DUMBEST argument, but bigger issues

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not explaining this right.

It's not about him making a dumb mistake. We all do. It's this digging in his heals and then getting mad at me for not going along with his "explanation" that it's really what he said it was. That's the issue. He's mad at ME for not drinking the [kool-aid] milk, when as I said, I don't care if I even have the damn milk. It "became an issue" when he saw me put my cereal away, and then got mad at me. Yelled at me for not eating what he claims to be soy milk.

Seriously, you all would be OK with that? Getting yelled at over breakfast when you just tried to have a damn bowl of cereal?

Yes I don't get why people are responding to you the way they have been. This strikes me as gaslighting on a major level.

No, OP. You're not nuts. It's weird and not OK, and nobody should have to walk on eggshells around their spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s trying to Jedi mind-trick you. It’s not working.

Funny! This is the Soy Milk!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Exactly. So why can’t he admit this once-in-a-Blue-moon mistake?

Probably because if he’s done it before, OP gloated/threw it in his face. She sounds like a humongous PITA.

—woman who drinks almond milk but would just let it go and drink the milk and not needle my husband about it.

[Anonymous]

Exactly. So why can’t he admit this once-in-a-Blue-moon mistake?


Probably because if he’s done it before, OP gloated/threw it in his face. She sounds like a humongous PITA.

—woman who drinks almond milk but would just let it go and drink the milk and not needle my husband about it.

She's not needling him. Saying hey, whats up, you decided to switch to cow's milk? is not needling. But responding by yelling that's it's not cow's milk when it is us very weird...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks all. He does have this utter need to be right, but never taken it this far. So this is sort of a one-off. Sorry I didn't come back, I had calls/work I was doing! I think I've decided that I'm going to just let this BS go and he'll figure it out in about 3 weeks when all the "soy milk" is going bad... Because every "solution" I keep thinking of makes me look a crazy person arguing about milk. When he blew up at me, all I said was, "I am seriously not going to argue with you over milk." That was it. I walked away. Something else has to be going on. I mean, who the hell argues that a hamburger is broccoli, just because they accidentally picked up hamburger? It's too bizarre.

He has a need to be right? Sounds like both of you do

And this is how #AlternativeFacts is ruining marriages everywhere. I'm a big believer in, "You can be right, or you can be in relationship." But that only extends to subjective things. If my DH came home insisting that shoes were tricycles and getting angry at me about it, I would definitely feel that my need to be "right" was the important thing. Especially because it would also probably be an indication that he was having mental health problems.

[Anonymous]

+1 to pp
Stubborn, narcissistic, mommy always had an excuse for my shortcomings, no personal responsibility, etc all results in this poor behavior and verbal abuse. Can’t even handle a simple question, he flies off the handle.