real bathroom. First, she had three people in there with her, so it's pretty much required. Second, she waited in line. Because princess doesn't want to use the other option, she should let her go ahead? Absurd, and grossly entitled.

Ever heard of IBS?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult with a true emergency can use her words and say so/ask for what she needs. Passive aggressive comments will get you nowhere.

DP. Thank you. The reactions of other posters on this thread really left me scratching my head. The woman could have asked you directly - and explained the emergency. Otherwise, she should be in command of her body enough to plan accordingly. I don't think it was an emergency since she didn't make a move toward the port a potty.

You still don’t get it, do you? You’re an idiot.

NP here. It appears that you are missing a crucial point. From the OP:

"a few port-a-potties about 20 feet away from the main building. . . . I did point out that there were port-a-potties a stones throw away with no line and she made a face."

So, it isn't that the woman had an emergency and was at risk of soiling herself. It was that she had to go, but was too good to go in the port-a-potties, and wanted to jump the line because of that. And if she's so snotty that she's rather wet her pants than use a port-a-john, well, that's on her.

+100. OP you were absolutely right. The woman definitely acted entitled and you had every right to stand your ground for you kids.

Yep. I agree with this. What grown woman feels entitled to cut in front of a woman with two little kids, when there were port a potties right near by. She just didn’t want to use them and tried to guilt OP into letting her go. You did the right thing OP.

There.were.port-a-potties.right.there.

No one wants to use port a potties, including the OP. So forget about them. They both wanted the real bathroom. OP with two kids would have taken way longer. Let the woman go first since she hinted at an emergency. My god, you are thick, aren’t you?

That's ridiculous. Of course no one wants to use a portable bathroom. But if you have an emergency, and there are two options - use the port-a-john, or jump the line in front of a couple of little kids, you suck it up. "I have an emergency, but I'm too good for the port-a-potty. I *want* the real bathroom!" is not a reason for her to get in front.

And yes, OP wanted to use the real bathroom. First, she had three people in there with her, so it's pretty much required. Second, she waited in line. Because princess doesn't want to use the other option, she should let her go ahead? Absurd, and grossly entitled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult with a true emergency can use her words and say so/ask for what she needs. Passive aggressive comments will get you nowhere.

DP. Thank you. The reactions of other posters on this thread really left me scratching my head. The woman could have asked you directly - and explained the emergency. Otherwise, she should be in command of her body enough to plan accordingly. I don't think it was an emergency since she didn't make a move toward the port a potty.

You still don’t get it, do you? You’re an idiot.

NP here. It appears that you are missing a crucial point. From the OP:

"a few port-a-potties about 20 feet away from the main building. . . . I did point out that there were port-a-potties a stones throw away with no line and she made a face."

So, it isn't that the woman had an emergency and was at risk of soiling herself. It was that she had to go, but was too good to go in the port-a-potties, and wanted to jump the line because of that. And if she's so snotty that she's rather wet her pants than use a port-a-john, well, that's on her.

Yep. I agree with this. What grown woman feels entitled to cut in front of a woman with two little kids, when there were port a potties right near by. She just didn’t want to use them and tried to guilt OP into letting her go. You did the right thing OP.

There.were.port-a-potties.right.there.

No one wants to use port a potties, including the OP. So forget about them. They both wanted the real bathroom. OP with two kids would have taken way longer. Let the woman go first since she hinted at an emergency. My god, you are thick, aren’t you?

That's ridiculous. Of course no one wants to use a portable bathroom. But if you have an emergency, and there are two options - use the port-a-john, or jump the line in front of a couple of little kids, you suck it up. "I have an emergency, but I'm too good for the port-a-potty. I *want* the real bathroom!" is not a reason for her to get in front.

And yes, OP wanted to use the real bathroom. First, she had three people in there with her, so it's pretty much required. Second, she waited in line. Because princess doesn't want to use the other option, she should let her go ahead? Absurd, and grossly entitled.

+100. OP you were absolutely right. The woman definitely acted entitled and you had every right to stand your ground for you kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was at an orchard over the weekend where there was one bathroom (2nd was out of order) and a few port-a-potties about 20 feet away from the main building. I was in line with my 2-year old (currently potty training) and 6 year old. A woman (maybe 50s) was behind us and kept talking about how she had to go and it was an emergency. The woman behind us let her in front of her, but I did not (my potty training two year old kept saying she had to go potty, as did my 6 year old). They (the kids) weren't making a big scene, but I knew they had to go. As we were waiting, the woman with the emergency kept talking to me about how badly she had to go. I said, I understand, so do my kids, but she wouldn't let it rest. She pointed out that my two-year-old could go in a diaper, I said she was potty training, but it seemed to lay on deaf ears. I did point out that there were port-a-potties a stones throw away with no line and she made a face. The solo bathroom opened, the three of us went in (me plus 2 kids) and we went as fast as we could. Was I wrong to not let the woman in front of me? Yes, technically my daughter could have gone in her diaper, but we're really trying to encourage potty-training. If it was a true emergency, the woman could have feasibly gone to the port-a-potty.

I did not read the whole thread but the woman probably has an IBD. Inflammatory Bowel Disease like Ulcerative Colitis or Crohn's. Most people don't talk about it.
What having an IBD means is uncontrollable diarreah sometimes up to 10 or 20 times per day for months if the person is in an active flare. The woman
may have also had a colostomy bag that needed to be emptied. That said, she could have used the port-a-pottie.

[Anonymous]

OP, you will love your 50s when you feel like you have to go to the bathroom ALL THE DAMN TIME because your hormones are changing (menopause). So you head to the stall and only a small trickle comes out. Yet, it felt like you had a full gallon inside.

You will enjoy wetting your panties whenever you sneeze.

You will know every "good" rest stop along your daily routes.

Your kids will tease you. "You have to go again, mom!?" They do not understand your need to go, because they have the bladder of a camel.

You, too, will have a younger woman dismiss your urgent need to go. Why would a grown, older woman need to use the restroom so badly? She is just trying to cut in line! She can wait like the rest of us!

Karma, baby. You will get your turn.