Difficultly adjusting after relocating from DC

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Flyover country" is enormously offensive. Ironic that posters bemoaning the lack of diversity in other areas use that term repeatedly.

I never heard the term used, but inferred roughly what it meant. I looked it up and laughed when I saw this on the Wikipedia entry: "Although the term is most commonly associated with states located in the geographic center of the country, the states with the most planes flying over without taking off or landing are located on the East Coast, with number one being Virginia, then North Carolina, and Pennsylvania."

[Anonymous]

I just have to comment on the “flyover country” comment. I’m originally from the Midwest and had never heard the term before I went to Northwestern. It was basically the rich girls from the east coast that would use it in a derogatory way. So yes, it’s meant to be derogatory, but I would just ignore. It’s usually not worth commenting about when people say it.

I do agree with the OP (if she is actually talking about Winnetka) that a number of women there are all about stratus, clothes and money, but not really that different from Bethesda or Mclean except for more diversity (but same attitude!). However, just like here, i’m sure there are pockets of different people if you just expand the group of people you’re meeting. Right now you’re just focusing on a group of mothers at your school. I bet there are others out there that can’t stand that group either. Also check out things at the University (there or whatever city your in). They tend to be more diverse and you might find more people with similar interests and less status obsessed (at least with regards to money).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op I know what you mean. I’m in a suburb of Milwaukee so ppl aren’t as wealthy but there is very little diversity—racial or socioeconomic. We’ve been here 3 years and have genuinely tried making friends. We have made some friends but they are not very deep or meaningful relationships just people we like well enough to hang out with occasionally so we have some type of social life. It seems like almost everyone who lives here grew up here or nearby and has family and old friends here so we have always felt like outsiders. We can’t wait to leave.

Go to whitefish bay or north shore / nicolet high school if that’s what you want. Otherwise I’d assume everyone is down to earth, baseball all summer types.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Methinks OP WANTS to be offended and feel like an outcast just so she can feel extra special and worldly, in her weird way. Get a life, OP. Really no one gives a F about your heritage, you’re not that special. If you’re nice to people you’ll make friends and build a life. If you walk around with a chip on your shoulder and your “I’m so much more culturally better than you” then no one will like you and it won’t be because of your skin. It’ll simply be because you’re an insufferable a-hole.

Jeez! Why the anger? I bet you call people who disagree with you snowflakes.

I can see the smirk on the poster's face now....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DC is a special place. There's so much I took for granted living here that was a shock to me even when I moved to fairly urban place like Seattle. But like apparently there are large swaths of the country with no black people! I had no idea. Insane. Happy I moved back and prefer the problems here over problems elsewhere.

And a lot of those places are really liberal, like north Arlington

[Anonymous]

and Falls Church City! I picked up their local newspaper the other day and it looked like no one of color lives there! Every single picture from the schools, the city council, realtors, kids sledding no diversity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Recently relocated with my family to a suburb in a flyover state. My DH and kids love it, me not so much at all. There is zero diversity both racially and economically. I am of a different race and background than everyone around me. I’ve never felt out of place in DC, but do here. Everyone is extremely wealthy or at least pretending to me. The majority of the moms stay at home and socialize via their kids. I’m still working and traveling back and forth to DC, socializing with SAHMs women is difficult. Just ranting I guess. I took the day off to attend a school function and literally 9 out of the 10 moms here has a Moncler jacket and Louis Vuitton Bag. There isn’t even any fashion diversity!

Who cares? These are just things - a coat, a handbag, a race.
Get over yourself, start doing TOUR interests and make some friends.

I’ve lived in 3 countries and 5 U.S. cities. You’ll find your people or get to know others as real people soon. And you dont have to automatically hate someone who has a leather handbag that will last 50 years or a warm coat. BFD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:and Falls Church City! I picked up their local newspaper the other day and it looked like no one of color lives there! Every single picture from the schools, the city council, realtors, kids sledding no diversity.

And where or where in the world is this utopia of middle class and poor kids playing together, everywhich race speaking English and learning or playing XYZ sport in the playground, parents all having fun together at the PTA social?

It was around in the 1950s in the multicultural playgrounds of many U.S. cities. Every kid from every which country or class would go play baseball at the playground- every day, for hours, boys and girls!! It’s like they wanted to do the same stuff, “American” stuff.

[Anonymous]

Did not know that so many people in USA hate to be around white people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Methinks OP WANTS to be offended and feel like an outcast just so she can feel extra special and worldly, in her weird way. Get a life, OP. Really no one gives a F about your heritage, you’re not that special. If you’re nice to people you’ll make friends and build a life. If you walk around with a chip on your shoulder and your “I’m so much more culturally better than you” then no one will like you and it won’t be because of your skin. It’ll simply be because you’re an insufferable a-hole.

Jeez! Why the anger? I bet you call people who disagree with you snowflakes.

+1

Not everyone is from your area - and it is okay, it is actually not a personal affront. Some people actually have a background to be proud of. Maybe not you, but that is not OP's problem - it will never be OP's problem, so get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:and Falls Church City! I picked up their local newspaper the other day and it looked like no one of color lives there! Every single picture from the schools, the city council, realtors, kids sledding no diversity.

And where or where in the world is this utopia of middle class and poor kids playing together, everywhich race speaking English and learning or playing XYZ sport in the playground, parents all having fun together at the PTA social?

It was around in the 1950s in the multicultural playgrounds of many U.S. cities. Every kid from every which country or class would go play baseball at the playground- every day, for hours, boys and girls!! It’s like they wanted to do the same stuff, “American” stuff.

GTFOH, in the 1950's my mother was not allowed to vote , her parents were not allowed to live where your parents may have lived , and Nat King Cole was fighting to be allowed to live in peace in his own neighborhood where he bought a house.
Yea, how freaking American, the 1950's