Bathroom Line Etiquette

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you will love your 50s when you feel like you have to go to the bathroom ALL THE DAMN TIME because your hormones are changing (menopause). So you head to the stall and only a small trickle comes out. Yet, it felt like you had a full gallon inside.

You will enjoy wetting your panties whenever you sneeze.

You will know every "good" rest stop along your daily routes.

Your kids will tease you. "You have to go again, mom!?" They do not understand your need to go, because they have the bladder of a camel.

You, too, will have a younger woman dismiss your urgent need to go. Why would a grown, older woman need to use the restroom so badly? She is just trying to cut in line! She can use the port-a-potty if she has to go so badly.

Karma, baby. You will get your turn.

Fixed that for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was at an orchard over the weekend where there was one bathroom (2nd was out of order) and a few port-a-potties about 20 feet away from the main building. I was in line with my 2-year old (currently potty training) and 6 year old. A woman (maybe 50s) was behind us and kept talking about how she had to go and it was an emergency. The woman behind us let her in front of her, but I did not (my potty training two year old kept saying she had to go potty, as did my 6 year old). They (the kids) weren't making a big scene, but I knew they had to go. As we were waiting, the woman with the emergency kept talking to me about how badly she had to go. I said, I understand, so do my kids, but she wouldn't let it rest. She pointed out that my two-year-old could go in a diaper, I said she was potty training, but it seemed to lay on deaf ears. I did point out that there were port-a-potties a stones throw away with no line and she made a face. The solo bathroom opened, the three of us went in (me plus 2 kids) and we went as fast as we could. Was I wrong to not let the woman in front of me? Yes, technically my daughter could have gone in her diaper, but we're really trying to encourage potty-training. If it was a true emergency, the woman could have feasibly gone to the port-a-potty.

I did not read the whole thread but the woman probably has an IBD. Inflammatory Bowel Disease like Ulcerative Colitis or Crohn's. Most people don't talk about it.
What having an IBD means is uncontrollable diarreah sometimes up to 10 or 20 times per day for months if the person is in an active flare. The woman
may have also had a colostomy bag that needed to be emptied. That said, she could have used the port-a-pottie.

And wear a diaper.

[Anonymous]

My guess is those of us in our 40's and 50's are supporting the grown woman because we understand what she was going through. Port a potties suck and OP knows it. The issue was more about being gracious enough to let 1 person go ahead when you will takes 3 times as long with 3 people, especially with one in a diaper.

The ones supporting the OP's decision are probably younger with little kids.

You waited your turn and went in OP. But you will get your due one day OP. Karma is a b****.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you will love your 50s when you feel like you have to go to the bathroom ALL THE DAMN TIME because your hormones are changing (menopause). So you head to the stall and only a small trickle comes out. Yet, it felt like you had a full gallon inside.

You will enjoy wetting your panties whenever you sneeze.

You will know every "good" rest stop along your daily routes.

Your kids will tease you. "You have to go again, mom!?" They do not understand your need to go, because they have the bladder of a camel.

You, too, will have a younger woman dismiss your urgent need to go. Why would a grown, older woman need to use the restroom so badly? She is just trying to cut in line! She can wait like the rest of us!

Karma, baby. You will get your turn.

Amen! Oh, but don’t worry, you can just walk over to the port a potty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My guess is those of us in our 40's and 50's are supporting the grown woman because we understand what she was going through. Port a potties suck and OP knows it. The issue was more about being gracious enough to let 1 person go ahead when you will takes 3 times as long with 3 people, especially with one in a diaper.

The ones supporting the OP's decision are probably younger with little kids.

You waited your turn and went in OP. But you will get your due one day OP. Karma is a b****.

+1,000. Yes. Port a potties suck. OP was not gracious at all. There was absolutely nothing preventing her from letting the woman go in front of her except her own massive ego and entitlement. “But I was here first and I planned better.” What are you, a toddler, OP? Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you will love your 50s when you feel like you have to go to the bathroom ALL THE DAMN TIME because your hormones are changing (menopause). So you head to the stall and only a small trickle comes out. Yet, it felt like you had a full gallon inside.

You will enjoy wetting your panties whenever you sneeze.

You will know every "good" rest stop along your daily routes.

Your kids will tease you. "You have to go again, mom!?" They do not understand your need to go, because they have the bladder of a camel.

You, too, will have a younger woman dismiss your urgent need to go. Why would a grown, older woman need to use the restroom so badly? She is just trying to cut in line! She can wait like the rest of us!

Karma, baby. You will get your turn.

Amen! Oh, but don’t worry, you can just walk over to the port a potty.

I'm in my 50s. I don't love port-a-potties, but I can use them. And I know the ick of port-a-potties for me is outweighed by the hassle of wrangling two little kids, one still potty-training. (I'm not so old that I don't remember how it was when my kids were little)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you will love your 50s when you feel like you have to go to the bathroom ALL THE DAMN TIME because your hormones are changing (menopause). So you head to the stall and only a small trickle comes out. Yet, it felt like you had a full gallon inside.

