Question for Women - Dating advice for 51 year old man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP. Great advice. Very helpful suggestions on the photos. For the profile. What are you looking for? It seems listing interest is over done. How much detail? Kids? Ages? What makes you swipe right? The photos? The profile?

If you mention children, do it in passing. I find it a turn off when someone includes photos of their kids (privacy issues) or too many details. I found over time that the guys who emphasized in their profiles how much they love their kids, etc. actually were the least involved dads and had been overcompensating. I wouldn't include specific ages of kids.

I like photos that show you doing things. Be authentic and look happy. Someone has to look at the photo and want to be in that picture with you. If you do physical activities, great. But don't make stuff up. Be genuine, be enthusiastic about something. Check grammar and spelling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“How do women not understand this? It's about sex. 35 year old sex is better than 55 year old sex.”

How do you not understand that a 35 y.o. women who is heading towards her sexual peak in her 40’s is a terrible match sexually with a 55 y.o. guy who can’t get and stay hard? .

LMAO at the idea women are in their "sexual peak" in their 40s.

Or even their 30s.

Whether you like it or not, you peaked at 22.

But hey, if someone whose looks and fertility are plummeting wants to turn her nose up at some guy who is 55, that's fine. Enjoy playing with your cats.

[Anonymous]

I'm 42 and have literally never had such a high libido. I have no idea why but it is way higher than ever.

[Anonymous]

I feel sorry for the bitter guys on here thinking all women of a certain age are cat ladies.

I've always had a strong libido but it's never been higher than now in my 40s. I LOVE going at it. Had the time of my life dating after divorce in my 40s.

And I hate cats.

It's an abundant dating world. If you want to date younger, feel free. But there ARE active, enthusiastic, horny people in their 40s, 50s+ who are out there looking to match.

[Anonymous]

Just go ahead and approach any unmarried (look for a ring) woman (or women) you find attractive at work, the gym, church, the grocery store, the jogging path, a restaurant, and begin a conversation with them. It is good practice at socializing in any case, and if you find the conversation is going well, ask them for their number, or give them yours. Pretend you are in college again (in terms of attitude, not age group selection), and take a risk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“How do women not understand this? It's about sex. 35 year old sex is better than 55 year old sex.”

How do you not understand that a 35 y.o. women who is heading towards her sexual peak in her 40’s is a terrible match sexually with a 55 y.o. guy who can’t get and stay hard? .

LMAO at the idea women are in their "sexual peak" in their 40s.

Or even their 30s.

Whether you like it or not, you peaked at 22.

But hey, if someone whose looks and fertility are plummeting wants to turn her nose up at some guy who is 55, that's fine. Enjoy playing with your cats.

You equate the peak of libido with the peak of fertility and perhaps attractiveness, and that's not true.

I'm 44 and 7 months pregnant. I've NEVER been so horny in my life. I was not even aware these sensations exist at 22.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“How do women not understand this? It's about sex. 35 year old sex is better than 55 year old sex.”

How do you not understand that a 35 y.o. women who is heading towards her sexual peak in her 40’s is a terrible match sexually with a 55 y.o. guy who can’t get and stay hard? .

LMAO at the idea women are in their "sexual peak" in their 40s.

Or even their 30s.

Whether you like it or not, you peaked at 22.

But hey, if someone whose looks and fertility are plummeting wants to turn her nose up at some guy who is 55, that's fine. Enjoy playing with your cats.

Idiot. You're a man who knows nothing about women. You're looking at from your perspective. From my perspective, at 40 I'm having more and better orgasms than ever before. It's a well-documented fact that this is common for most women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“How do women not understand this? It's about sex. 35 year old sex is better than 55 year old sex.”

How do you not understand that a 35 y.o. women who is heading towards her sexual peak in her 40’s is a terrible match sexually with a 55 y.o. guy who can’t get and stay hard? .

LMAO at the idea women are in their "sexual peak" in their 40s.

Or even their 30s.

Whether you like it or not, you peaked at 22.

But hey, if someone whose looks and fertility are plummeting wants to turn her nose up at some guy who is 55, that's fine. Enjoy playing with your cats.

But come to think of it, I understand why you do. You are simply incapable intellectually of escaping the reality of your sex, which is that you cannot father children without experiencing orgasms. It's not the same for women. Billions of women on this planet have carried and birthed billions of children without ever knowing what an orgasm feels like. Orgasms and fertility for women are completely divorced in a way that they aren't for men. Chew on this. Imagine what it would be like to be able to father children while remaining only mildly amiable about the process that gets you there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just go ahead and approach any unmarried (look for a ring) woman (or women) you find attractive at work, the gym, church, the grocery store, the jogging path, a restaurant, and begin a conversation with them. It is good practice at socializing in any case, and if you find the conversation is going well, ask them for their number, or give them yours. Pretend you are in college again (in terms of attitude, not age group selection), and take a risk.

