35yo guy husband works with brought 24yo woman to a wedding. Everyone gave him a hard time, why?

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Anonymous wrote:She was a medical student, cute, and seemed nice and mature. I'm detached from their office politics and gossip, but all the women they work with were being cruel about it. When folks heard she was still in med school, the word creep was sarcastically used. If he wants children, it would seem pragmatic for him to court women in that age range when you factor in 1-2 years for engagement and wedding.

Insecure women feel the need to mock a young, intelligent, attractive future female doctor. Breaking news!

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Anonymous wrote:Cool. He can pay off her $200k ugrad loans and $400k med school loans and maybe she can make over $30k a year in 6-8 years time. Good deal. He can also be 45 yo when she is finally ready to have kids and not be working 80 hours a week.

This is exhibit A of the jealousy that others are talking about. There is nothing remotely odd about the age difference of 35-24, and the haters are insecure women and jealous men. I assume there are far more of the former than the latter.

Actually it’s a great point about the student loans and when the woman will be able to start a family.

Not everyone who gets MD or PhD has student loans. Or do you ASS U ME because a person is young, educated and beautiful he or she MUST have student loans?

No one who gets a PhD has grad student loans dumbass. I bet you were snorting and high fiving yourself for that stupid ASSUME joke though weren’t you?

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Who cares? This is the norm in a lot of countries. All guys like young, hot chicks. If you can get it, go for it!

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Anonymous wrote:She was a medical student, cute, and seemed nice and mature. I'm detached from their office politics and gossip, but all the women they work with were being cruel about it. When folks heard she was still in med school, the word creep was sarcastically used. If he wants children, it would seem pragmatic for him to court women in that age range when you factor in 1-2 years for engagement and wedding.

I’m wondering if someone wanted the guy for himself. The true test is if you reversed the genders, would they have an issue with a 35 year old woman dating a 24 year old handsome, mature medical student?

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Anonymous wrote:That's a big age gap. Often men like that have issues. It's a little sleazy.

They are both in a prime marriage/ breeding age range. Why is it sleazy? Wage isn’t 55, 65, 75 hell he isn’t even 40.

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Anonymous wrote:Six years out of high school. Y’all are pervs.

In the age of female empowerment, can you please tell me when my daughters will be old enough to make their own dating decisions? I didn't know they were such mental simpletons that they are prey to white collar successful men well into their 20s.

The woman speaking to the power imbalance stated it well.

NP. You didn't answer the pp's question. At what age may a grown woman make her own decision on who she will date?

I understand the point being made. Think about brain development. For all the amazing things we can learn early on we’re still reaching emotional maturity in our mid 20s. Some will be ready before then and some won’t. There’s no hard and fast rule on age but realistically not everyone has it together at 24. I’m not saying anything other than early 20s are closer to childhood than adulthood, at least in comparison to a 35-year-old. It doesn’t have to be your opinion, and certainly it’s something for us each to figure out on our own.

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She has time to develop her brain and personality however she wants

Right now, she's in her prime in other ways that count and he knows that

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9 years? NBD to me. My grandfather was 17 years older than my grandmother, which to me is too much, but hey. Adults are adults.

It's not as bad as Trump...isn't he like 30yrs older than Melania? ickkkkk

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Anonymous wrote:Six years out of high school. Y’all are pervs.

In the age of female empowerment, can you please tell me when my daughters will be old enough to make their own dating decisions? I didn't know they were such mental simpletons that they are prey to white collar successful men well into their 20s.

The woman speaking to the power imbalance stated it well.

NP. You didn't answer the pp's question. At what age may a grown woman make her own decision on who she will date?

I understand the point being made. Think about brain development. For all the amazing things we can learn early on we’re still reaching emotional maturity in our mid 20s. Some will be ready before then and some won’t. There’s no hard and fast rule on age but realistically not everyone has it together at 24. I’m not saying anything other than early 20s are closer to childhood than adulthood, at least in comparison to a 35-year-old. It doesn’t have to be your opinion, and certainly it’s something for us each to figure out on our own.

Many of my New England SLAC college classmates married shortly after graduation. A mid-20s medical student is more than old enough to make her own dating decisions. Stop with your retrograde characterization of grown women as easily swindled dainty simpletons. It's disgusting.

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Anonymous wrote:Six years out of high school. Y’all are pervs.

In the age of female empowerment, can you please tell me when my daughters will be old enough to make their own dating decisions? I didn't know they were such mental simpletons that they are prey to white collar successful men well into their 20s.

The woman speaking to the power imbalance stated it well.

NP. You didn't answer the pp's question. At what age may a grown woman make her own decision on who she will date?

18. But, Lord knows, that doesn't mean she will make good choices, nor does it mean she won't seek guidance from friends and family. Most people do. And when asked, you should give an honest opinion based on your greater life experience. That doesn't take power away from her, it gives her the knowledge she needs to use her power wisely.

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Anonymous wrote:Plus they die sooner. Can’t wait.

Few love birds are willing to truly look into the future. I have two older friends with a similar age gap and it is very challenging in the marriage when the older one becomes elderly and the younger is in prime retirement years. One dear friend has been nursing her elderly husband for the best decade of her life. She loves him dearly and does not regret it at all, but readily admits that it really, really stinks. They can't afford other care. For a while she was able to go off and travel alone during the years he no longer wanted to and then couldn't, but now he needs her close to home most of the time. She really worries that by the time he sadly passes, so will have her chance to see the world, especially if he needs nursing care and that takes up most of their joint savings.

These relationships require strong financial and estate planning, especially if you are not very wealthy, to make sure the surviving spouse isn't left destitute by the end of life costs of the older spouse, yet with many years still to live.

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Anonymous wrote:Not excusing being rude to the woman but that's a big age gap, especially at their respective life stages. A little teasing is to be expected.

That’s not a big age gap IMO. But I know lots of couples with significant age differences. Besides, if someone asked her how old she is that was rude.

DP: It is a big age gap. We have a friend who is married to a woman he used to help babysit when she was an infant. That was a source of much good-natured humor at the wedding.

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He gets youthful beauty and [more] healthy children, she gets maturity and financial stability. Tale as old as time. Symbiotic mutualism.

Dating women his own age would be emotional baggage, divorcées, single mothers and spinsters--and IVF babies. Why would a high-status male put up with that?

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People are getting too worked up about this, it’s likely good natured teasing. When I was in grad school my classmate dated an undergrad who was not of drinking age and so her hands were marked with an X to denote this at our formal, everyone definitely made fun of him but no one *really* cared.

Also LOL at people thinking med students are especially mature, my good friend graduated from a top program and I used to go to some of their events,. I’ve seen them at their end of block parties/formals, and they are a shitshow same as any other 24 yr old, have to blow off the steam somehow! Of course any individual is an exception, but boy does the medical community like to indulge

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone dating someone 10+ years younger usually has issues.

Nobody owes you anything bitter broad