Is there anyone else out there who is naturally lazy?

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Anonymous wrote:Hmmm. I love to sit on the couch after a long day at work but I’ve never considered myself lazy. With work, a kid, working out five times a week, am I not supposed to chill out?

This. I skimmed this thread pretty quickly, but many of the posters just seem to have a normal level of tiredness after a day of full-time work and family. Isn't better to deal with it by watching some TV and lowering your standards of 'productivity' than to get all pumped up on stimulants?

This. Everybody needs some down time, including time away from the laptop.

Plus some of us are more introverted than others, and this translates into needing more downtime.

I’m really successful at work and raised 2 kids with an ADHD spouse. Now that the kids are in college, I’m taking art classes at night and go hiking some weekends. But I really need my down time for a couple hours a day! It never occurred to me to get medicated so I can do more.

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I appreciate this thread increasing my empathy for some low energy folks in my life. I'm home sick and also getting a feel for what it's like to live without my usual get up and go.

Still, things need to get done around the house and we can't afford much outsourcing, so it seems like the low energy household members need to chip in. Any tips for being sensitive to their predispositions but not stagnating?

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Anonymous wrote:OMG I really really struggle with this. I am a persian immigrant so for me I always wonder if there is a cultural component to this. I grew up in Iran as a child and had a very...luxurious life. Beautiful home, long summer days lounging around by the pool with friends, afternoon naps, leisurely dinners with family and such. Moving to America was such a shock to my system. People wake up at 5 am and do not even sit down for breakfast! They come home at 9 pm and eat dinner in front of the TV. On weekends they wake up at 5 am, go jogging and then spend all day running erands and being "productive." In high school here every kid had 3 sports to practice after school and were busier than the parents.

Back home we came home from school and hungout with our friends and watched TV until it was dinner time.

I was 16 when I moved here so I guess my formative years were sealed. I am "lazy" by American standards. I despise long commutes and breakfast-on-the-go and this perpetual busyness that is worn like a badge of honor. My younger sister who moved here when she was 9 is totally American. Super type A and cannot sit still and berates my parents and I for being lazy and low performing.

I also feel deep guilt and shame for not being like other American women my sister emulates. Maybe I am lazy, maybe its culture.

You could afford to live like that because you were born into wealth. Most people have to work very hard to earn a vacation where they can do such things. People born middle class living the way you did would run out of money quite quickly.



Ok, how are people in Iran able to have such a luxurious life? Is this the norm or were you from a wealthy family?

I would say they have their priorities right...

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SAHM was my downfall, that’s when I became lazy.

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Are us low energy people at a disadvantage culturally?

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Anonymous wrote:I appreciate this thread increasing my empathy for some low energy folks in my life. I'm home sick and also getting a feel for what it's like to live without my usual get up and go.

Still, things need to get done around the house and we can't afford much outsourcing, so it seems like the low energy household members need to chip in. Any tips for being sensitive to their predispositions but not stagnating?

Chose your battles. Everything does not need to be done every week. Ask yourself...Would you rather be happily married or have everything done on the timetable you desire? My SIL's husband was a great guy who had sloth tendencies. She nagged him constantly and complained to everyone who was willing to listen. After he left her and she had to do EVERYTHING she finally realized he wasn't as much of a slacker as she thought and being married to a person you truly love is way more important than having her to do list complete each week. She has many regrets and so much time was wasted feeling hostile and resentful. She also realized the emotional support he gave her was worth as much as taking his turn cleaning the bathroom.

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I am married yo a low derby man from a low energy family. He retired after working for 20 years and I am stick with carrying everything. Most days I forget but when I am exhausted at 11 pm and he is in bed after an afternoon nap I could scream.

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me. i sometimes try to take

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Anonymous wrote:Team Sloth

I even tried Adderall.

How did that work for you?

It worked. I had loads of energy to complete tasks. But, it made my heart race, I would sweat excessively and eventually I would need a break from it. I don’t like how I feel on it.

I have become such a homebody. I really hate going out anywhere.