Difficultly adjusting after relocating from DC

[Anonymous]

Ppl move out of DC to save on cost of living and then find out that they get what they paid for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Stop focusing on diversity. Op, you can be put off by attitudes. Demographics are what they are. It does you no good to focus on the lack of diversity.

Easy to say when you are not the minority or am slammed with ignorant comments about your background. I live in this same area and am also mixed race. Do you know how many times people have assumed I grew up in the ghetto or seem shocked that I grew up in a household with a normal mother and father

Do you want to make things better? Offer information. Offer information about yourself right away. Should you have to? No. Should you have to live with bigoted people's assumptions? No. But it is what it is. If you don't want to be victim then tweak your communication -- for your own sake. Or is it easier to just complain? I have an MD friend, born and raised in Illinois. Went to med school in Illinois. She's clearly of Indian decent. She asked why people assume she's not from the US, with US med school credentials. Who cares whY? The answer to her problem is obvious, if it bothers her, when she introduces herself to patients she can it find a way to mention her back round. "Oh, I see you're from xx part of the country ... I've never been there. I grew up and went to med school in Illinois"

Wow you are just as tiring as the people the original poster is complaining about. Why is it the onus is always on the people of color to have to freaking explain themselves? That shit is tiring, it's unnecessary and you have a lot of nerve trying to foist the responsibility of unwinding ignorance on the person who is the target of it. In essence, what you are saying is it the original poster, and other people of color are basically 'interlopers', 'different' who have to explain themselves . We just want to go about our daily lives just like you do, and do not want to , nor should have to carry the freaking mental load of trying to explain and/or justify our existence and presence. If you have people that don't understand that people come in all kinds of colors, cultures , backgrounds and personal histories that's on them, not me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you all kidding me? MEAN GIRLS was based on a book, which was inspired by National Cathedral School, right here in DC. The book author was a teacher at NCS. Looks like you guys saw the movie, but didn't read the book.

See this article from Alexandra Petri, a NCS alumni:

https://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/compost/wp/2014/04/30/mean-girls-turns-10-today-i-was-in-the-book/?utm_term=.593feb01dd66

And this one from the NYT:

https://www.nytimes.com/2002/02/24/magazine/girls-just-want-to-be-mean.html

Another one even more clear about it:

https://www.washingtontimes.com/news/2002/mar/4/20020304-040739-2137r/

The movie is based in Evanston at a fictional HS, OP refers to the movie, not books.

http://meangirls.wikia.com/wiki/North_Shore_High_School

[Anonymous]

Mean girls makes references to various Northshore burbs...Winetka, Glencoe etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you all kidding me? MEAN GIRLS was based on a book, which was inspired by National Cathedral School, right here in DC. The book author was a teacher at NCS. Looks like you guys saw the movie, but didn't read the book.

See this article from Alexandra Petri, a NCS alumni:

https://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/compost/wp/2014/04/30/mean-girls-turns-10-today-i-was-in-the-book/?utm_term=.593feb01dd66

And this one from the NYT:

https://www.nytimes.com/2002/02/24/magazine/girls-just-want-to-be-mean.html

Another one even more clear about it:

https://www.washingtontimes.com/news/2002/mar/4/20020304-040739-2137r/

The movie is based in Evanston at a fictional HS, OP refers to the movie, not books.

http://meangirls.wikia.com/wiki/North_Shore_High_School


Oh, I thought she was talking about content, feelings and mean girls, not about the looks. If she was talking about the looks, she will fit well in a superficial environment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mean girls makes references to various Northshore burbs...Winetka, Glencoe etc.

My goodness, you people in this threat are very stupid. It’s a MOVIE!!! It doesn’t matter the state. The behavior and social dynamics are the important, not the movie set! The movie is inspired on the book. The book is based on NCS girls! Read the book.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Flyover country" is enormously offensive. Ironic that posters bemoaning the lack of diversity in other areas use that term repeatedly.

+100000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Stop focusing on diversity. Op, you can be put off by attitudes. Demographics are what they are. It does you no good to focus on the lack of diversity.

