Dating single moms?

[Anonymous]

I’m a single mom and my kid is with Dad two nights per week. My single mom friends who rarely have personal time tend to want sex when they have an adult night. I am seeking a LTR so I take my time getting to know guys. I think I’m the only one remaining who is not in a relationship so it’s probably not much longer for me.

I think as long as you’re fairly attractive and easy to be around, you will find whatever you’re looking for. At my age (mid thirties), it’s not uncommon to have kids or be divorced. I meet a lot of guys with military backgrounds so having kids young is not unusual.

[Anonymous]

It seems to you that finding a man when you already have a child is difficult, but it is not so ... I am sure you will find your love!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a single mom and my kid is with Dad two nights per week. My single mom friends who rarely have personal time tend to want sex when they have an adult night. I am seeking a LTR so I take my time getting to know guys. I think I’m the only one remaining who is not in a relationship so it’s probably not much longer for me.

I think as long as you’re fairly attractive and easy to be around, you will find whatever you’re looking for. At my age (mid thirties), it’s not uncommon to have kids or be divorced. I meet a lot of guys with military backgrounds so having kids young is not unusual.

I'm one of the single moms who does enjoy sex on my nights out. I'm very lucky to have found a single dad who is very nice but not LTR material. I guess he is a FWB but I do really enjoy the male companionship and conversation and the sex is an added plus. When I pick up my son at his dad's the morning after I'm always in a good mood which must drive my ex crazy as I'm pretty sure he has not found a counterpart.

[Anonymous]

To get back to the "who pays" question, I insisted on paying once when we were a few dates in and got a massive eye roll so I stopped offering. A few months later when I figured we were past the "let me impress you" stage I insisted again and got another massive eye roll so I don't make an issue of it anymore. Things have since evolved from a FWB situation (which it never quite was anyway) to actual relationship status (per him) so I guess since I cover all the babysitting, he's happy to routinely pick up the check. Not sure how this will play out long term, but for now it's working for everyone.

[Anonymous]

As a solo single mom, I started OLD a couple of years ago. I mostly ran into guys who were not being honest about their true intentions.

It really sucks to arrange a babysitter for date nights only to find out the guy wants a NSA relationship. I am not prudish about NSA relationships but I have found that FWB situations eventually evolve into NSA relationships.

I am currently taking a break from OLD but I am eager to see what the late summer early fall has in store for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a solo single mom, I started OLD a couple of years ago. I mostly ran into guys who were not being honest about their true intentions.

It really sucks to arrange a babysitter for date nights only to find out the guy wants a NSA relationship. I am not prudish about NSA relationships but I have found that FWB situations eventually evolve into NSA relationships.

I am currently taking a break from OLD but I am eager to see what the late summer early fall has in store for me.

In your bio do you specify that you are not interested in a NSA relationship and want an LTR?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a single mom and my kid is with Dad two nights per week. My single mom friends who rarely have personal time tend to want sex when they have an adult night. I am seeking a LTR so I take my time getting to know guys. I think I’m the only one remaining who is not in a relationship so it’s probably not much longer for me.

I think as long as you’re fairly attractive and easy to be around, you will find whatever you’re looking for. At my age (mid thirties), it’s not uncommon to have kids or be divorced. I meet a lot of guys with military backgrounds so having kids young is not unusual.

I'm one of the single moms who does enjoy sex on my nights out. I'm very lucky to have found a single dad who is very nice but not LTR material. I guess he is a FWB but I do really enjoy the male companionship and conversation and the sex is an added plus. When I pick up my son at his dad's the morning after I'm always in a good mood which must drive my ex crazy as I'm pretty sure he has not found a counterpart.

I call it wasting time when you could be in a LTR.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a solo single mom, I started OLD a couple of years ago. I mostly ran into guys who were not being honest about their true intentions.

It really sucks to arrange a babysitter for date nights only to find out the guy wants a NSA relationship. I am not prudish about NSA relationships but I have found that FWB situations eventually evolve into NSA relationships.

I am currently taking a break from OLD but I am eager to see what the late summer early fall has in store for me.

In your bio do you specify that you are not interested in a NSA relationship and want an LTR?

I was just going to ask this. Make it clear you care about your health, looking for LTR and sex comes after you both get to know each other. Then she should get more quality versus quantity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a solo single mom, I started OLD a couple of years ago. I mostly ran into guys who were not being honest about their true intentions.

It really sucks to arrange a babysitter for date nights only to find out the guy wants a NSA relationship. I am not prudish about NSA relationships but I have found that FWB situations eventually evolve into NSA relationships.

I am currently taking a break from OLD but I am eager to see what the late summer early fall has in store for me.

He wasn't dishonest. It was only after he met you that he decided you were NSA material not girlfriend material.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a single mom and my kid is with Dad two nights per week. My single mom friends who rarely have personal time tend to want sex when they have an adult night. I am seeking a LTR so I take my time getting to know guys. I think I’m the only one remaining who is not in a relationship so it’s probably not much longer for me.

