Celebrating Everyone but actual mother's on mother's day?

[Anonymous]

Am I the only who is noticing this today? Childless women are being celebrated as mother's to their dogs, and there are memes going around "remembering the women who chose not to have children" (emphasis mine.) Is it really too much to ask to just celebrate mother's on MOTHER'S Day?

(I do think it is appropriate and nice to be mindful of women experiencing infertility on Mother's Day, which is a lot different than celebrating childfree women on mother's day.)

[Anonymous]

That's ridiculous. I love my dogs but they're not my kids.

[Anonymous]

No lie, I am seeing childless women getting happy mother's day cards....from their dogs. Themed as "mother's day card from dog" as in greeting cards companies are now making these specifically for "dog moms." Gag.

[Anonymous]

This drives me absolutely insane. I get that some people can’t have kids and I have a ton of sympathy for them. I’m fine with them calling themselves “dog moms.” Whatever. But there’s a certain number of rabid “child-free” essentially children and parent haters, who spend every other day of the year complaining about children and parents, especially moms. And yet, here they are on Mother’s Day expecting cards and accolades for being “fur moms,” “dog moms,” “pet moms,” etc. No. Go pound sand you degenerate weirdos. Celebrate your own mom today, but you’ve been vile to real moms all the rest of the time. You don’t get to claim today as your own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This drives me absolutely insane. I get that some people can’t have kids and I have a ton of sympathy for them. I’m fine with them calling themselves “dog moms.” Whatever. But there’s a certain number of rabid “child-free” essentially children and parent haters, who spend every other day of the year complaining about children and parents, especially moms. And yet, here they are on Mother’s Day expecting cards and accolades for being “fur moms,” “dog moms,” “pet moms,” etc. No. Go pound sand you degenerate weirdos. Celebrate your own mom today, but you’ve been vile to real moms all the rest of the time. You don’t get to claim today as your own.

Word

[Anonymous]

It’s just an effort to be sensitive to people for whom Mother’s Day may be a sad day. Relax.

[Anonymous]

Meh. It's a Hallmark holiday. People can celebrate whatever version of motherhood they wan t

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s just an effort to be sensitive to people for whom Mother’s Day may be a sad day. Relax.

How is celebrating childfree women, ie women who CHOSE not to have a child on mother's day an effort to be sensitive to people who might be sad? I'm calling BS on this one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Meh. It's a Hallmark holiday. People can celebrate whatever version of motherhood they wan t

Having a pet is not a "version of motherhood" though.

[Anonymous]

In the cocoon of an anonymous internet forum, this has low-key irritated me for a while. I am definitely sensitive that some women have complicated feelings about this Hallmark holiday (e.g. women struggling with infertility, women who have lost their children or mothers, etc). But, it seems like the one day supposedly for celebrating mothers needs to be split among all women in a way that you wouldn't see on father's day. Can you imagine a meme that says "for the men who chose not to be fathers?" Please. It's like people say to moms that they need to be sensitive to all women, and don't rub your motherhood in everyone elses face, rather than remembering the point of the day in the first place.

Anyway, only saying this here because it's petty and small of me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the cocoon of an anonymous internet forum, this has low-key irritated me for a while. I am definitely sensitive that some women have complicated feelings about this Hallmark holiday (e.g. women struggling with infertility, women who have lost their children or mothers, etc). But, it seems like the one day supposedly for celebrating mothers needs to be split among all women in a way that you wouldn't see on father's day. Can you imagine a meme that says "for the men who chose not to be fathers?" Please. It's like people say to moms that they need to be sensitive to all women, and don't rub your motherhood in everyone elses face, rather than remembering the point of the day in the first place.

Anyway, only saying this here because it's petty and small of me.

OP here. I have to say, I have seen people celebrating single moms on father's day because they are "the mother and the father" and I think that is pretty dumb as well.

[Anonymous]

Mom here. Who cares? It doesn’t take away from me. I woke up this morning to hugs and kisses from my kids and everyone else can do whatever makes them happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In the cocoon of an anonymous internet forum, this has low-key irritated me for a while. I am definitely sensitive that some women have complicated feelings about this Hallmark holiday (e.g. women struggling with infertility, women who have lost their children or mothers, etc). But, it seems like the one day supposedly for celebrating mothers needs to be split among all women in a way that you wouldn't see on father's day. Can you imagine a meme that says "for the men who chose not to be fathers?" Please. It's like people say to moms that they need to be sensitive to all women, and don't rub your motherhood in everyone elses face, rather than remembering the point of the day in the first place.

Anyway, only saying this here because it's petty and small of me.

OP here. I have to say, I have seen people celebrating single moms on father's day because they are "the mother and the father" and I think that is pretty dumb as well.

Ugh. It's like "trophy for all" culture -- and I say that as a millennial. Some days are not for you.

[Anonymous]

I can’t be worried about what other people do. If it makes them happy, more power to them. I’m a single mom and have to buy my own gifts anyway. My kid “took me to Starbucks” today. I don’t care if people get themselves something from their dog.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s just an effort to be sensitive to people for whom Mother’s Day may be a sad day. Relax.

Not for child-free by choice women. I’m glad you have the life you want. But I’m not “honoring” you or “thinking of you” today.