Easy to say when you are not the minority or am slammed with ignorant comments about your background. I live in this same area and am also mixed race. Do you know how many times people have assumed I grew up in the ghetto or seem shocked that I grew up in a household with a normal mother and father

Do you want to make things better? Offer information. Offer information about yourself right away. Should you have to? No. Should you have to live with bigoted people's assumptions? No. But it is what it is. If you don't want to be victim then tweak your communication -- for your own sake. Or is it easier to just complain? I have an MD friend, born and raised in Illinois. Went to med school in Illinois. She's clearly of Indian decent. She asked why people assume she's not from the US, with US med school credentials. Who cares whY? The answer to her problem is obvious, if it bothers her, when she introduces herself to patients she can it find a way to mention her back round. "Oh, I see you're from xx part of the country ... I've never been there. I grew up and went to med school in Illinois"

Wow you are just as tiring as the people the original poster is complaining about. Why is it the onus is always on the people of color to have to freaking explain themselves? That shit is tiring, it's unnecessary and you have a lot of nerve trying to foist the responsibility of unwinding ignorance on the person who is the target of it. In essence, what you are saying is it the original poster, and other people of color are basically 'interlopers', 'different' who have to explain themselves . We just want to go about our daily lives just like you do, and do not want to , nor should have to carry the freaking mental load of trying to explain and/or justify our existence and presence. If you have people that don't understand that people come in all kinds of colors, cultures , backgrounds and personal histories that's on them, not me.

Because they are the minority. Look, the US was overwhelmingly white up till the mid 1980s. Today's baby boomers grew up at a time when the population was close to 90% white. There are still many people, particularly of older generations, and in many parts of the country, where a person of Indian heritage is a novelty and automatically assumed to be an immigrant. Many people grew up at a time where it was perfectly polite and even considered friendly chit-chat to ask where someone is from. I remember my 80 year old WASP grandfather being asked by a new doctor where he was originally from, and my grandfather said, "Why, I'm a Virginian" even though he'd lived in Maryland for close to 60 years by that point. Is that wrong? I think judging people is more wrong than being upset at having wrong assumptions. The woman with a medical school degree is in a very privileged position in life and if this is her biggest gripe then she should consider herself fortunate. She should simply smile and say, "oh, I was born and raised in the US, and where are you from originally?" and leave it at that. Now the other person has learned a thing about having wrong assumptions, and no one is shamed or embarrassed or judged.

There's far too much judging going on these days and people really need to get over it and understand we're all human and make mistakes. Learn from each other, but politely and friendly.

[Anonymous]

A lot of mean girls in DMV schools, public and private. What makes you think DC is any different or less worse than any other city or region of the country

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Flyover country" is enormously offensive. Ironic that posters bemoaning the lack of diversity in other areas use that term repeatedly.

+100000

Are you serious that the term ‘flyover state’ is in your words “enormously offensive”?!? At first I laughed when I read this but actually feel sorry for the few that feel this way. The term is a geographical description of states that have smaller populations, less tourism/less visited and are not located along a coast. Why are you creating an offensive aspect to a simple description? How ridiculous!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Flyover country" is enormously offensive. Ironic that posters bemoaning the lack of diversity in other areas use that term repeatedly.

+100000

Apparently it’s not offensive if it’s geared towards the whites

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Stop focusing on diversity. Op, you can be put off by attitudes. Demographics are what they are. It does you no good to focus on the lack of diversity.