I think as long as you’re fairly attractive and easy to be around, you will find whatever you’re looking for. At my age (mid thirties), it’s not uncommon to have kids or be divorced. I meet a lot of guys with military backgrounds so having kids young is not unusual.

I'm one of the single moms who does enjoy sex on my nights out. I'm very lucky to have found a single dad who is very nice but not LTR material. I guess he is a FWB but I do really enjoy the male companionship and conversation and the sex is an added plus. When I pick up my son at his dad's the morning after I'm always in a good mood which must drive my ex crazy as I'm pretty sure he has not found a counterpart.

I call it wasting time when you could be in a LTR.

A LTR would be very nice but they take time and commitment and as a working single mom it’s just not in the cards for me at this time. I don’t give my kids the time I’d love to and a LTR would just add to the problem. And since I don’t want to live a monastic life my current FWB will just have to do so the little adult time I have is not being wasted.

[Anonymous]

Here's an apropos article.

https://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/relationships/dating/men-confess-the-outrageous-reasons-they-refuse-to-date-single-mums/news-story/c5a542950ac1409928af581bcf71fa05

Why men refuse to date single moms:
- "They’re more expensive than prostitutes, their bodies aren’t what they used to be and their children walk in during sex."
- “I don’t want to be second best”
- “I don’t want to be part of a family unit and splashing out on days out together. Single mums are too expensive.”
- “A woman who has given birth can’t ever have a body close to what she had before carrying a child. This is not saying that having a child isn’t worth it, but this is not about YOU having a child. That child is hers, not yours. Her body was changed by something that is of no benefit to you.”
- "It puts me off that they wouldn’t be mine. What would they call me? Paul? Dad? Oh no. It’s weird. If they’re not mine, I haven’t brought them up and I’m not mentally prepared to cope with that kind of responsibility. I might also feel reluctant to spend my hard-earned money on them."
- “A single mother will always prioritise her children over me. I’ve been stood up a few times because the children are sick or the childcare has fallen through and I want someone who wants to put our relationship first.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's an apropos article.

https://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/relationships/dating/men-confess-the-outrageous-reasons-they-refuse-to-date-single-mums/news-story/c5a542950ac1409928af581bcf71fa05

Why men refuse to date single moms:
- "They’re more expensive than prostitutes, their bodies aren’t what they used to be and their children walk in during sex."
- “I don’t want to be second best”
- “I don’t want to be part of a family unit and splashing out on days out together. Single mums are too expensive.”
- “A woman who has given birth can’t ever have a body close to what she had before carrying a child. This is not saying that having a child isn’t worth it, but this is not about YOU having a child. That child is hers, not yours. Her body was changed by something that is of no benefit to you.”
- "It puts me off that they wouldn’t be mine. What would they call me? Paul? Dad? Oh no. It’s weird. If they’re not mine, I haven’t brought them up and I’m not mentally prepared to cope with that kind of responsibility. I might also feel reluctant to spend my hard-earned money on them."
- “A single mother will always prioritise her children over me. I’ve been stood up a few times because the children are sick or the childcare has fallen through and I want someone who wants to put our relationship first.”

Totally true! I’ve never met a couple where the woman had kids from a previous relationship.

[Anonymous]

Plus, those are Aussie men. Not American.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a single mom and my kid is with Dad two nights per week. My single mom friends who rarely have personal time tend to want sex when they have an adult night. I am seeking a LTR so I take my time getting to know guys. I think I’m the only one remaining who is not in a relationship so it’s probably not much longer for me.

I think as long as you’re fairly attractive and easy to be around, you will find whatever you’re looking for. At my age (mid thirties), it’s not uncommon to have kids or be divorced. I meet a lot of guys with military backgrounds so having kids young is not unusual.

I'm one of the single moms who does enjoy sex on my nights out. I'm very lucky to have found a single dad who is very nice but not LTR material. I guess he is a FWB but I do really enjoy the male companionship and conversation and the sex is an added plus. When I pick up my son at his dad's the morning after I'm always in a good mood which must drive my ex crazy as I'm pretty sure he has not found a counterpart.

I call it wasting time when you could be in a LTR.

A LTR would be very nice but they take time and commitment and as a working single mom it’s just not in the cards for me at this time. I don’t give my kids the time I’d love to and a LTR would just add to the problem. And since I don’t want to live a monastic life my current FWB will just have to do so the little adult time I have is not being wasted.

Amen! I also don’t have time for a LTR but I’m not go to hang out in bars or truck stops to have sex. So I found a single dad who is in the same boat as me as he has primary custody and every week or so we get together for a nice dinner and sex. It’s certainly not an ideal relationship but it works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Plus, those are Aussie men. Not American.

Did you read the article? Never married, childless men in their forties and fifties - and not particularly good-looking. Gives them another way to avoid commitment, I guess.