Bathroom Line Etiquette

Anonymous
OP, are you white, and was the woman white?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:You were not wrong in any way to do what you did but you know that you could have been gracious and let the grandma go ahead of you. Etiquette is looking past your own interests to the interest of others. You followed the rules (you were in line first...) but you were not gracious. Be gracious next time and see what happens with your kids (maybe they hold their pee, maybe they don't but either way, they will learn a valuable lesson).


Grandma??!
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:She could have gone to the porta potty. I don’t think you were wrong OP.


Says the youngster who hasn't yet learned what a weak pelvic floor can do to a woman. You cannot laugh, jump, stand up quickly, or run across a field to a Port a Potty without peeing. And don't even think about a trampoline.

Adults first in this scenario every time. BTW: I bet OP had a change of clothes for her potty trainer. I'm 100% sure the adult woman did not.


+1 OP was utterly in the wrong. She knows it and that’s why she posted. Trying to gain sympathy Bc she feels bad, as she should.



OP here and I do not feel bad. I actually found it ridiculous that a grown woman would act that way and tried to make me feel guilty for not letting her go without actually asking. If you need something, then ask directly and if you don't, then don't comment about it. Regardless of how bad I had to go I would never suggest that a woman with two children wait longer for me. If the woman had some sort of issue you would think that 1) she was wearing some sort of depends 2) she did have a change of clothes because this is a frequent occurrence or 3) she could just ask to go first.


You’re an awful person, OP.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:She could have gone to the porta potty. I don’t think you were wrong OP.


Says the youngster who hasn't yet learned what a weak pelvic floor can do to a woman. You cannot laugh, jump, stand up quickly, or run across a field to a Port a Potty without peeing. And don't even think about a trampoline.

Adults first in this scenario every time. BTW: I bet OP had a change of clothes for her potty trainer. I'm 100% sure the adult woman did not.


+1 OP was utterly in the wrong. She knows it and that’s why she posted. Trying to gain sympathy Bc she feels bad, as she should.



OP here and I do not feel bad. I actually found it ridiculous that a grown woman would act that way and tried to make me feel guilty for not letting her go without actually asking. If you need something, then ask directly and if you don't, then don't comment about it. Regardless of how bad I had to go I would never suggest that a woman with two children wait longer for me. If the woman had some sort of issue you would think that 1) she was wearing some sort of depends 2) she did have a change of clothes because this is a frequent occurrence or 3) she could just ask to go first.


You’re an awful person, OP.
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OP, you are not an awful person. This thread baffles me. Based on OP’s account, the woman did not ask, although she could have. She made passive aggressive comments. I strongly disagree with the posters who assume that no one would make passive aggressive comments absent a dire need to use the toilet. Plenty of adults just think they are entitled to priority ahead of children. That’s what this sounds like.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:She could have gone to the porta potty. I don’t think you were wrong OP.


Says the youngster who hasn't yet learned what a weak pelvic floor can do to a woman. You cannot laugh, jump, stand up quickly, or run across a field to a Port a Potty without peeing. And don't even think about a trampoline.

Adults first in this scenario every time. BTW: I bet OP had a change of clothes for her potty trainer. I'm 100% sure the adult woman did not.


+1 OP was utterly in the wrong. She knows it and that’s why she posted. Trying to gain sympathy Bc she feels bad, as she should.



OP here and I do not feel bad. I actually found it ridiculous that a grown woman would act that way and tried to make me feel guilty for not letting her go without actually asking. If you need something, then ask directly and if you don't, then don't comment about it. Regardless of how bad I had to go I would never suggest that a woman with two children wait longer for me. If the woman had some sort of issue you would think that 1) she was wearing some sort of depends 2) she did have a change of clothes because this is a frequent occurrence or 3) she could just ask to go first.


You’re an awful person, OP.
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OP, you are not an awful person. This thread baffles me. Based on OP’s account, the woman did not ask, although she could have. She made passive aggressive comments. I strongly disagree with the posters who assume that no one would make passive aggressive comments absent a dire need to use the toilet. Plenty of adults just think they are entitled to priority ahead of children. That’s what this sounds like.


Regardless, always better to err on the side of grace. OP has none.
Anonymous
There is no way in hell I’d let an adult cut in front of me in line with two little kids!

