Dating single moms?

[taketothebank]

That’s right. Knock the bottom out of it and GTFO.

This response has made the hours I wasted on DCUM worth it.

The first time I heard "You should go so I can catch up on GoT before the kids are back" I could not believe it. I made it worse by trying to be "considerate" instead of putting on my clothes and heading out the door.

Now, I offer to help make the bed (if she is getting up) and hit the highway. The message: put your effort into the sex and save the cuddling for my dogs.

[Anonymous]

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For you single moms with FWB-like arrangements, who pays when you go out?

Why go out? If the kids are with the XDH, it is time to mate like crazed wildebeests. You can also find food + cocktails later.

Unless the sex is weak. Then he should pay.

We don't split the check but I pay half the time...ok....about 25% of the time. He makes a lot more than I do but we really don't talk about it. He's a good guy who would pay 100% of the time but he understands why I want to pay.

Good for you for not viewing him as an atm.

I'm looking for a single mom who does atm.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

We don't split the check but I pay half the time...ok....about 25% of the time. He makes a lot more than I do but we really don't talk about it. He's a good guy who would pay 100% of the time but he understands why I want to pay.

I am great with paying for dates, travel, etc. I normally make more than my dates so it makes sense.

My question: What about staying the night? I have to get up early for work or the gym (every day but Sunday) and have little desire to stay over. Morning or middle of the night sex is great; however, waking up at 5:00 am to hurry and get it on it is not great.

I am cool with staying over on a Saturday night (or having her stay over then). Ladies - are you good with not staying over most of the time?

I am 100% ok with no sleepovers. (Single mom here).

I don’t stay over with a FWB - that’s too much like getting into a LTR and that’s not what it is all about.

[Anonymous]

As a single mom who doesn’t use dating apps I have met a couple of very nice single dads at all the places you’d expect - school, soccer, swim team etc. What’s really nice is you see them there a couple of times, then you say hello and share names, then you stand together and chat and after awhile you agree to meet for coffee or a drink. By the time you have that first “date” you feel very comfortable. You have also seen how they interact with their children which is a big reveal in my book.

[Anonymous]

taketothebank wrote:I am 55-year-old single dad (empty nester).

Single moms (SM) are by far the best to date if you are looking for: great sex and a beautiful evening out (good conversation + fun to be around). A relationship where you can see her for these things seems to work quite well for most single moms older than 45 years old (the age range I most enjoy dating.)

Typically, the SM will write something in her online profile like "looking for that special someone to become part of our family" if they are looking for an LTR that would lead to marriage. This is not for me and, based on what is posted above, not for a number of SMs.


The majority of the SMs I have met (that are not looking for an LTR) are nice women looking for someone to treat them well during your time together (which often as easy as just listening to them and showing an interest in things they are interested in.) SMs often say their biggest complaint is that their XDH did not show that he cared about them (often, just taking the time to make sure they enjoy the sex is way more attention than they received post-divorce.) Providing oral sex, for example, can show a level of care they infrequently received while married.

+1 on oral sex. Divorced 55yo male. I’ve found my willingness to wait for my needs and what I’ve learned over tome is like catnip for the single mother. I get such hearty praise after I can help her knock out two or three Os in a row. Taking time and care with the single mom and let them just really relax.

[Anonymous]

Guy here. I dated a number of single moms before I was married. The things I would say about them:

- Their kids are THE most important thing to them and rightly so. Their own interests are definitely secondary.
- They usually want to enjoy the fun and romance that they’ve missed over the years but can’t commit to being in a relationship.
- They need adult time - dinner, conversation, drinks, laughs but they need it on their time frame such as when the kids are at their dad’s house.
- They need sex and intimacy. If you’re fit, good at foreplay and good in the sack they’ll wear you out. Lol.

I was a personal trainer at the time I had a lot of good times dating them even though I knew it was mostly for fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single moms are the best.

(For a pump and dump)

Men who do this are terrible lovers. They dump because they’re embarrassed about their performance.

what about the lesbians who do it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. I dated a number of single moms before I was married. The things I would say about them:

- Their kids are THE most important thing to them and rightly so. Their own interests are definitely secondary.
- They usually want to enjoy the fun and romance that they’ve missed over the years but can’t commit to being in a relationship.
- They need adult time - dinner, conversation, drinks, laughs but they need it on their time frame such as when the kids are at their dad’s house.
- They need sex and intimacy. If you’re fit, good at foreplay and good in the sack they’ll wear you out. Lol.

