Celebrating Everyone but actual mother's on mother's day?

[Anonymous]

I have kids and a dog, and do not consider myself a dog mom, but last year DH got me a card from the dog and it's way funnier than the mothers day cards. Well played, Hallmark.

Other people celebrating doesn't bother me. Celebrating grandparents and MIL does make more work, but whatever, we were due to see them anyway.

[Anonymous]

I have a single friend who thinks she had a miscarriage (no medical procedure involved, no OB appointments, just an accidental early pregnancy from ex-(abusive) boyfriend followed by at-home miscarriage). This was 6-7 years ago. Last year she was upset that her SIL who I don't believe even knows about the event did not wish her a happy mother's day. INSANITY.

[Anonymous]

I don't feel special just because I am a mother. I feel special because I am the mother to MY son.

As long as my child bothers with even a half-hearted "Happy Mother's Day," why on earth would I care what the culture is doing around the day?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't feel special just because I am a mother. I feel special because I am the mother to MY son.

As long as my child bothers with even a half-hearted "Happy Mother's Day," why on earth would I care what the culture is doing around the day?!

If you don’t care about a cultural holiday why do you celebrate it at all? Do people feel the same about Juneteenth? Celebrate however you want, it doesn’t have any objective meaning anyway! Spoiler alert: no they do not.

Quit contributing to the idea that being a mother is culturally meaningless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This drives me absolutely insane. I get that some people can’t have kids and I have a ton of sympathy for them. I’m fine with them calling themselves “dog moms.” Whatever. But there’s a certain number of rabid “child-free” essentially children and parent haters, who spend every other day of the year complaining about children and parents, especially moms. And yet, here they are on Mother’s Day expecting cards and accolades for being “fur moms,” “dog moms,” “pet moms,” etc. No. Go pound sand you degenerate weirdos. Celebrate your own mom today, but you’ve been vile to real moms all the rest of the time. You don’t get to claim today as your own.

Word

Agree, I love my dogs but they are not children. No way comparison. I am a dog lover though but they are an animal at least a furry child like creature NOT a child.

[Anonymous]

I blame social media.

If it were not for social media, people who aren't moms or who might have a difficult relationship with social media would not see so much "happy mothers day" stuff which gives them fomo or makes them feel sad.

And if it were not for social media, OP and others who are bothered by stuff like Mother's Day cards "from" dogs or celebrating childless women wouldn't see it either.

The answer is of course to just stay off social media. But even as someone who no longer uses most social media, I get why this is hard (as here I am on DCUM, my social media replacement I can't seem to quit). So instead people go on these platforms and get annoyed by stuff they otherwise wouldn't even be aware of.

For instance, I was single and childless for a long time as an adult but during a time when Facebook and Instagram barely existed and certainly people weren't posting a million photos of their engagements, weddings, pregnancies and kids on them. So even when I was sad about being single or not having a kid, I didn't feel inundated with the feeling that everyone else had what I wanted. It was so much easier.

[Anonymous]

So the "dog moms" clearly know it's some weird pity thing. I would die if people wished me a happy mother's day and I had no children. It's just like a "polite" thing that people do now. It is not real. No one thinks dogs are people and obviously most mothers to children have pets, too. But--I do agree--feeling like you need to participate in these new manners is exhausting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't feel special just because I am a mother. I feel special because I am the mother to MY son.

As long as my child bothers with even a half-hearted "Happy Mother's Day," why on earth would I care what the culture is doing around the day?!

If you don’t care about a cultural holiday why do you celebrate it at all? Do people feel the same about Juneteenth? Celebrate however you want, it doesn’t have any objective meaning anyway! Spoiler alert: no they do not.

Quit contributing to the idea that being a mother is culturally meaningless.

I don't believe I said anything like the bolded...what I said is that this I do not care how other people celebrate. If it makes someone feel better to call themselves a dog mom, how does it affect me?

Why are you bringing Juneteenth into this?

This holiday was created by several women, at different times around the world, over a 100 years ago who wanted to celebrate their mothers. Florists took the lead because it was financially great for them.

