Is there anyone else out there who is naturally lazy?

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Anonymous wrote:OMG I really really struggle with this. I am a persian immigrant so for me I always wonder if there is a cultural component to this. I grew up in Iran as a child and had a very...luxurious life. Beautiful home, long summer days lounging around by the pool with friends, afternoon naps, leisurely dinners with family and such. Moving to America was such a shock to my system. People wake up at 5 am and do not even sit down for breakfast! They come home at 9 pm and eat dinner in front of the TV. On weekends they wake up at 5 am, go jogging and then spend all day running erands and being "productive." In high school here every kid had 3 sports to practice after school and were busier than the parents.

Back home we came home from school and hungout with our friends and watched TV until it was dinner time.

I was 16 when I moved here so I guess my formative years were sealed. I am "lazy" by American standards. I despise long commutes and breakfast-on-the-go and this perpetual busyness that is worn like a badge of honor. My younger sister who moved here when she was 9 is totally American. Super type A and cannot sit still and berates my parents and I for being lazy and low performing.

I also feel deep guilt and shame for not being like other American women my sister emulates. Maybe I am lazy, maybe its culture.

Ok, how are people in Iran able to have such a luxurious life? Is this the norm or were you from a wealthy family?

I would say they have their priorities right...

[Anonymous]

Other than adderall what really helps with inattentive adhd? I’m on adderall but would like to get off of it. I build up a tolerance so fast and it’s impacting my memory and word recall.

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Anonymous wrote:I am also like this, but I also have serious FOMO and they seem to balance out in terms of social interactions. Cleaning, exercising, etc on the other hand... In my case, I really think it’s psychological, because once I actually start doing the thing it’s not so bad.

I *kind* of have FOMO, but then when I do go out and do something it's never as fun as I imagine it to be. Kind of like "why am I here?"

Then when I get back home to my comfy abode I'm so glad.

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Yes, it's linked to inattentive ADHD and is partly hereditary.

My son and I are like this.

Posting again to express my great surprise that it's only on page 4 that I'm the first to come along and mention inattentive ADHD. I'm a research scientist and had to have my son evaluated for ADHD, but I thought it was recognized in the general population as well. There is a reason, apart from the worldwide obsession with coffee, why you so desperately need your caffeine in the morning. There is a reason why stimulants for ADHD might work for you... because you might have ADHD! Inattentive and hyperactive ADHD are both treated in the same way, with stimulants, even though they have certain diametrically opposite symptoms. Hyperactive: can't sit still, always rushing, mercurial temper, flashes of brilliance, great talker, high energy. Inattentive: quiet, introspective, slow, prone to motor issues or hypotonia, thoughtful, low energy. Commonality: attention issues. Sometimes you can be diagnosed as "mixed type" if the psychologist evaluating you sees a few traits of each type.

Please don't call it lazy. By using the derogatory word on yourselves, you are perpetuating the shame and guilt placed on certain inborn traits that you cannot help! Don't make it so easy for others to dismiss and belittle you.

Don't forget that our traits are all linked together (genes). It's important to know this about ourselves to find the right job and the right mate. My mother, myself and my son, are all low-energy and slow, yet we are creative and thoughtful. We might not be one without the other, and this is a critical concept. You cannot separate the desirable from the less desirable in a human being without heavy intervention, either pharmaceutical or otherwise, and sometimes not even then. My son does very well in school and is respected by his teachers as a "deep-thinker". Of course he is. He's so slow. Goodness knows he takes the time to do it

I have inattentive add and feel
Sloth like not on meds yet but seeing doc. Was on meds before pregnancy but nursing now

And just became a mom. Any tips would be helpful

Random:
Also what kind do research do you do?

If you can't take your meds right now, make yourself lists, write everything down before you forget - I prefer a paper planner, but electronic calendars and lists can be shared with your spouse and years from now, your teen children, so everyone can see instantly what the schedule is and what's changed. Developing routines for mornings and evenings (eating, washing, getting dressed) are a godsend for my son otherwise he would forget the most basic stuff. What I struggle with are tidying up and having a place for everything, because I'm the least impaired and have trouble, and no one else in the house seems capable of replacing items where they're supposed to be! Sigh. You're supposed to do a little bit at a time and "reward" yourself, but that's never worked for me. I've taken to scheduling get-togethers at my house every two weeks, so that it forces me to clean and tidy up before the guests come! How awful is that

My husband and I have worked in all kinds of biomedical research (DH works at NIH), including ADHD.