I was a personal trainer at the time I had a lot of good times dating them even though I knew it was mostly for fun.

I’m a single mom and this describes me to a T. I may have one night a month when I can really relax and enjoy myself. If the guy is really nice I will definitely do my best to wear him out sexually. My sex life was almost non existent the last few years of my marriage and it’s really nice to let it all out. i can’t say that I’ve ever had the opportunity to work out with a personal trainer but a couple of the guys were pretty ripped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I wouldn't tell any guy that because YES it will send the wrong impression. If you want to get married someday I'd really get to know the guy first. Let the sex come after you think he may be the one. Otherwise you're wasting your time imo. Not to mention putting your health at risk. Do you do health screenings with these guys before you sleep with them. Not a bad idea...especially if you want to get married in a few years.

You probably mean well, PP, but no, I will not wait to have sex until I know I want to marry him. I have been married before, don't need to do that again. Health wise, yes, valid point but not enough to refrain from it.

Hopefully condoms are used.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single moms are the best.

(For a pump and dump)

Men who do this are terrible lovers. They dump because they’re embarrassed about their performance.

As a woman I disagree. They still view women poorly who sleep with the guy early on. Hypocritical yes, but also true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single moms are the best.

(For a pump and dump)

Men who do this are terrible lovers. They dump because they’re embarrassed about their performance.

As a woman I disagree. They still view women poorly who sleep with the guy early on. Hypocritical yes, but also true.

I really don’t care what people think. As a very busy single mom with few opportunities to have a nice social life....and sex.....I will sleep with a man early on if I like him and I basically feel that I’m using him to fill my needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single moms are the best.

(For a pump and dump)

Men who do this are terrible lovers. They dump because they’re embarrassed about their performance.

As a woman I disagree. They still view women poorly who sleep with the guy early on. Hypocritical yes, but also true.

Nope. There are reasons to dump a woman, but actually having sex with me isn’t one of them.

[Anonymous]

Single mom here that looks good and takes care of myself. I don’t have time for games or messing around. I know what I am looking for. Depending on where I am in my life I want a FWB or a LTR, and I will search that out accordingly. Right now I’m in a LTR with someone that I adore, and think could be “the one”. We slept together on the second date, which is extremely unusual for me, but I knew that he was special pretty quickly. We’ve been together 8 months now.

Things I look for in a guy-
- Kindness
- Stability (in personality/temperament and income)
- Must rock my world in bed
- Great sense of humor
- Intelligence
- Sexy (can be somewhat subjective. What is hot to me, may not be hot to you.)

If you have all of these qualities, and are open to moving at a pace that is set by the single mom with regards to her kids (she will always put them first), then you should think about dating us. We are an awesome demographic.

[Anonymous]

I think nuance is important. The women who come into this thread are independent but have physical needs and also happen to be mothers. Sex is important but the sex-only attitude is temporary, at least for me. I think we would all prefer a great guy and a committed relationship but that may never happen and at least we get a physical need met. Some men are scared by that, some women cannot understand that need. But, ultimately, we are not the way we are because we are mothers.
Sorry for the diatribe

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Single mom here that looks good and takes care of myself. I don’t have time for games or messing around. I know what I am looking for. Depending on where I am in my life I want a FWB or a LTR, and I will search that out accordingly. Right now I’m in a LTR with someone that I adore, and think could be “the one”. We slept together on the second date, which is extremely unusual for me, but I knew that he was special pretty quickly. We’ve been together 8 months now.

Things I look for in a guy-
- Kindness
- Stability (in personality/temperament and income)
- Must rock my world in bed
- Great sense of humor
- Intelligence
- Sexy (can be somewhat subjective. What is hot to me, may not be hot to you.)

If you have all of these qualities, and are open to moving at a pace that is set by the single mom with regards to her kids (she will always put them first), then you should think about dating us. We are an awesome demographic.

I could have written this post verbatim. +1