35yo guy husband works with brought 24yo woman to a wedding. Everyone gave him a hard time, why?

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Anonymous wrote:Six years out of high school. Y’all are pervs.

In the age of female empowerment, can you please tell me when my daughters will be old enough to make their own dating decisions? I didn't know they were such mental simpletons that they are prey to white collar successful men well into their 20s.

The woman speaking to the power imbalance stated it well.

NP. You didn't answer the pp's question. At what age may a grown woman make her own decision on who she will date?

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I wish I was smart enough to have chosen someone older than me. I am now 35 and only just started to try for a baby because my husband of 6 years wasn't "ready" until now. He is 36.

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Plus they die sooner. Can’t wait.

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Anonymous wrote:Cool. He can pay off her $200k ugrad loans and $400k med school loans and maybe she can make over $30k a year in 6-8 years time. Good deal. He can also be 45 yo when she is finally ready to have kids and not be working 80 hours a week.

This is exhibit A of the jealousy that others are talking about. There is nothing remotely odd about the age difference of 35-24, and the haters are insecure women and jealous men. I assume there are far more of the former than the latter.

Actually it’s a great point about the student loans and when the woman will be able to start a family.

For anyone that has been through or has close friends or family go through med school, residencies, fellowships, finding a hospital or practice to build a career at, you know that dating older men at age 25 is just for fun outside your 36 hour long shifts.

That said, I wouldn’t go to a big wedding of my or his friends if we were just F’ing around for the summer or weeks before residency.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t see a problem with the age gap. I think a 26 year old med student is quite different than a 26 year old HS grad who works at Denny’s.

Also different from the 26 yo investment banker associate woman who made 150-300k+ each of the last 5 years and is going to an cushy in-house Corp Dev job.

No one is a doctor until age 32, maybe 30 if your SMED it and go GP track.

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Anonymous wrote:I was the younger woman once. At the time I felt it was nbd, after all I was an adult. We seemed similarly matched, etc. looking back at my 23 yr.-old self, I had no idea what I was doing. There was a power imbalance in that relationship. It was emotionally abusive, I was financially beholden, and I stayed too long because of those things. It’s just one anecdote, and a lot of other young women have it together better than I did, but perhaps that’s why these age mismatches give some people pause.

This is sometimes, but not always the case. When I was 21, I dated a newly minted tenure-track professor, then 32 (same age difference highlighted in the OP). Tremendous power imbalance, borne mostly of the disparity in life experiences. You just don’t know what you don’t know at that age.

For every anecdote like that there’s one like mine. I started dating a 38 yr old at 25 and married him at 27. He has already done all the partying and sleeping around and now at 47 is happy and content to focus on spending time with our family and be a very hands-on dad. All my friends who thought it was gross and weird are either still dating man-children who won’t propose or worse, married to a man-child who refuses to take on any domestic responsibilities.yeah my husband will die sooner than theirs but at least we were happy while he was alive!

To be clear my husband and I both have successful careers and both make well into the 6 figures. I’m not a trophy wife or a gold digger and he wasn’t seeking out a financially dependent partner. Obviously some older men do and I’m not defending that. Just saying it worked out for me.

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Anonymous wrote:I was the younger woman once. At the time I felt it was nbd, after all I was an adult. We seemed similarly matched, etc. looking back at my 23 yr.-old self, I had no idea what I was doing. There was a power imbalance in that relationship. It was emotionally abusive, I was financially beholden, and I stayed too long because of those things. It’s just one anecdote, and a lot of other young women have it together better than I did, but perhaps that’s why these age mismatches give some people pause.

This is sometimes, but not always the case. When I was 21, I dated a newly minted tenure-track professor, then 32 (same age difference highlighted in the OP). Tremendous power imbalance, borne mostly of the disparity in life experiences. You just don’t know what you don’t know at that age.

For every anecdote like that there’s one like mine. I started dating a 38 yr old at 25 and married him at 27. He has already done all the partying and sleeping around and now at 47 is happy and content to focus on spending time with our family and be a very hands-on dad. All my friends who thought it was gross and weird are either still dating man-children who won’t propose or worse, married to a man-child who refuses to take on any domestic responsibilities.yeah my husband will die sooner than theirs but at least we were happy while he was alive!

To be clear my husband and I both have successful careers and both make well into the 6 figures. I’m not a trophy wife or a gold digger and he wasn’t seeking out a financially dependent partner. Obviously some older men do and I’m not defending that. Just saying it worked out for me.

I’m PP who dated the professor and I ended up marrying a man ten years my senior, so I agree it can work out, but also argue that some of these men are a “type” looking for a “type.” That’s all.

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I was 45, she 26. Nearly 20 years later, better than ever!

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Anonymous wrote:Six years out of high school. Y’all are pervs.

?? She is in medical school for chrissakes.

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Anyone dating someone 10+ years younger usually has issues.

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Pretty sure OP made up this story to troll. Are you Russian or MRA, OP?

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Anonymous wrote:Cool. He can pay off her $200k ugrad loans and $400k med school loans and maybe she can make over $30k a year in 6-8 years time. Good deal. He can also be 45 yo when she is finally ready to have kids and not be working 80 hours a week.

This is exhibit A of the jealousy that others are talking about. There is nothing remotely odd about the age difference of 35-24, and the haters are insecure women and jealous men. I assume there are far more of the former than the latter.

Actually it’s a great point about the student loans and when the woman will be able to start a family.

Not everyone who gets MD or PhD has student loans. Or do you ASS U ME because a person is young, educated and beautiful he or she MUST have student loans?

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone dating someone 10+ years younger usually has issues.

anyone dating someone 10+ years older usually has issues too

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cool. He can pay off her $200k ugrad loans and $400k med school loans and maybe she can make over $30k a year in 6-8 years time. Good deal. He can also be 45 yo when she is finally ready to have kids and not be working 80 hours a week.

This is exhibit A of the jealousy that others are talking about. There is nothing remotely odd about the age difference of 35-24, and the haters are insecure women and jealous men. I assume there are far more of the former than the latter.

Actually it’s a great point about the student loans and when the woman will be able to start a family.

Not everyone who gets MD or PhD has student loans. Or do you ASS U ME because a person is young, educated and beautiful he or she MUST have student loans?

Well no one should get a Phd unless it’s 100% grant funded. Don’t waste your time otherwise. Means your uncompetitive of the gate. Sounds right Miss Ass U. Me?

Med school in the U.S., different animal. So are trust fund kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone dating someone 10+ years younger usually has issues.

anyone dating someone 10+ years older usually has issues too

+1 to both.