Congrats on the new baby. Rest!

Thank you
will heed your advice

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Anonymous wrote:How do my fellow naturally lazy people answer the question "Doing anything exciting this weekend?" I mean, exciting for me is sleeping till noon with no obligations, then taking my sweet time getting dressed (if I get dressed at all), then finding some low-key way to pass the day until bedtime. But I never have anything to say when coworkers are comparing their weekend ski trips and kid activities and entertaining 15 houseguests and whatnot.

OMG, me too! The most exciting thing I do is grocery shop on the weekends. But then I can't wait to get home and veg out, watch tv, read, etc...

And I like it this way, going out just tires me out, maybe b/c I'm lazy.

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I know all of us prefer to hang out at home in our jammies, but you sound like a group I would definitely make the effort to meet for drinks! My people!

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Anonymous wrote:How do my fellow naturally lazy people answer the question "Doing anything exciting this weekend?" I mean, exciting for me is sleeping till noon with no obligations, then taking my sweet time getting dressed (if I get dressed at all), then finding some low-key way to pass the day until bedtime. But I never have anything to say when coworkers are comparing their weekend ski trips and kid activities and entertaining 15 houseguests and whatnot.

Haha, I’m the same! I blame it on having kids, that seems to satisfy them.

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Anonymous wrote:Other than adderall what really helps with inattentive adhd? I’m on adderall but would like to get off of it. I build up a tolerance so fast and it’s impacting my memory and word recall.

Exercise, sleep and try going off gluten.

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Any lights on when u sleep?

How is your breathing? You breathe from your diaphragm or do you move your chest instead (vs stomach)?

Look into a book called the oxygen advantage. It focuses on high altitude training and how co2 affects the levels of oxygen going to organs.


Is it worse during the winter? If so maybe vitamin d may help.

Get your sugar tested. If you are diabetic to or prediabetic your cells are starving. Which can lead to exhaustion.



Look into depression.

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Anonymous wrote:Me

I actually read the term “low energy introvert” on here once and realized that describes me well.

Me too. I've learned to accept it.

OMG - this is DH's family to a "T". Going away on vacation (vacation from what? nothing??) with them is hell for me, because they just sit there the whole time. GAH! My family goes for walks, enjoys talking to each other, enjoys including everyone, total extroverts and totally outgoing and on the go. I recently realized DH has rubbed off on me, like I gave up or something

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Anonymous wrote:Hmmm. I love to sit on the couch after a long day at work but I’ve never considered myself lazy. With work, a kid, working out five times a week, am I not supposed to chill out?

This. I skimmed this thread pretty quickly, but many of the posters just seem to have a normal level of tiredness after a day of full-time work and family. Isn't better to deal with it by watching some TV and lowering your standards of 'productivity' than to get all pumped up on stimulants?

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intrigued by all the proudful laziness here. Has it occurred to you folks that others are carrying your weight? Coworkers especially - many of you seem to think you do fine at work and just veg out at home. Based on what, not getting fired yet? My bet is your coworkers have marked you, and/or spouses too. Once upon a time the tigers and bears would have weened you out of the species, and while that doesn't happen so much anymore, evolution and karma have a way of still doing that. Your lives are not complete yet, I wouldn't be so certain there isn't a downside to sloth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:intrigued by all the proudful laziness here. Has it occurred to you folks that others are carrying your weight? Coworkers especially - many of you seem to think you do fine at work and just veg out at home. Based on what, not getting fired yet? My bet is your coworkers have marked you, and/or spouses too. Once upon a time the tigers and bears would have weened you out of the species, and while that doesn't happen so much anymore, evolution and karma have a way of still doing that. Your lives are not complete yet, I wouldn't be so certain there isn't a downside to sloth.

STFU

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I’m not lazy, I’m a sea cow. I live in the ocean

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Anonymous wrote:intrigued by all the proudful laziness here. Has it occurred to you folks that others are carrying your weight? Coworkers especially - many of you seem to think you do fine at work and just veg out at home. Based on what, not getting fired yet? My bet is your coworkers have marked you, and/or spouses too. Once upon a time the tigers and bears would have weened you out of the species, and while that doesn't happen so much anymore, evolution and karma have a way of still doing that. Your lives are not complete yet, I wouldn't be so certain there isn't a downside to sloth.

Guess it sucks for you and them. ::shrug::