This meaningless, commercial holiday speaks no more to the significance of motherhood than Black Friday speaks to the significance of Christmas.
Get a grip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't feel special just because I am a mother. I feel special because I am the mother to MY son.

As long as my child bothers with even a half-hearted "Happy Mother's Day," why on earth would I care what the culture is doing around the day?!

If you don’t care about a cultural holiday why do you celebrate it at all? Do people feel the same about Juneteenth? Celebrate however you want, it doesn’t have any objective meaning anyway! Spoiler alert: no they do not.

Quit contributing to the idea that being a mother is culturally meaningless.

I don't believe I said anything like the bolded...what I said is that this I do not care how other people celebrate. If it makes someone feel better to call themselves a dog mom, how does it affect me?

Why are you bringing Juneteenth into this?

This holiday was created by several women, at different times around the world, over a 100 years ago who wanted to celebrate their mothers. Florists took the lead because it was financially great for them.

This meaningless, commercial holiday speaks no more to the significance of motherhood than Black Friday speaks to the significance of Christmas.
Get a grip.

Oh, and I stand by my feelings that my child honoring me is the only thing I need on Mother's Day and I don't give a damn what people are tweeting or IGing culturally about dogmoms or whatever.

[Anonymous]

I don't actually care that anyone is celebrating being a dogmom. I just resent that I am supposed to remember to text these people on mother's day to pretend they are moms, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't actually care that anyone is celebrating being a dogmom. I just resent that I am supposed to remember to text these people on mother's day to pretend they are moms, too.

Come on...do you really think people expect you to text them for this? And if they do, I would imagine their issues go way beyond#dogmom stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't actually care that anyone is celebrating being a dogmom. I just resent that I am supposed to remember to text these people on mother's day to pretend they are moms, too.

Come on...do you really think people expect you to text them for this? And if they do, I would imagine their issues go way beyond#dogmom stuff.

Yes, I have some single friends in their 40s that def will be offended if I do not play along.

[Anonymous]

I don't get the expectation for a person without children to be wished a happy mothers day because I don't even go out of my way to wish other moms a happy mothers day. Like I might send a not to a few friends with same age kids, and obviously I'll celebrate my own mom, but I have tons of friends who are moms and I will not do anything for them -- their own husbands and kids will. It's not my job.

I honestly think if I sent my childless friends "happy Mother's Day" texts, it would potentially read as hurtful and condescending? I guess if I had a friend who had recently gone through infertility, I might be able to craft a note to her that was thoughtful and supportive, but I'd also worry about it coming off wrong and probably just say nothing. If I were not a mom, and wished I was, I think my personal approach to this day would be to stay off social media and ignore it, go do something nice for myself away from anyone who might remind me of it. I'm sure everyone is different, but that's what I'd guess people wanted.

[Anonymous]

This is 100% a social media problem.
I was infuriated when my childfree SIL got congratulated on Mother's Day for being an "awesome auntie" when she has never spent a moment of one-on-one time with my kids and barely speaks to them. When listing family members my son forgot about her because she ignores him so consistently! But I wouldn't have even known about this without stupid social media so why waste my energy. Just. Don't. Look.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't feel special just because I am a mother. I feel special because I am the mother to MY son.

As long as my child bothers with even a half-hearted "Happy Mother's Day," why on earth would I care what the culture is doing around the day?!

If you don’t care about a cultural holiday why do you celebrate it at all? Do people feel the same about Juneteenth? Celebrate however you want, it doesn’t have any objective meaning anyway! Spoiler alert: no they do not.

Quit contributing to the idea that being a mother is culturally meaningless.

I don't believe I said anything like the bolded...what I said is that this I do not care how other people celebrate. If it makes someone feel better to call themselves a dog mom, how does it affect me?

Why are you bringing Juneteenth into this?

This holiday was created by several women, at different times around the world, over a 100 years ago who wanted to celebrate their mothers. Florists took the lead because it was financially great for them.

This meaningless, commercial holiday speaks no more to the significance of motherhood than Black Friday speaks to the significance of Christmas.
Get a grip.

Equivocating Mother’s Day and Black Friday says…a lot about you as a person.