Easy to say when you are not the minority or am slammed with ignorant comments about your background. I live in this same area and am also mixed race. Do you know how many times people have assumed I grew up in the ghetto or seem shocked that I grew up in a household with a normal mother and father

Do you want to make things better? Offer information. Offer information about yourself right away. Should you have to? No. Should you have to live with bigoted people's assumptions? No. But it is what it is. If you don't want to be victim then tweak your communication -- for your own sake. Or is it easier to just complain? I have an MD friend, born and raised in Illinois. Went to med school in Illinois. She's clearly of Indian decent. She asked why people assume she's not from the US, with US med school credentials. Who cares whY? The answer to her problem is obvious, if it bothers her, when she introduces herself to patients she can it find a way to mention her back round. "Oh, I see you're from xx part of the country ... I've never been there. I grew up and went to med school in Illinois"

Wow you are just as tiring as the people the original poster is complaining about. Why is it the onus is always on the people of color to have to freaking explain themselves? That shit is tiring, it's unnecessary and you have a lot of nerve trying to foist the responsibility of unwinding ignorance on the person who is the target of it. In essence, what you are saying is it the original poster, and other people of color are basically 'interlopers', 'different' who have to explain themselves . We just want to go about our daily lives just like you do, and do not want to , nor should have to carry the freaking mental load of trying to explain and/or justify our existence and presence. If you have people that don't understand that people come in all kinds of colors, cultures , backgrounds and personal histories that's on them, not me.

Because they are the minority. Look, the US was overwhelmingly white up till the mid 1980s. Today's baby boomers grew up at a time when the population was close to 90% white. There are still many people, particularly of older generations, and in many parts of the country, where a person of Indian heritage is a novelty and automatically assumed to be an immigrant. Many people grew up at a time where it was perfectly polite and even considered friendly chit-chat to ask where someone is from. I remember my 80 year old WASP grandfather being asked by a new doctor where he was originally from, and my grandfather said, "Why, I'm a Virginian" even though he'd lived in Maryland for close to 60 years by that point. Is that wrong? I think judging people is more wrong than being upset at having wrong assumptions. The woman with a medical school degree is in a very privileged position in life and if this is her biggest gripe then she should consider herself fortunate. She should simply smile and say, "oh, I was born and raised in the US, and where are you from originally?" and leave it at that. Now the other person has learned a thing about having wrong assumptions, and no one is shamed or embarrassed or judged.

There's far too much judging going on these days and people really need to get over it and understand we're all human and make mistakes. Learn from each other, but politely and friendly.

no it wasn't polite and friendly. You just don't get it in other words you think people are being too sensitive so don't realize your own sensitivity about being corrected about how you approach people. White people are not the standard of human beings there are white people, Indian people Cambodian people all kinds of people and all kinds of people that live in the US. So don't make assumptions about people and you won't get called out on those assumptions.
You have not had to live a life where you have had to deal with those assumptions and how tiring it is. Yet, you don't want to deal with one instance of someone telling you not to do it and how it negatively affects people . Cognitive dissonance .

[Anonymous]

Methinks OP WANTS to be offended and feel like an outcast just so she can feel extra special and worldly, in her weird way. Get a life, OP. Really no one gives a F about your heritage, you’re not that special. If you’re nice to people you’ll make friends and build a life. If you walk around with a chip on your shoulder and your “I’m so much more culturally better than you” then no one will like you and it won’t be because of your skin. It’ll simply be because you’re an insufferable a-hole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Methinks OP WANTS to be offended and feel like an outcast just so she can feel extra special and worldly, in her weird way. Get a life, OP. Really no one gives a F about your heritage, you’re not that special. If you’re nice to people you’ll make friends and build a life. If you walk around with a chip on your shoulder and your “I’m so much more culturally better than you” then no one will like you and it won’t be because of your skin. It’ll simply be because you’re an insufferable a-hole.

Jeez! Why the anger? I bet you call people who disagree with you snowflakes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Flyover country" is enormously offensive. Ironic that posters bemoaning the lack of diversity in other areas use that term repeatedly.

+100000

Are you serious that the term ‘flyover state’ is in your words “enormously offensive”?!? At first I laughed when I read this but actually feel sorry for the few that feel this way. The term is a geographical description of states that have smaller populations, less tourism/less visited and are not located along a coast. Why are you creating an offensive aspect to a simple description? How ridiculous!

Born in NY, educated in MA, live in DMV. But yes, of course "flyover state" is offensive, implying that one flies from coast to coast, avoiding the rest of the US because it is not as worthy, sophisticated, urban, whatever. I believe there is a country song about it.