Euthanize or attempt to re-home?

[Anonymous]

Man, I was starting to see your side until I heard the reason the cat won't come out of your room is because you got a dog.... What a dumb thing to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man, I was starting to see your side until I heard the reason the cat won't come out of your room is because you got a dog.... What a dumb thing to do.

She's been like this for years. Well before the dog. After we got the dog she continued same behaviors (leaving our room at night after everyone/everything is sleeping). A year later she stopped leaving our room to use litter box. She still leaves our room in the middle of the night and drinks from THE DOG'S water bowl. But mostly she stays in our room and won't leave it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you should euthanize the cat. You have given her a great long life, much longer than she would have had in a different home if she's had peeing issues for so long.

Ignore the haters. It's OK and you are not a bad person for euthanizing a cat who is destroying your house.

And there is no way you will find a no-kill shelter to take her. No-kill shelters simply do not take cats with behavioral issues like failure to use the litter box. They have too many cats to try to save to take ones with litterbox issues. How do I know? I've tried to find a home for our peeing cat and have failed miserably.

Yup. No kills only take desirable pets.

[Anonymous]

is the utility room accessible from any of the bedrooms? or could it be? We currently have a cat who has a 50 % success rate with litter box. Nothing wrong with his health...so we built out a room attached to the bedroom that has a sealed cement floor that is easy to clean.He accesses it through a cat door . He can still hang with us but the offending odor and the wood floor damage are no longer an issue. We decided on this tact after replacing wood floors under the litterbox...twice. We still clean the litterbox and room every day. If it smells bad to me I'm sure it smells bad to him.
He is not our first animal with issues. And I'm sure he won't be our last.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:is the utility room accessible from any of the bedrooms? or could it be? We currently have a cat who has a 50 % success rate with litter box. Nothing wrong with his health...so we built out a room attached to the bedroom that has a sealed cement floor that is easy to clean.He accesses it through a cat door . He can still hang with us but the offending odor and the wood floor damage are no longer an issue. We decided on this tact after replacing wood floors under the litterbox...twice. We still clean the litterbox and room every day. If it smells bad to me I'm sure it smells bad to him.
He is not our first animal with issues. And I'm sure he won't be our last.

No. It's on the basement away from everyone. Only other non-carpet/non-wood surface is laundry room and she pees on laundry when given the chance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man, I was starting to see your side until I heard the reason the cat won't come out of your room is because you got a dog.... What a dumb thing to do.

Completely agree. Could you rehome the dog? You may have an easier time with a puppy or younger dog than with your older cat.

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Anonymous wrote:I've seen plenty of people on here telling the OP what a monster she is for even thinking of rehoming or euthanizing, but no one is offering to take the cat. Very telling. Why? Because no one on here wants their home smelling of cat p!ss and we all know a cat this old isn't going to get better no matter how many different litters or pills you shove at it.

Nice assumption. Many of us, myself included, have pets already. I have 2 special needs dogs (who would have been long dumped by many of you b/c of the inconvenience they pose) and an elderly cat. So, yeah, I can't take another one. But you're also missing the point: OP created some of this issue. Now she's whining about it. It may be "just a cat" but it's a life and is dependent on her. She's been a loving companion. And this is how she's treated? Honestly, it's gross. But, whatever, give her a peaceful exit and I stand by the "you should not get another pet" comment. Absolutely.

OP, you absolutely shouldn't come to this board for advice. There are many other, better pet forums.

Her main problem is that she keeps coming here to post about the same thing, doesn’t like the overwhelming volume nor content of responses she gets, and keeps thinking there will be a different answer if she reposts. OP, just make a decision and stick with it. This is your decision. Whatever you decide, you should be comfortable with making that decision. A bunch of strangers telling you one thing or another isn’t going to help you very much because you need to make this decision and live with whatever the decision is.

That's a pretty big, and likely faulty assumption, don't you think? First, the difference in the number of between "that sucks, OP, but you may have no other choice but to euthanize" and "OMG you are a horrible person" posts isn't overwhelming. And if there was a way to identify multiple posts by the same author, I'd wager that number shrinks, and possibly goes in the other direction. (I have to believe this, because otherwise there are far too many freakin' insane people wandering around.)

OP, this is a terrible situation, and you are faced with a very difficult decision. Whatever you decide, good luck.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Man, I was starting to see your side until I heard the reason the cat won't come out of your room is because you got a dog.... What a dumb thing to do.

Completely agree. Could you rehome the dog? You may have an easier time with a puppy or younger dog than with your older cat.

Doesn't make sense to rehome the dog - and dog serves pretty such as emotional support/therapy for a kid with serious challenges. Which was a big part of why we got the dog.

Cat will be euthanized unless my aging father in law wants to take her. I would trust him to care for her and he probably needs a pal.