You will enjoy wetting your panties whenever you sneeze.

You will know every "good" rest stop along your daily routes.

Your kids will tease you. "You have to go again, mom!?" They do not understand your need to go, because they have the bladder of a camel.

You, too, will have a younger woman dismiss your urgent need to go. Why would a grown, older woman need to use the restroom so badly? She is just trying to cut in line! She can wait like the rest of us!

Karma, baby. You will get your turn.

Amen! Oh, but don’t worry, you can just walk over to the port a potty.

I'm in my 50s. I don't love port-a-potties, but I can use them. And I know the ick of port-a-potties for me is outweighed by the hassle of wrangling two little kids, one still potty-training. (I'm not so old that I don't remember how it was when my kids were little)

That’s great, but this isn’t about YOU.

[Anonymous]

OP, more adults are pulling this maneuver. I don’t appreciate lines, but I wait in them like everyone else. If someone has to go bad enough they will use the port a potty. NP here.

It reminds me of the people in line at the grocery who expect you to let them go ahead of you. Here’s the thing: 2 other people have also only had 2 items, and I already let them ahead of me, and now I have to pick up my kids. So, no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My guess is those of us in our 40's and 50's are supporting the grown woman because we understand what she was going through. Port a potties suck and OP knows it. The issue was more about being gracious enough to let 1 person go ahead when you will takes 3 times as long with 3 people, especially with one in a diaper.

The ones supporting the OP's decision are probably younger with little kids.

You waited your turn and went in OP. But you will get your due one day OP. Karma is a b****.

Wear a diaper, funny incontinent people...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She could have gone to the porta potty. I don’t think you were wrong OP.

Says the youngster who hasn't yet learned what a weak pelvic floor can do to a woman. You cannot laugh, jump, stand up quickly, or run across a field to a Port a Potty without peeing. And don't even think about a trampoline.

Adults first in this scenario every time. BTW: I bet OP had a change of clothes for her potty trainer. I'm 100% sure the adult woman did not.

If the woman had a weak pelvic floor she should wear a liner.

Team OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You were not wrong in any way to do what you did but you know that you could have been gracious and let the grandma go ahead of you. Etiquette is looking past your own interests to the interest of others. You followed the rules (you were in line first...) but you were not gracious. Be gracious next time and see what happens with your kids (maybe they hold their pee, maybe they don't but either way, they will learn a valuable lesson).

Grandma??!

Grandma's the best person on this thread.

The point is that the PP is automatically assuming that a woman in her 50s is the grandma.

Bad, offensive assumption!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My guess is those of us in our 40's and 50's are supporting the grown woman because we understand what she was going through. Port a potties suck and OP knows it. The issue was more about being gracious enough to let 1 person go ahead when you will takes 3 times as long with 3 people, especially with one in a diaper.

The ones supporting the OP's decision are probably younger with little kids.

You waited your turn and went in OP. But you will get your due one day OP. Karma is a b****.

No, I support OP and I'm the "head scratching" PP. I am in my mid-50s, have IBS (colitis) and still think the woman was entitled. She's a grown person, she could use her words. When you are managing a chronic condition, you need to be hyper-aware of your needs, and speak up. If it were really an emergency, I guarantee you this woman would have been running toward the port a potty with her toilet kit firmly in hand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My guess is those of us in our 40's and 50's are supporting the grown woman because we understand what she was going through. Port a potties suck and OP knows it. The issue was more about being gracious enough to let 1 person go ahead when you will takes 3 times as long with 3 people, especially with one in a diaper.

The ones supporting the OP's decision are probably younger with little kids.

You waited your turn and went in OP. But you will get your due one day OP. Karma is a b****.

No, I support OP and I'm the "head scratching" PP. I am in my mid-50s, have IBS (colitis) and still think the woman was entitled. She's a grown person, she could use her words. When you are managing a chronic condition, you need to be hyper-aware of your needs, and speak up. If it were really an emergency, I guarantee you this woman would have been running toward the port a potty with her toilet kit firmly in hand.

How can someone have the wherewithal to have a toilet kit if it’s an emergency?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My guess is those of us in our 40's and 50's are supporting the grown woman because we understand what she was going through. Port a potties suck and OP knows it. The issue was more about being gracious enough to let 1 person go ahead when you will takes 3 times as long with 3 people, especially with one in a diaper.

The ones supporting the OP's decision are probably younger with little kids.

You waited your turn and went in OP. But you will get your due one day OP. Karma is a b****.

I’m in my 40s and have young kids. I would have let the older lady go.

[Anonymous]

God forbid we be nice, or it's a sign of weakness.