It’s easy for an adult to use a portapotty - not so much for a little kid. The people making a million excuses about how there’s no toilet paper (really? At an orchard this has never happened to me.) or she can’t wash her hands (couldn’t she come back to the bathroom and wash hands??) are ridiculous. If you’re so precious that you can’t use a porapotty, then it’s not a real emergency and you can wait in line just like everyone else.

The entitlement of some people!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Between a 50 year old woman wetting her pants and a toddler wetting pants, the woman gets to go first. No contest. This isn't hard. You have had children, so I guarantee this will be you someday.
+1
Anonymous
Lady: what a long ride, I REALLY need to use the restroom

OP: you didn’t me DIRECTLY if you could go ahead of me so you don’t exist.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Lady: what a long ride, I REALLY need to use the restroom

OP: you didn’t me DIRECTLY if you could go ahead of me so you don’t exist.


Huh? More like:

OP: I hear you! I really have to go too!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP, are you white, and was the woman white?


Oh Lordy, the racist crazies have found this thread.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:There is no way in hell I’d let an adult cut in front of me in line with two little kids!

It’s easy for an adult to use a portapotty - not so much for a little kid. The people making a million excuses about how there’s no toilet paper (really? At an orchard this has never happened to me.) or she can’t wash her hands (couldn’t she come back to the bathroom and wash hands??) are ridiculous. If you’re so precious that you can’t use a porapotty, then it’s not a real emergency and you can wait in line just like everyone else.

The entitlement of some people!


+100
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Anonymous wrote:An adult with a true emergency can use her words and say so/ask for what she needs. Passive aggressive comments will get you nowhere.


DP. Thank you. The reactions of other posters on this thread really left me scratching my head. The woman could have asked you directly - and explained the emergency. Otherwise, she should be in command of her body enough to plan accordingly. I don't think it was an emergency since she didn't make a move toward the port a potty.


You still don’t get it, do you? You’re an idiot.


NP here. It appears that you are missing a crucial point. From the OP:

"a few port-a-potties about 20 feet away from the main building. . . . I did point out that there were port-a-potties a stones throw away with no line and she made a face."


So, it isn't that the woman had an emergency and was at risk of soiling herself. It was that she had to go, but was too good to go in the port-a-potties, and wanted to jump the line because of that. And if she's so snotty that she's rather wet her pants than use a port-a-john, well, that's on her.
Anonymous
Here’s a new perspective:

I bet the woman had to go the bathroom badly, but I think she was too embarrassed to ask OP to cut in front of her. I can’t imagine the entitlement of an adult deciding it’s not enough of an emergency to use the portapotty, but it was enough of an emergency to pressure a mom with 2 little kids to let her cut in line.

The lady knew she was being a ridiculous snowflake and she had a tiny bit of shame because she didn’t go as far as to ask the mom to cut in line. Just my .02
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:An adult with a true emergency can use her words and say so/ask for what she needs. Passive aggressive comments will get you nowhere.


DP. Thank you. The reactions of other posters on this thread really left me scratching my head. The woman could have asked you directly - and explained the emergency. Otherwise, she should be in command of her body enough to plan accordingly. I don't think it was an emergency since she didn't make a move toward the port a potty.

Why do you need to make someone go through that potential humiliation? What has the world done to you that you cannot simply take a person who said she is having an emergency, at her word? Do you really need or want details on what exactly the emergency is? Maybe she’s having insane bleeding due to oerimenopause and is worried she already bled through so doesn’t want to walk to the ports potty? What the hell do you folks need, a notarized affidavit?


Just a direct question: “Excuse me. I’m in a bit of an emergency. Could I please go ahead of you and your children?” According to OP, she didn’t even ask. She just talked loudly to somebody else about how bad she had to pee.

That's not what OP said. From the OP:
As we were waiting, the woman with the emergency kept talking to me about how badly she had to go.

-- Personally, I think that's pretty direct.


Good observation. What more do you need OP? Do you expect a grown woman asking you like she was a child and you the teacher in Elementary school?

And think of it - the three of you would have taken way longer than the time it would have taken her. You are just not a considerate person OP. The reason for this thread is to make yourself feel better and justify your actions.


I expect the grown woman to use the port-a-john, for which there was no line, rather than trying to jump in front of a couple of children.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Lady: what a long ride, I REALLY need to use the restroom

OP: There's one right over there that you can use. No line


Fixed that for you.

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