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Anonymous wrote:Man, I was starting to see your side until I heard the reason the cat won't come out of your room is because you got a dog.... What a dumb thing to do.

Completely agree. Could you rehome the dog? You may have an easier time with a puppy or younger dog than with your older cat.

Doesn't make sense to rehome the dog - and dog serves pretty such as emotional support/therapy for a kid with serious challenges. Which was a big part of why we got the dog.

Cat will be euthanized unless my aging father in law wants to take her. I would trust him to care for her and he probably needs a pal.

Will he be able to keep up the cleaning after accidents? Does he feel pressure to take her so she won't be put down? (I had a similar situation, but family held dtheir ground and wouldn't take in a pet with extreme behavioral issues. Glad they don't feel guilty.)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Man, I was starting to see your side until I heard the reason the cat won't come out of your room is because you got a dog.... What a dumb thing to do.

Completely agree. Could you rehome the dog? You may have an easier time with a puppy or younger dog than with your older cat.

Doesn't make sense to rehome the dog - and dog serves pretty such as emotional support/therapy for a kid with serious challenges. Which was a big part of why we got the dog.

Cat will be euthanized unless my aging father in law wants to take her. I would trust him to care for her and he probably needs a pal.

Will he be able to keep up the cleaning after accidents? Does he feel pressure to take her so she won't be put down? (I had a similar situation, but family held dtheir ground and wouldn't take in a pet with extreme behavioral issues. Glad they don't feel guilty.)

He'd be very capable. He wouldn't take her if he didn't want her. Unlikely he will want her but he's all alone now so who knows.

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Anonymous wrote:is the utility room accessible from any of the bedrooms? or could it be? We currently have a cat who has a 50 % success rate with litter box. Nothing wrong with his health...so we built out a room attached to the bedroom that has a sealed cement floor that is easy to clean.He accesses it through a cat door . He can still hang with us but the offending odor and the wood floor damage are no longer an issue. We decided on this tact after replacing wood floors under the litterbox...twice. We still clean the litterbox and room every day. If it smells bad to me I'm sure it smells bad to him.
He is not our first animal with issues. And I'm sure he won't be our last.

No. It's on the basement away from everyone. Only other non-carpet/non-wood surface is laundry room and she pees on laundry when given the chance.

So if we hadn't been able to build a room in the garage and break through the wall for the cat door the next option for us was a small circular hole with a ramp down to the unfinished basement. Again the cat would have a separate bathroom, but still have been able to be with us. And our dogs don't go into the basement at all. In fact this option would have been cheaper but I have a bad back and dealing with 2 sets of stairs everyday was less appealing.

[Anonymous]

Just euthanize, OP. You're paralyzed by guilt, but your day to day living with this cat is misery. She's 16. It's OK. She's had a good long life. You will feel like a million pounds has been lifted off your chest.

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Anonymous wrote:Man, I was starting to see your side until I heard the reason the cat won't come out of your room is because you got a dog.... What a dumb thing to do.

Completely agree. Could you rehome the dog? You may have an easier time with a puppy or younger dog than with your older cat.

Doesn't make sense to rehome the dog - and dog serves pretty such as emotional support/therapy for a kid with serious challenges. Which was a big part of why we got the dog.

Cat will be euthanized unless my aging father in law wants to take her. I would trust him to care for her and he probably needs a pal.

Will he be able to keep up the cleaning after accidents? Does he feel pressure to take her so she won't be put down? (I had a similar situation, but family held dtheir ground and wouldn't take in a pet with extreme behavioral issues. Glad they don't feel guilty.)

He'd be very capable. He wouldn't take her if he didn't want her. Unlikely he will want her but he's all alone now so who knows.

It’s possible that her behavior would be better in a quieter setting.

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Anonymous wrote:Man, I was starting to see your side until I heard the reason the cat won't come out of your room is because you got a dog.... What a dumb thing to do.

Completely agree. Could you rehome the dog? You may have an easier time with a puppy or younger dog than with your older cat.

Doesn't make sense to rehome the dog - and dog serves pretty such as emotional support/therapy for a kid with serious challenges. Which was a big part of why we got the dog.

Cat will be euthanized unless my aging father in law wants to take her. I would trust him to care for her and he probably needs a pal.

Will he be able to keep up the cleaning after accidents? Does he feel pressure to take her so she won't be put down? (I had a similar situation, but family held dtheir ground and wouldn't take in a pet with extreme behavioral issues. Glad they don't feel guilty.)

He'd be very capable. He wouldn't take her if he didn't want her. Unlikely he will want her but he's all alone now so who knows.

It’s possible that her behavior would be better in a quieter setting.

+1

[Anonymous]

The cat would be more happy with a quiet adult owner (no kids, etc) like your FIL. Would try that and see what happens.

And the person calling for violence against OP because their at their wits end over a 16 year old cat needs to be permanently banned.