Dating single moms?

[Anonymous]

Actually I think that from the perspective of a new suitor, a single mom who has custody is a much easier option than a single dad who doesn't.

[Anonymous]

I met a great single guy at our pre-school. For a good six months it was just hi and bye at the morning drop off and then we both volunteered for a school outing and rode on the bus together and finally got to talk. That progressed to getting coffee after drop off one morning and then we had dinner together. What was really nice was that he never hit on me at preschool but over time the hi’s and bye’s got friendlier so the bus ride was very comfortable. So take it slow!

[Anonymous]

Single mom here. Most of my single mom (and single non-mom) friends are on the dating apps, so definitely try those.

Huge bonus if you can actually meet someone offline, though. There's something to be said for already knowing what someone really looks like (vs. their pic) and knowing if you like their voice or if you have chemistry.

I don't date much because I have a pretty full life without it. I have friends and hobbies and workouts, and sometimes it's nice to be able to just chill solo vs. doing the dating thing, which can feel like interviewing. For me, it's important to have compatible custody schedules to see each other at least once a week during the week and ideally at least every other weekend. Hard to build a relationship if you can't get the same nights off from the kids!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Actually I think that from the perspective of a new suitor, a single mom who has custody is a much easier option than a single dad who doesn't.

How is that so? She is available 25% of the time, he is available 75% of the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Actually I think that from the perspective of a new suitor, a single mom who has custody is a much easier option than a single dad who doesn't.

How is that so? She is available 25% of the time, he is available 75% of the time.

Assuming partners cohabit or get married, a single mother is easier than a single father whose child doesn't live with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You get a 1 or 1.5 point boost in the Social Market Value of the woman you pull if you’re willing to date a single Mom.

Say the best you can pull is a 6. So if you go for a single Mom, you can now pull a 7.5. That’s without losing weight, getting fit, getting a promotion, or any of the other things you do to boost your own SMV. Just the instant decision to date single Moms has a +1.5 point impact in what you can bag.

Then consider this: you get this chick and wife her up. She knows what it’s like to be a single Mom, and she doesn’t want to go back. Once you’ve locked her in, have her go get new b***s. That would take her to an 8 or 8.5, a stone-cold MILF.

All because you opened yourself to dealing with a step kid.

This! With new boobs she’s be at least a Solid 8.

Lol

Not sure why but this post cracked me up.

lol same here. Mainly because it's so absurd and juvenile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Single moms are the best.

Yes especially if he's a single dad. He needs to find someone that can tolerate someone's kids and understands what's involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Soon enough you will learn the right answer is, "don't do that".

If I'm a single dad and want to date single moms

No, you don't. Trust me.

real question - who is he going to date, if he's in his 40s too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I met a great single guy at our pre-school. For a good six months it was just hi and bye at the morning drop off and then we both volunteered for a school outing and rode on the bus together and finally got to talk. That progressed to getting coffee after drop off one morning and then we had dinner together. What was really nice was that he never hit on me at preschool but over time the hi’s and bye’s got friendlier so the bus ride was very comfortable. So take it slow!

Six months!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I met a great single guy at our pre-school. For a good six months it was just hi and bye at the morning drop off and then we both volunteered for a school outing and rode on the bus together and finally got to talk. That progressed to getting coffee after drop off one morning and then we had dinner together. What was really nice was that he never hit on me at preschool but over time the hi’s and bye’s got friendlier so the bus ride was very comfortable. So take it slow!

Six months!

I chuckled when I read that. She doesn’t know she’s a side piece.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You get a 1 or 1.5 point boost in the Social Market Value of the woman you pull if you’re willing to date a single Mom.

Say the best you can pull is a 6. So if you go for a single Mom, you can now pull a 7.5. That’s without losing weight, getting fit, getting a promotion, or any of the other things you do to boost your own SMV. Just the instant decision to date single Moms has a +1.5 point impact in what you can bag.

Then consider this: you get this chick and wife her up. She knows what it’s like to be a single Mom, and she doesn’t want to go back. Once you’ve locked her in, have her go get new b***s. That would take her to an 8 or 8.5, a stone-cold MILF.

All because you opened yourself to dealing with a step kid.

This! With new boobs she’s be at least a Solid 8.

Lol

Not sure why but this post cracked me up.

lol same here. Mainly because it's so absurd and juvenile.

+3 - I feel like an old ex boyfriend of mine could have written this. Wifing chicks up and assigning SMV. Mr. W, is that you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I met a great single guy at our pre-school. For a good six months it was just hi and bye at the morning drop off and then we both volunteered for a school outing and rode on the bus together and finally got to talk. That progressed to getting coffee after drop off one morning and then we had dinner together. What was really nice was that he never hit on me at preschool but over time the hi’s and bye’s got friendlier so the bus ride was very comfortable. So take it slow!

At my DD’s preschool, there’s a single mom and single dad who are clearly crazy about each other and chat in the lobby after drop-off for a solid 1-2 hours while they drink their coffee. It’s adorable, everyone is rooting for them to start dating.

[Anonymous]

Single mom here with full custody. As a single parent yourself you know how hard it is to find time to date traditionally.

I met my current partner on a dating app so I don't think you should ignore that option. But You have to be very clear about what kind of relationship you want before you waste anyone's time (yours and theirs). Don't assume all single mothers are looking for a replacement daddy; you can find pretty much anything you want, you just have to be clear without being creepy. It's very doable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I met a great single guy at our pre-school. For a good six months it was just hi and bye at the morning drop off and then we both volunteered for a school outing and rode on the bus together and finally got to talk. That progressed to getting coffee after drop off one morning and then we had dinner together. What was really nice was that he never hit on me at preschool but over time the hi’s and bye’s got friendlier so the bus ride was very comfortable. So take it slow!

At my DD’s preschool, there’s a single mom and single dad who are clearly crazy about each other and chat in the lobby after drop-off for a solid 1-2 hours while they drink their coffee. It’s adorable, everyone is rooting for them to start dating.

They probably are - in the back of her minivan!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Single mom here with full custody. As a single parent yourself you know how hard it is to find time to date traditionally.

I met my current partner on a dating app so I don't think you should ignore that option. But You have to be very clear about what kind of relationship you want before you waste anyone's time (yours and theirs). Don't assume all single mothers are looking for a replacement daddy; you can find pretty much anything you want, you just have to be clear without being creepy. It's very doable.

This is very true. In my profile I was very honest about the type of relationship I was looking for and while it narrowed the playing field I know it was helpful. I wish more men did the same thing.