Ugh. Please don't do this. It's fine if you want to chat without an ulterior motive. But, when you do that and then try to trade up for my number, it leaves me with a bad taste in my mouth. I am not out in the world on constant sexual or romantic display for your availability. Also, there is no way I am going to go out with some rando who approaches me on the street - that's dangerous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
To each his own. I’m 50 and I don’t care if they loved through the Gulf War. Younger people have their own cultural experiences that I loved through. Younger women are much less set in their ways and usually have less baggage. Go for a smart one.

Isn't it incredible? Women lose sexual desirability to men as they age but their demands increase and they get more pickier and more obstinate. Younger women on the other hand are hotter, more willing to live in the moment and more willing to, most importantly, have sex.

Sorry, grandmas.

I think what you've hit upon is that older women have higher standards and are also ok with being alone.

Sorry, beta boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
To each his own. I’m 50 and I don’t care if they loved through the Gulf War. Younger people have their own cultural experiences that I loved through. Younger women are much less set in their ways and usually have less baggage. Go for a smart one.

Isn't it incredible? Women lose sexual desirability to men as they age but their demands increase and they get more pickier and more obstinate. Younger women on the other hand are hotter, more willing to live in the moment and more willing to, most importantly, have sex.

Sorry, grandmas.

I think what you've hit upon is that older women have higher standards and are also ok with being alone.

Sorry, beta boys.

Go be alone. Get off a relationship forum.

[Anonymous]

Anyway, this sure has devolved! Woman here: I am not divorced - hopefully won't get divorced! - but I've seen it happen with some friends.

It does seem like you will have ample dating opportunities, if you are a reasonably attractive, reasonably financially secure man in his 50s. So that's really good for you!

I would say don't jump right into a new relationship.
Enjoy your new freedom. Go explore, go have adventures.

In all likelihood, if you are anything like my other divorced friends, you are kind of an emotional wreck for a while after your divorce.

Date casually, make sure the women you are with know you are dating casually and have realistic expectations. Don't project all the problems of your marriage onto your new relationships, or expect the new relationships to have no problems. New people, new problems. And try not to infect your new relationships with bitterness, over what happened with your ex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“How do women not understand this? It's about sex. 35 year old sex is better than 55 year old sex.”

How do you not understand that a 35 y.o. women who is heading towards her sexual peak in her 40’s is a terrible match sexually with a 55 y.o. guy who can’t get and stay hard? .

LMAO at the idea women are in their "sexual peak" in their 40s.

Or even their 30s.

Whether you like it or not, you peaked at 22.

But hey, if someone whose looks and fertility are plummeting wants to turn her nose up at some guy who is 55, that's fine. Enjoy playing with your cats.

But come to think of it, I understand why you do. You are simply incapable intellectually of escaping the reality of your sex, which is that you cannot father children without experiencing orgasms. It's not the same for women. Billions of women on this planet have carried and birthed billions of children without ever knowing what an orgasm feels like. Orgasms and fertility for women are completely divorced in a way that they aren't for men. Chew on this. Imagine what it would be like to be able to father children while remaining only mildly amiable about the process that gets you there.

very well said!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just go ahead and approach any unmarried (look for a ring) woman (or women) you find attractive at work, the gym, church, the grocery store, the jogging path, a restaurant, and begin a conversation with them. It is good practice at socializing in any case, and if you find the conversation is going well, ask them for their number, or give them yours. Pretend you are in college again (in terms of attitude, not age group selection), and take a risk.

Ugh. Please don't do this. It's fine if you want to chat without an ulterior motive. But, when you do that and then try to trade up for my number, it leaves me with a bad taste in my mouth. I am not out in the world on constant sexual or romantic display for your availability. Also, there is no way I am going to go out with some rando who approaches me on the street - that's dangerous.

I am the woman who made this suggestion to the OP, and I respectfully disagree with you. I personally find it flattering and sort of romantic, in an old-fashioned, throwback sort-of-way, when people still meet randomly, out-and-about, and just by luck or fate. If for some reason you see me, or know me a little bit, and you find me to be nice, intelligent, sweet, funny, attractive, or you just happen to like my smile - and therefore think that you might like to get to know me better - then please do politely and courteously approach and begin a conversation to see where it leads. It may indeed be a dead end, but I will be equally polite and courteous back to you whatever the case may be.

[Anonymous]

OP, don't underestimate the power of an expensive car, a nice watch and a large . . . portfolio.